Trigger Warning: Self harm issues (Insecurities)

[AngelLove]

I’ve started getting extremely insecure again, I’ve been too busy to see my therapist and now struggling. I’m talking to someone and they’re an amazing person but they’re talking to others, which isn’t that big of a deal, we’re not serious or anything, but I’ve started feeling so insecure, I’ve started self harming really badly again and it sucks because I was really doing good, it’s winter time so I’m covered all the time so I’ve started hurting myself all over my body. I know it’s bad and I want to stop but I just feel so ugly all the time, I can’t help it. I know all the alternatives and such but lately nothing’s helping, I just feel so scared and alone and insecure about myself. I’m insecure about my body and my personality, I just want to be liked but I feel like no matter what I do it’s impossible for people to like me, uGh I don’t know what I’m looking for, I guess I just needed to talk? I don’t know

[Tinka]

As a self - harming person in the past (13 y.o) i must be straight up with you. No sugar coating for you.

 

What are you doing to your self? Punishing you for what? For someone you don`t know? 

Tomorrow you will reach a point where you will harm yourself because the baker forgot to tell you good morning and this made you feel ugly?

what is this for a logic? 

I get the frustration, us little girls grew up believing there is only one freaking princess in the castle, one freaking princess for one freaking prince.

And i know this f.....ing belief is haunting our every step, decision,emotion in life in more ways we could possibly think of. 

But reach a point where you would scar yourself ? NO.

 

First and foremost, don`t make excuses to not go to your therapist. You are in CLEAR NEED for an appointment!  

You see that you had a step back and started self harassment...

You got time to enter the site,time to think about making a thread for it,time to  write it, post it, and talk probably with that man, but you do not have time to invest to save your self from ...yourself?? Do you really want us to believe this? Did you also make yourself believe this?

You know that in suck situations, the self is creating excuses to not go and seek help/treatment , yes?

You know this is one of the cases, when you got a clear part of you being your enemy, yes?

Pick up the phone, make an appointment with your therapist, and be real. Say everything.

 

 

Secondly, remove yourself from situations that would cause your bad side to be triggered. 

If this man likes to talk to other littles then maybe he hasnt found what he is looking for, or he is one of those who just wants all the friends. etc

Either continue talking normally, or express your feelings to him, or let it go girl !

You are choosing the worst of these options, the option to sit , be miserable for absolutely no reason, WITHOUT HAVING TRIED ANOTHER SOLUTION TO HELP YOURSELF.

 

Ugly??

are you loosing your hair?

your teeth?

are you growing a beard from excessive amounts of testosterone?

are you missing skin from a disease?

are you smelling like a dumbster?

I dont think so. I think you are fucking beautiful. 

I think you need to start working on seeing that. 

There are SO MANY SYNDROMES and health problems that trully turn people into monsters, but if you see them they still need love , and friendship and all the good and positive emotions in this world. They still fight even if they are turning into an elephant or wood, or statue, or fish that sheds burnt skin etc. 

Open youtube, see them... See how they struggle. Learn a lesson or two about self love and development. 

You are not ugly. You just wanna be blind.

 

To sum up. Do not seek attention/advice from anyone who is not a professional at this point of your regression. 

Say everything to your therapist, help them help you. 

If he/she is not good, change therapist! If you feel they don`t do their work , change them. 

But go help yourself.

Dont you EVER scar yourself again.

[Guest Aetherr]

I’ve started getting extremely insecure again, I’ve been too busy to see my therapist and now struggling. I’m talking to someone and they’re an amazing person but they’re talking to others, which isn’t that big of a deal, we’re not serious or anything, but I’ve started feeling so insecure, I’ve started self harming really badly again and it sucks because I was really doing good, it’s winter time so I’m covered all the time so I’ve started hurting myself all over my body. I know it’s bad and I want to stop but I just feel so ugly all the time, I can’t help it. I know all the alternatives and such but lately nothing’s helping, I just feel so scared and alone and insecure about myself. I’m insecure about my body and my personality, I just want to be liked but I feel like no matter what I do it’s impossible for people to like me, uGh I don’t know what I’m looking for, I guess I just needed to talk? I don’t know

 

 

what tinka said, all of what tinka said, you know there is a problem so why do you put yourself through it.. you deserve better no matter what that evil side of you tell you or what anyone says. everyone is entitled to happiness and self love and you need to stop making excuses for why you cant pursue that! you are worth more i know it and you know it and all the people recovering from self harm know it you need to find happiness in yourself

[Tinka]

by the way, i wanna add something more, and i do it in a new post, so you can see it.--->

 

For some reason i cant see your photo, its bugged so i didn`t understand who you are at first.

Now that i remembered who you are, i wanted you to know that from the moment i saw you i said to myself 

''i wish i was beautiful as her'' . 

To me you are freaking beautiful. 

I hope it matters at least a little bit. 

I am not saying it so that you can give us a smile, and i am not ashamed to say it, that at least for me, you are easily spotted in the ddlg crowd because you are beautiful. (#no homo, as we say in 9gag) 

So yea. Please try. 

[Nathalie]

Hi, I used to self harm. It's a terrible compulsion/addiction, especially since it really does bring relief, at least in the moment. Please get back to regular appointments with your therapist. What also helped me was DBT skills, and also texting trusted friends when I felt the need to cut, people who I could text "I really feel like cutting right now" without them freaking out. Even better was when I picked up the phone, but I know how freaking hard that is.

 

Anyway, you aren't bad or wrong for wanting to hurt yourself this way. You are human and you are in pain, and it makes sense to want to alleviate that pain. Just try to remember there are other, healthier ways of finding relief ... Perhaps write down a list of reasons why you don't want to cut even though it might feel good in the moment.

xo

[babygirlG430]

I know this am “old” post, however, I too struggle with self harm. And haven’t done it since summer.....I’d gone a really long time before that, it’s hard. What helped me after my relapsebwas finding ONE friend I could say “I want to cut” to, and they’d talk me down. I’m not going to lie.....the last time Daddy saw them, he was furious, and said what he had to to be able to get through to me. I haven’t done it since. I’ve wanted to many many times......I text that friend, and I think of Daddy’s words.