Brat tamer question

[SuperSoftMomDom]

I tend to be like R E A L L Y soft and all I wanna do is spoil my princess and such, but I know she's definitely a brat. I just don't know what to do or how to be a brat tamer lol

 

I can't tell if she's acting that way because she wants a punishment or not. The only punishment I have is just writing lines. Me and my princess aren't sexual and we've never done anything of the sort. It's long distance atm so I can't really do anything. She always says to me "and what are you going to do about it" and all I can say is make you write lines but I never do. Someone help me pleaaaase

[Alaskan Daddy]

It sounds like she wants you to set limits and for you to do something if she goes to far. Start with writing 10 lines and if she argues tell her you will add 5 lines if she does not stop arguing. You are correct to say that since it is an LDR relationship there is not much you can do. The thing that has always worked for me is a time-out. My little cherished our time together so much that all it took was a few time outs and then the threat of one corrected the behavior. You have to be strong. It will show her that you really care about her it will help her grow as a person. I hope this helps.

[Guest strawberry milk]

Hi! Long distance brat and overall rude shit here!

First off, have an open line of communication with your little. Ask her what reaction she wants when she’s acting up. Personally, when I act up, I want to be put in my place. But it is frustrating if there’s no clear place where I belong or I won’t be disciplined. My babysitter will first give me a warning, then he’ll give me another warning followed by what will happen if I don’t stop, then I’ll have to do whatever.

Some ideas for ldr punishments: standing in the corner; taking away privileges like pacifier, bottle, stuffie, etc.; if you’re out of your mind, a cold shower. Personally, I think the best part of being disciplined is being reasoned with. It makes me feel super little. Ask your little what her favorite part is!

And to finish this off, if your little wont stop saying “what are you gonna do about it” ask her what she wants from that. In the end of the day, being a brat is a roleplay. Play pretend. If she’s gonna break the game rules and ruin the immersion, that’s on her.

[SuperSoftMomDom]

Thank you so much guysss

[Guest SifuTheWolf]

From all that I have read and experienced brats usually act bratty for one reason, ATTENTION. When given enough (if there is such a thing) bratty behavior tends to reduce if not disappear completely. Then they might do it to see if you "really care" and to see if you are consistent. Forget about taming a brat, there is no such thing, brats are to be enjoyed and have fun with, think of it as mental swordplay. As far as punishments go, there are tons of things you can do, early bedtime, restrictions on use of electronics, sending her to the grocery store with a buttplug inserted, have her order desert at her favorite restaurant and make her leave it there without taking even one bite lololol, use your imagination, just try to be appropriate in your punishments/funishments vs. her transgressions. *special note* there is a difference between playfull brattiness and a wilfull act of disobedience, don't allow that. Edited December 3, 2018 by SifuTheWolf

[baby_k]

I'm bratty and don't like punishments at all. What I want/need is attention and also my partner to out smart me ( if possible ), like SifuTheWolf said.

 

So, at first my partner can try to beat me at "mental swordplay" which is played with words. It can be really fun and entertaining, and the goal can be just to have fun and make both laugh, not just about winning the "fight". Or goal might be to have excuse for funishments.

 

But sometimes it can be a lot deeper thing than just sharing a laugh. It can be about little wanting to have place where they are put back, so they feel safe ( this can happen either with outsmarting them or just going to punishments ). It can be about attention and you really seeing them. Or something different.

 

As obviously it is not always possible to win that "fight", with me at least one can take it to a different arena: "okay, I see you, clearly haven't got enough attention, you brat. I'm here and you are getting the attention you crave now. So, you got what you wanted, now stop that". For me that normally stops the tantrum kinda brattiness, and if it doesn't end it totally, makes it at least a lot more playful where I give the other person actual possibilities to either win or properly defend their position.

 

But ask your parner what kind of reaction they are looking for. Every little is different. Some really need punishments or "taiming", and some can be like me who would freak out if there was punishment as I would find it unnecessary use of force.

 

You might also have some clue about your little's wants if you think when they have seemed happy with your reactions and when their mood seems to shitf to more negative.