Opinions before and after entering the community

[Daxter]

 

As a lot of you know, a lot of people find out about being little after searching for community's, has your opinion about ddlg (in general) changed before you entered the community? What changed with your experience? Share it with everyone!

[Guest Lithic]

What a great question, buddy! Well, I know that when I was a younger man I wasn't too sure I would be into it, or comfortable with the lifestyle. When I was told I seemed more like a Daddy Dom by more than a few people, I decided it might behoove me to check it out... I think the dynamic is much more emotional and mental than in other lifestyle nested in the BDSM framework, and I think this is where I belong.

[Daxter]

Fank you so much! And fanks for answering! 

Really? That's so interesting, I have not actually seen anyone saying that someone seems like a Daddy Dom or even Little

Uhm uhm, I do have to agree on that, at the same time you are able to remove the sexual part and still have a stable relationship which I believe it's harder on other "parts" of the BDSM category as a whole

[Koala]

Like Lithic said, great question! I used to cast a pretty judgemental eye on the community, to be perfectly honest. "Enforcing oppressive power structures" etc., I was THAT person. I went on a hate binge one night and watched a bunch of DDlg videos. After that, I slowly came to realize that I was so bitter not because the community disgusted me, but because I had a repressed little side and I hated myself. All that to say that as I involved myself in the community, I saw how amazing it can be. I still have some doubts, but I think they're healthy doubts, for once.

[Daxter]

I believe everyone will always have some doubts about anything at some point (as long it's healthy), specially about something that, well, it's popular but at the same time not explicit enough to show everyone its own reality

 

It's funny to see that story which seems like a story out of pure imagination it's actually true hehehe It's really great to see that your opinion changed and that you feel better without closing and ignoring this side of yours

 

 

I also was a little bit like you, but instead of intrigued I was curious, curious how it was possible the happiness to both sides where obviously one was taking more advantage or having a better outcome than the other, losing power, freedom, respect.. it just made no sense to me, but a few years passed and it changed

 

Fank you so much for participating ;3

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I worked in social services for years and approached everything from a psych point of view.. I honestly thought Littles were just people with very poor coping skills. I thought they were using age regression to avoid addressing serious mental issues. I have been a sub for a long time but deep down always felt like I just didn't fit in completely with other domestic subs in my community. I have always been childlike and always just summed it up to being quirky. After a ton of research I discovered kitten play and dived head first and LOVED it.. exploring my little side seemed like a good next step and I never looked back. My opinion has kinda changed however I do still believe that there's a lot of Littles who use Little space to escape issues they should absolutely be addressing but i know now it's the exception and not the rule. This forum has not only given me friendships with amazing peple but also taught me a lot about what it means to be little and embrace that part of myself. Also.. Daddy Doms are the sexiest thing in the world. 

[Daxter]

I worked in social services for years and approached everything from a psych point of view.. I honestly thought Littles were just people with very poor coping skills. I thought they were using age regression to avoid addressing serious mental issues. I have been a sub for a long time but deep down always felt like I just didn't fit in completely with other domestic subs in my community. I have always been childlike and always just summed it up to being quirky. After a ton of research I discovered kitten play and dived head first and LOVED it.. exploring my little side seemed like a good next step and I never looked back. My opinion has kinda changed however I do still believe that there's a lot of Littles who use Little space to escape issues they should absolutely be addressing but i know now it's the exception and not the rule. This forum has not only given me friendships with amazing peple but also taught me a lot about what it means to be little and embrace that part of myself. Also.. Daddy Doms are the sexiest thing in the world. 

Fank you so much for participating c:

I have found a lot of littles that use littlespace or even kittyspace (don't ask) to get out of any situation that revolves around mental issues making them uncapable of dealing with something in their lives. In the same way, as for you, it changed your opinion at least your POV of what Littles were and that's very cute :3

I have also found lots of friends here, it just feels so good

(Agree shuashuashuash, also, your quote "Hold your head up Princess or your tiara will fall" has such a history I hope you know it because it's one of the most comedy moments in brazil history)

[Firelight]

I was SUPER nervous at first, and still kinda am, but I'm nervous about everything

[Guest parinaz]

i like this topic and im sure its gonna help a lot if daddy/mommy/littles to find out who they are

 

i didnt know it exists at first and when i found out about ddlg at first i was nervous and worried

i wasnt sure if it is what i really want but i tiued it anyway

 

now im absolutely sure its my thing i shouldve tried it way earlier

now i am definietly happier and i know its the lifestyle i always wanted

 

i suggest all the people who are not sure about it just give it a try

 

youre either into it ( so youre gonna love it ) or youre not into it ( you dont loose anything anyway )

[Nathalie]

I honestly didn't give it much thought until recently as a subset of BDSM that I had a fleeting sexual interest in or experience with: like I found I super responded to being called "babygirl" during sex and responding with "Daddy." I don't think I was ready to delve deeper into it, so there is probably a good reason it was on the fringes of my awareness. Like another poster said, now that I am beginning to grapple with it as a dynamic that I am drawn to beyond the heat of the moment, I find it MUCH more emotional and mental a dynamic than anything else in the kink/BDSM world that I have experimented with or played with, except perhaps ANR.  

 

I DO worry that the dynamic sets itself up as a perfect way for predatory older people to prey on naive young people (or just predators and the naive/sick and suffering, doesn't necessarily have to be an age difference). I am probably projecting, but it's like by identifying as people who are drawn to the dynamic, we are offering up our most vulnerable buttons to anyone who feels like pushing them. 

 

xo

[XmochiX]

Honestly, when I first found out about DDlg, I was completely bewildered and turned off by it. Then I realized that that was because I am a little and didn't want to admit to it. I've never had real friends before due to my mental illnesses and my littlenesses, and I somehow managed to convince myself that that was ok.

But since I have admitted to myself that I am a little, I feel a sense of belonging and community, and actually have some real friends by my said. Not everyone understands it, and that's sad. But, honestly, I can't imagine my life without this lifestyle and community.

Edited December 21, 2018 by XmochiX

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

I usually am a mature person, but i was acting kind of weird when i was, and i was looking for what a friend would do for me since she would get me out of my head by making me not only call her mistress but carry things for her, small things that she could do to me in public to help me with my stress. When my health declined and i was taken out of school it stopped and i was looking for what was happening to me then. how she was able to help me like that. and that was how i found out i was a sub. but that still did not explain everything that happened with me and her and i found out about DDLG, and i freaked out because i was scared that i was not only a sub but a little as well. and that scared me and still somewhat scares me to this day and to this day i still do not know why it scares me. but for one i would not give this lifestyle up. 

[vbee]

For awhile I was also someone who judged CGL harshly. I thought it was something that like, meant the people involved were unhealthily coping or using it as a funnel for trauma in a bad way. Then Em and I started making jokes because DDLG became prominent in society as like, something known and discussed. So I’d jokingly call her Daddy. We’ve always had a D/s relationship so I already had subspace which I know is a LITTLE different from little space for me, but. One time we were being intimate and I don’t know why but my brain spat the word Daddy out when I was begging and. Well. She and I were SO surprised by how much we liked how that sounded and felt. Then we realized our relationship was ALREADY CGL and we just didn’t have nomenclature for it. Being involved in it directly and learning all the things we used to criticize were in most cases WRONG opened our eyes alot.