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We recently had a few topics about recognizing a false dominant, red flags and fake daddies. 

 

Well a question that randomly came to my mind is if there's fake littles as well?  :s

If yes, what are the signs and how do you recognize them? 

 

 

 

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i got a lot of examples but i will use only one, because i am sure people will not accept all the rest of mine, since i am harsh most of the time :p

 

so! ---> When a little asks you for money/gifts etc and in general she tends to try and milk the money out of you, then she is probably fake. 

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I don't think there's such a thing as a fake Daddy or little, just bad labeling.

 

For example what Tinka described would be a sugarbaby, that's not a fake little. An ideal partner for her would be a sugar Daddy, who is also not a fake Daddy.

 

When it comes to "fake" Daddies, I'd say that a person that's pretending to be a Daddy or a dominant to get themselves an "easy subby girl" for the sole purpose of fulfilling their own desires and needs without any regard for her as a person would be a good example of the term.

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Is there a definition term that is "Little?" People seem to believe that there is some sort of bible and religion which is Little/Which is Daddy/Which is Caregiver/etc................

 

Reality(!), there is no such thing but the idea shared between the people involved in the relationship. If one girl I know wants me to buy her clothes every week and listen to her whine about life and calls me Daddy, maybe I am Daddy. If another wants me to have sex with her 15 times a day and call me Daddy, maybe I am. If another wants me to literally treat her like she were a toddler unable to handle the slightest task without my helping hand, perhaps I am fitting some vague modern terminology.

 

Meanwhile people forget we are all just PEOPLE. :: shrugs :: I've seen kink for my entirety. I've seen various types of relationships as well, all varied and all their own names and idiosyncrasies. i.e. I once was UberGoth but I couldn't afford the clothes so I had like rip off items and stood up all night worshipping vampires, hanging out at graveyards and listening to dark ambient musics dreaming of death. But does that make me more Goth than gal that shops at Hot Topic and spends 50 grand a year on clothes and says I'm "Ubergoth," Not really since being Goth is not a real thing.(more imagined) It's a make believe thing.

 

It's a fairy tale. Perhaps much of life is a fairy tale. What are we all really, just what we mean to one another? And ourselves.......

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Guest parinaz
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i dont know about fake littles but a fake daddy is the guy who spanks you for whatever you do wrong or whenever you dont follow the rules

 

some people think being a daddy is just about spankies and punishments

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As Prat said: it is about preferences. Someones fake is other one's perfect.

 

Issues come when people either don't know who they are or are afraid to be honest about it.

Like dude not being honest that they just want one time hook up with easy sex where girl calls them daddy, and them claiming instead that they want to get married with the girl.

 

Borrow this idea from one person ( sorry and thanks ^_^ ): fake would be person pretending to be someone else and stealing their identity. So, Mathew claiming to be Claire from next door....

 

People may have lot to learn about the dynamics and/or how to make the dynamics healthy but ignorance still isn't being fake. It's just ignorance ( or selfishness sometimes ).

 

 

Edit: typo

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Guest DaddyDN
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Sure they post on Reddit all the time. Most usually post sexualized pictures so they can make money off snap subscriptions from horny guys.

 

I would consider another example to be someone that seeks constant validation and or gifts without giving genuine affection and love in return.

 

Daddys are not walking wallets. They shouldn't be anyway. I know I'm not.

Guest ~*~Sachita~*~
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I feel like I just posted this. We've only really had one topic similar to this on the site.

 

Red Flgs For Dominants: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16410-red-flags-for-dominants

 

Personally, I'm not a fan of the word fake. That word implies intentional deception and, honestly, I doubt most of the accused are smart enough to pull that off. Naive, uneducated, ill-informed, impulsive, or delusional littles? Yeah, those exist.

 

It seems like there are a lot of people attracted to the lifestyle because they think they can have all of the attention and cuddles and presents they want without any of the responsibility of an adult relationship.

 

I'm not a CG, so I'm not sure what they are looking for. It would be interesting to find out.

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LOL, this is role play in the first place.  It's ALL fake ... that's the whole point.  Find someone who wants to role play the way you like.  No need to make people good or bad.

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More lack of knowledge and understanding of the lifestyle rather than "fake", being there is such a large variation in how one person lives the lifestyle to another you can't paint all with the same brush. Though there are ones on both sides that have no actual interest in any part of the lifestyle and use it for malicious reasons or catfish people, it's all just about being vigilant and not rushing into anything and keeping yourself safe. 

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Personally, I'm not a fan of the word fake. That word implies intentional deception and, honestly, I doubt most of the accused are smart enough to pull that off. Naive, uneducated, ill-informed, impulsive, or delusional littles? Yeah, those exist.  It seems like there are a lot of people attracted to the lifestyle because they think they can have all of the attention and cuddles and presents they want without any of the responsibility of an adult relationship.

 

I came here to write this, but it turned out Sachita did it for me. :)  I'll add this: DDlg, like every other group, has inconsistent ideals that just can't stand up to scrutiny.  i.e we have a sticky in this particular sub-forum entitled, 'No "true" way'.  Goes without saying, at least to my mind, that if there is no right way and no wrong way, then you can't have fake little's or Daddy's.  

 

Who remembers Beth saying, "I mean, it's not like he's a hot girl. He can't just bail on his life and set up shop in someone else's." But that is exactly what many people do and what plenty on the other side enable because really, they're getting their sexual needs met and they have nothing better going on at the moment.

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