I want to understand how to be a better daddy?

[Ddstrongdom]

So my first ddlg relationship was one where I didn't even know it had a name but grew to enjoy certain facets of the relationship specifically as a caregiver and motivator. What I mean is while I am not sexually aroused by little play I like being a support figure for the little and helping them overcome. I like the optimism and playfulness In many ways I see it as me getting just as much out of the relationship since I desire the deep affection Little's have for their daddies. I guess what I'm asking is whether a daddy has to abide by certain things or if its an individual choice? Like what makes for a good daddy?

 

BTW the relationship I mentioned included some things like stuffed toys,cute talk, but not sip cups etc Also sorry if this question has been asked.

[Tinka]

How about you might like middles more than littles? 

10-16 age , not so much childish things. 

 

First think of what you like and what you dont. 

And then find a little / middle that is compatible to you.

 

No one can be the perfect daddy for ALL the littles/middles and no little/middle can be the perfect girl/boy for all the caregivers.

Each one of us likes something different.

Figure it out , and write it down so you can attract more specific little ones. The one that might interest you more according to the things you want.

Best of luck!

 

ps- as regards what makes a daddy great, there are other posts in this forum (search for them) where we have answered (including me) on what makes a daddy great in general.

But of course its always in the eye of the beholder. 

[Guest CollateralBeauty]

There is no one true way to be a Daddy/Little. Everyone is going to have their personal preferences. I would say the best thing to do is just do some research and figure out what you do and don't like and just try to find someone who has similar likes and dislikes as you.

 

This is one good post to refer to: No "True" Way

[LittleCelticLass]

Not all littles are into sippy cups, pacis and bottles, so it's okay your relationship didn't include those things. And not all DDlg/CGl relationships are sexual either, so it's okay if your partner's little space doesn't turn you on.

What makes a good Daddy, in my opinion, is loyalty, honesty, compassion, being trustworthy, and accepting. Ddlg doesn't have to be 24/7 either, so you might explore keeping Daddy/Little time non sexual, and making sure that both of you are in Adult space when engaging in sex, untill/unless it becomes something you both consent to.

[Ddstrongdom]

There is no one true way to be a Daddy/Little. Everyone is going to have their personal preferences. I would say the best thing to do is just do some research and figure out what you do and don't like and just try to find someone who has similar likes and dislikes as you.

 

This is one good post to refer to: No "True" Way

Thanks I have been trying to learn more about it, but it's such a massive community I'm glad I even found it. I hope that I can do as you said and upon consideration of what the other poster said I think middle is a much more similar thing of what I'm thinking.

[Guest Prat]

I guess what I'm asking is whether a daddy has to abide by certain things or if its an individual choice? Like what makes for a good daddy?

BTW the relationship I mentioned included some things like stuffed toys,cute talk, but not sip cups etc Also sorry if this question has been asked.

There is nothing set in stone when it comes to being a Daddy. Your Daddy mode is the extension of who you are as a person so it's completely individual.

As to what makes for a good Daddy, I guess just being a good person and a partner. Being yourself and always striving towards further developing yourself.

There's some general guidelines and of course things which fall under common sense and safety.

[Guest CollateralBeauty]

Thanks I have been trying to learn more about it, but it's such a massive community I'm glad I even found it. I hope that I can do as you said and upon consideration of what the other poster said I think middle is a much more similar thing of what I'm thinking.

 

Like anything else, this community is ever changing. There are plenty of people here who can help answer any questions you may have. If you'd like, you can always friend me and I'll be more than happy to try to answer any questions you may have. The chat is also a great place where you can ask any questions you may have.

[baby_k]

What other's have said and: self-awarness, knowing yourself.

I think good daddy is bit like a good manager, so maybe find arcticles about that.

Good manager knows how they work themselves and therefore don't act too random but can be consistent and direct, asking things they know they are gonna need.

Good manager inspires their employees and helps them to achive more, knows what the specific employee needs and what makes them tick, so they know how to approach different topics with them. As people are never the same, just like littles are individuals.

 

"A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves." - Lao Tzu