Advice on long distance punishment aftercare

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

My daddy and I are long distance and have trouble with aftercare after punishments. Any advice or suggestions?

[Guest Lithic]

Well, aftercare is important to get right. It depends a lot on what it is that was given as punishment. For one thing, a lot of time needs to be allotted for talking out what happened, how you feel, what was being taught and what you learned. Also, punishments are about correcting behavior and giving you guidance or direction to the desired behavior. For example, I usually assign writings, time outs, or lines. I usually then, explain what they did that I didn't like, and suggest a behavior I will accept and ask if that is doable or acceptable. I ask her if she understands and if she accepts that her punishment is earned, and that she submits to the suggestion. She would usually be in a little state of mind and I will soothe her and initiate a game or make her laugh and distract her.

 

I hope that helps.   

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

That is helpful thank you!