How can i introduce her to mdlg ?

[Balsam]

Edited November 25, 2018 by Balsam

[Guest Lithic]

A part of the problem is that she needs to know to consent to the dynamic. You can't trick her into it.

 

If she is naturally submissive and she behaves in a little manner, have a conversation with her about where you want the relationship to go. The thing you need to avoid is changing the dynamic without her consent and knowledge.

[Balsam]

A part of the problem is that she needs to know to consent to the dynamic. You can't trick her into it.

 

If she is naturally submissive and she behaves in a little manner, have a conversation with her about where you want the relationship to go. The thing you need to avoid is changing the dynamic without her consent and knowledge.

[Balsam]

A part of the problem is that she needs to know to consent to the dynamic. You can't trick her into it.

 

If she is naturally submissive and she behaves in a little manner, have a conversation with her about where you want the relationship to go. The thing you need to avoid is changing the dynamic without her consent and knowledge.

Thanks for helping me , actually , a should be brave enough to talk with her about mdlg , i mean she may think it's weird or it's disgusting im so scared

[Guest Lithic]

If she is interested in you, and you manifest a dominate personality and she manifests a submissive personality, and if you bring it up naturally in the conversation, she will be open to exploring it. A good way of making sure someone will be more open to a novel experience is to make sure their first contact with it is enjoyable. Ask ease her into the discussion and give her examples of why this is something good. The pet names, the taking care of her. Ask her if she likes it and how it makes you feel too.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Do you see anything wrong with your thought process and behavior?

[Balsam]

Do you see anything wrong with your thought process and behavior?

No , not at all

[Balsam]

[Guest Lithic]

Well, I was speaking from a more abstracted point of view. I mean that you need to talk to her so that she understands what it is you want. I would hazard a guess that you are not very experienced in being in the dominate position in general. Before you embark on the road to helping her accept her little or submissive space, we should discuss what it is that makes you feel you are ready for this responsibility.

 

For one thing, we (dominate partners) do not boss around or do what we want. We mold, guide and encourage our submissives and or littles. We help them become the best version of themselves. We earn the respect and submission that is given to us. Have you taken the time to learn about what she wants and who she is?

[Balsam]

Well, I was speaking from a more abstracted point of view. I mean that you need to talk to her so that she understands what it is you want. I would hazard a guess that you are not very experienced in being in the dominate position in general. Before you embark on the road to helping her accept her little or submissive space, we should discuss what it is that makes you feel you are ready for this responsibility.

 

For one thing, we (dominate partners) do not boss around or do what we want. We mold, guide and encourage our submissives and or littles. We help them become the best version of themselves. We earn the respect and submission that is given to us. Have you taken the time to learn about what she wants and who she is?

Yup im not that experienced but I've been in a real mdlg relationship for only two weeks that means it's not that long to get the real experience . Anyways ,I'm with my current gf since 4 months but that's a good period of time to Know each other . For now , we have some lil struggles to communicate for long hours like before cause we both have school + my country is really far from hers (6hours between us) but that doesn't mean that we don't text each other , to be honest , we try to interact with each other even if it's only 15 mins every day

[Guest Lithic]

Well, okay. That isn't really the issue. Experience is important in terms of knowing how to handle different sets of iterated problems that occur. It is also important to develop your personality as it is manifested with others, socially. The underlying issue is how dominate are you. By dominate I don't mean how aggressive, bossy or authoritative you are (alpha males aren't dominate because of 'power' but because of being pro-social and good at interpersonal relationships, management, and problem solving skills: competence). Like I said, dominate partners don't want power, they want to guide, lead and Foster their littles or submissive.

 

Take the time to get to know all of her, inside and out. And figure out what you can do to lead and guide her and see if you have earned the gift of her submission and respect.

[Balsam]

Well, okay. That isn't really the issue. Experience is important in terms of knowing how to handle different sets of iterated problems that occur. It is also important to develop your personality as it is manifested with others, socially. The underlying issue is how dominate are you. By dominate I don't mean how aggressive, bossy or authoritative you are (alpha males aren't dominate because of 'power' but because of being pro-social and good at interpersonal relationships, management, and problem solving skills: competence). Like I said, dominate partners don't want power, they want to guide, lead and Foster their littles or submissive.

 

Take the time to get to know all of her, inside and out. And figure out what you can do to lead and guide her and see if you have earned the gift of her submission and respect.

I'm really thankful for your help ^^ I'll try my best to know her more and surely there'll be a result , thank u again

[Guest Lithic]

Alright. Good luck!

[Balsam]

Alright. Good luck!

✌

[Guest Aetherr]

you cant make anyone anything, if they are interested then great but if not it would be unfair to attempt to coerce just introduce your potential little to things slow and keep reminding her that what she does makes her seem little there is no rule book and make sure to respect her limits if you want this to be fun for her you need to show her how much you enjoy it and help her see the fun too

[LittleCelticLass]

No , not at all

Speaking as a little, it worries me that you would even consider trying to "make" your girlfriend into a little without her consent, And it worries me even more that you see nothing wrong with your thought process. Consent is MANDATORY. I suggest you do some more research, so that you know what the dynamic is actually about. Maybe even tell her you've discovered something, and would like to learn about it together.

[Balsam]

Speaking as a little, it worries me that you would even consider trying to "make" your girlfriend into a little without her consent, And it worries me even more that you see nothing wrong with your thought process. Consent is MANDATORY. I suggest you do some more research, so that you know what the dynamic is actually about. Maybe even tell her you've discovered something, and would like to learn about it together.

I don't want to make her a little , i don't wanna force her into it , i even said that . What i want is to make her feel comfortable as much as i can . And thanks for your suggestion

[LittleCelticLass]

I don't want to make her a little , i don't wanna force her into it , i even said that . What i want is to make her feel comfortable as much as i can . And thanks for your suggestion

You actually did say that you wanted to make her a little, before you edited your post.

If you truly want to make her feel comfortable, open honest communication is key. Talk to her, and let her make her own choices. As said before, you must earn her submission.

[princess_scarlett]

hihi! I've been in a 3 year mdlg relationship and we started out long distance so maytbe I can be of help? :0 maybe try asking her if she's into sub/dom relationships first and if she'd be happy to try that out?? if she says she likes that and is comfortable with that maybe then you can ask her abt mdlg?

 

or u could just straight up tell her what's been on your mind, say that you'd like to try that out if she wants to, but she doesn't have to participate if she's not comfortable, just tell her it just to get it out in the open rather than just in ur mind! <3 cos u can't just keep it to urself that must suck! even if she's not a little or says no, it would be good if it's out in the open and u guys can talk it out and see what u can do abt it!!