Submitting to daddy

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

I want to fully submit to my daddy but I'm having issues. Theres something he wants me to do to be fully submissive but I'm not comfortable doing it. Any advice?

[Guest SenpaiPleaseNoticeMe]

Listen to your gut. If you’re fully comfortable that might mean you might be comfortable in the future but not right now. See if they are willing to agree to that. A good partner shouldn’t pressure you to do what they want.

 

I’ve had a partner who was kinky and into extremely dark topics. He never pushed his kinks onto me or made me feel uncomfortable. He was attentive to my needs and providing me a safe place to grow by stopping in the middle of sessions to check up on me or at the end providing aftercare. Most of all, he made sure we could stop at any time I wanted to. There were some moments I felt poorly but communicated it to him and was taken care of.

 

He built me up and I continued to dive deeper into his darkness. I began to be where he wanted and that was because he let me set the pace and was there to guide me every step of the way. I wouldn’t have been able to do all those dark things on day 1 or even 10. It takes time and a Dominant should understand that.

 

If your daddy doesn’t understand that or wants you to fully submit right now, he should either be willing to build you up to that until you are comfortable or move on.

[Guest Aetherr]

yeah, i have some advice.. tell him you are not comfortable doing it and have a discussions about it..

[junebug0325]

Just because you aren't comfortable now doesn't mean you won't be in the future. That is, as your relationship grows, trust can form over time and you can become closer to your partner. My best advice: have an open discussion about it. A good caretaker will be sensitive to your needs and not pressure you into doing something you aren't comfortable with. 

 

If you would like to talk personally, feel free to direct message me.

 

Hope this helps!

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Advice: use your big boy words.

 

"I'm not comfortable with that."

 

"That is a hard limit for me."

 

"I do not feel ready for that and I may never be. Can we try something else to build my confidence?"

[Guest]

Did you want to fully submit to him in the first place before you knew whatever he is now asking and after learning what he wants you to do. Has your relationship been built up enough for the type task he wants you to complete?

 

As other have said you can always easy into it, but be honest with yourself. If its an absolute no for you do not pacify him with talk of the future. You have a right to say you won't do something, you don't need to full submit to him, you only want to. Know your limits, both soft and hard then talk to him.

[Guest Lazerspewpewpew]

Did you want to fully submit to him in the first place before you knew whatever he is now asking and after learning what he wants you to do. Has your relationship been built up enough for the type task he wants you to complete?

 

As other have said you can always easy into it, but be honest with yourself. If its an absolute no for you do not pacify him with talk of the future. You have a right to say you won't do something, you don't need to full submit to him, you only want to. Know your limits, both soft and hard then talk to him.

 

Ultimately, that. 

 

But keep your head up! 

[Mario]

You may discuss to find something to do as a short try, with a safeword, a serious feed-back after, which is acceptable for you and him. Step by step.

 

According to me, a little is precious enough to accept some frustration, instead of taking the risk to hurt her and loose him/her. People who don't care may have lied about their needs and will never fit with yours.

 

There is a big difference between a man happy see you doing your very best whatever he gets, and a man forcing you to be the sub he wanted but you wasn't.

Edited November 21, 2018 by Mario