New daddy needing some advice

[littlenick]

What should you do if your little girl is talking to another caregiver and is going places with him while you are at work? Edited November 22, 2018 by littlenick

[Little-one-xo]

If you are not comfortable with it, you should talk to her about it. It makes my Daddy uncomfortable if I talk to other Daddies, which I understand, so I have a rule of no talking to other Daddies (giving advice publicly on the forum doesn't count). Calmly explain why you feel the way you do and obviously you only feel this way cause you care. If you both just talk (both in an adult headspace) I'm sure she would be able to understand, and at the very least reassure you. 

I'm sure you two could even leave feeling better and closer. 

[Guest Prat]

What should you do if your little girl is talking to another caregiver and is going places with him while you are at work?

You should talk to her about it...

Tell her if you're not comfortable with it.. Ask her what their relationship is and if they are just friends and such...

[Tinka]

I might sound like a bitch and i apologize if i offend you in any way. But if something like that happens to you and you do not know how to react, 

then i see this--->

 

A brat on the loose, disrespecting everything and a lost powerless daddy trying to chase her and asking for the help of others in matters that got OBVIOUS options.

Tame your brat, or loose her.

 

1) is it true or is it her lie to make you feel jealous? (you`d be surprised my friend...)

2) Shame on that other caregiver.... Do you happen to know him ? i mean is he from this site?

3) Shame to your little.Rregardless of our ''pretending'' of being little kids, we also got the common sense of an adult. So either she is the most mindless, heartless,careless person in the world (which i doubt) or she simply doesn`t care. About you, your emotions, your relationship, your authority.

She cares only about whether her @$$ will have a nice time, by going out for walks with other people who can be potentially intruding your personal affairs. 

Imagine, you would be trying to work while your mind is being tortured of what could she probably do with that other guy at that moment...!

its freaking hell, man. Not you , not anyone deserves it. 

 

 

Daddy or not, your partner shouldn`t disrespect you like that, and if they would, then you shouldn`t be wondering of what should you do.

 

You can ask questions, you can listen to her side (because there is still a chance that what they got is a pure friendship because that person is in a time of need),

and you weight her words.

If the impression in the end is not good, and your guts are still alerting you , either talk about it, step up and put some boundaries, 

or let this relationship go. 

Edited November 22, 2018 by Tinka

[Guest Avi]

yeah i had a girlfriend (not ddlg but same situation) she would go out with another guy (i was totally cool with male friends) but she did it in secret and acted veeery defensive about it, all the while she absolutely despised it when i would hang out with a purely platonic female friend. if i were in your shoes, i wouldnt bat my eyes about the gender of whoever she's with, but since its a caregiver... red flag buddy. red flag.

[APTX]

Depends what kind of relationship you guys have, having taking a peek at your posts, it gives me the impression it may be poly or something that is more open, or that you guys entered in a relationship (rushed state) without prior discussing ground rules, limits, and stuff regarding the relationship.

Despite that, there's always a chance of jealousy to surface in those kind of relationships as well, no matter how open they are, hence why communication is still vital.

 

Sit down and communicate. Express how you feel, listen to hers and see whether or not you guys can fix it or it's better to break it off. Best of luck!

[Guest SifuTheWolf]

Every relationship/dynamic is different, I personally wouldn't stand for such a thing.