I'm a true brat

[Littlebrat]

My daddy and I are new to this. We've kind of discussed me giving myself to him completely. I have such a hard time doing that and I dont know why. I love the idea of being all about him and having him dom me. But I give him such attitude and disrespect.. I want to be a good little. But for some reason I cant wrap my brain around it.. he said he gives me 2 days before my mindset changes again.. how do I keep it my brain to stay a little with my daddy and stop being so bratty..

[lilbabykittty]

I can't really say I have this problem but I am going to say that you shouldn't try and force yourself to be completely submissive. If you're a brat at heart then what you may need in your life is a brat tamer..idk just my thoughts

[Littlebrat]

But I dont want to be a brat I want to be a good little for daddy. I enjoy the thought of being taken care of being told what to do and how to act. But I disrespect my daddy and now I've ruined his trust I just want to stay a little. And do everything he says

[Quirkygrl16]

I struggle with this too.

. It sucks

[Littlebrat]

I struggle with this too.

. It sucks

How do you deal with it?

[Quirkygrl16]

How do you deal with it?

we have a lot of talks... he knows its something that we have to learn to work with. Lately we have been trying timeouts in a corner.. which sucks..but we will see if it helps

[baby_k]

But I dont want to be a brat I want to be a good little for daddy. I enjoy the thought of being taken care of being told what to do and how to act. But I disrespect my daddy and now I've ruined his trust I just want to stay a little. And do everything he says

 

Few questions:

 * you can't be taken care, do what he says if you are a brat?

 * how it is ruining trust to be a brat?

 * how you can't stay as a little if you brat?

 

I'm not sure what you really want in your relationship, what thoughts are your own and what come directly from your daddy.

 

Because I'm a brat. Not all the time but a lot. I find it entertaining, and my partners have found it entertaining. Sometimes sure, it can maybe be bit annoying but my partners have accepted me as I am and it has never been an issue ( even those rels might have had other issues ). It just has meant I need bit more care and attention on those occasions when the brattiness is more about pouting or expressing that I don't feel good. Some other people maybe would express it other way but the negative feelings would still be there and those need to be taken care of anyhow.

 

Also, I need to be bratty in order to respect my partner. I don't brat on strangers really, I only do it when I feel safe and that there is some sort of good relationship going on. So, when I brat, it is sort of expression of trust: I trust he can take it, I trust he is not leaving even I don't behave perfectly, I want him to laugh or at least smile to my mischief. I also need to see that he can handle it. Honestly speaking I would get mentally really bored if I can't sometimes sort of annoy my partner and see what happens. But I never mean any ill with it and my partners have always known it. It is just a game we both enjoy to play ( or in some rare occasions: my way of telling that not all is okay ).

 

Why I tell you this? Because I want you to think WHY you brat. How it makes you feel? What would be best out come in those situations? How you wish your daddy to react? Is something bothering you there? Do you wish him to outsmart you? Punish you? Is that just your way of avoiding something as you are not actually comfortable to just do whatever he says? Do you really trust him?

 

I also didn't get what you meant with "he gives me two days...."?

 

I might be totally wrong but the vibe I get from your text is that he requires absolute obedience and maybe has made you believe you need to give that ( not true ). Of course could be that you actually are really hurtful towards him and it is not just about obedience. But then you really need to think why you do it. People always have a reason even it can often be hard to know it even ourselves.

[Nyo]

Being a brat shouldn't be something to be ashemed off, and it's not because you are a brat that you're less of a good little. The fact that I'm a brat makes my Daddy happier because he loves telling me how to behave, punishing me when i don't and rewarding me when i do. You're a little, having the "perfect" behavior shouldn't be expected. Explain to your Daddy that is part of you and if he's a good caregiver he will accept it and you two can work with it!

Love from a brat at heart 

[SmartAssLittle]

.. he said he gives me 2 days before my mindset changes again..

ROFL

[Littlebrat]

Few questions:

* you can't be taken care, do what he says if you are a brat?

* how it is ruining trust to be a brat?

* how you can't stay as a little if you brat?

 

I'm not sure what you really want in your relationship, what thoughts are your own and what come directly from your daddy.

 

Because I'm a brat. Not all the time but a lot. I find it entertaining, and my partners have found it entertaining. Sometimes sure, it can maybe be bit annoying but my partners have accepted me as I am and it has never been an issue ( even those rels might have had other issues ). It just has meant I need bit more care and attention on those occasions when the brattiness is more about pouting or expressing that I don't feel good. Some other people maybe would express it other way but the negative feelings would still be there and those need to be taken care of anyhow.

 

Also, I need to be bratty in order to respect my partner. I don't brat on strangers really, I only do it when I feel safe and that there is some sort of good relationship going on. So, when I brat, it is sort of expression of trust: I trust he can take it, I trust he is not leaving even I don't behave perfectly, I want him to laugh or at least smile to my mischief. I also need to see that he can handle it. Honestly speaking I would get mentally really bored if I can't sometimes sort of annoy my partner and see what happens. But I never mean any ill with it and my partners have always known it. It is just a game we both enjoy to play ( or in some rare occasions: my way of telling that not all is okay ).

 

Why I tell you this? Because I want you to think WHY you brat. How it makes you feel? What would be best out come in those situations? How you wish your daddy to react? Is something bothering you there? Do you wish him to outsmart you? Punish you? Is that just your way of avoiding something as you are not actually comfortable to just do whatever he says? Do you really trust him?

 

I also didn't get what you meant with "he gives me two days...."?

 

I might be totally wrong but the vibe I get from your text is that he requires absolute obedience and maybe has made you believe you need to give that ( not true ). Of course could be that you actually are really hurtful towards him and it is not just about obedience. But then you really need to think why you do it. People always have a reason even it can often be hard to know it even ourselves.

Well honestly a lot has gone on in our relationship. We've been together 5 years. I haven't been the most truthful or honoring little girl that I should have been. I have disobeyed and lied to him before. I deeply regret it. Now I have to build up his trust again. And I guess it's not necessarily being a brat as more of my ego getting in the way. I guess I would like to be more of a brat and be cute about it. I'm ugly about how I react to daddy. And I guess I would like him to punish me still in those times. He doesn't necessarily feel comfortable to because of the living situation we are in, so my brattyness goes untamed in a way. And it escalates. I guess how do I keep in the mindset of being cute when I want to brat? And because of our relationships history he does want me to give complete obedience. And I completely understand and agree with him that it would be the better course of action to help start fixing our relationship. And the thing with him giving me 2 days was his way of saying that he feels like I should just give up on the relationship because he doesnt think I'm capable of complete obedience and I really want to be. Because I know it won't be forever. But previous stated. It would really benefit our relationship at this point.

[Littlebrat]

Being a brat shouldn't be something to be ashemed off, and it's not because you are a brat that you're less of a good little. The fact that I'm a brat makes my Daddy happier because he loves telling me how to behave, punishing me when i don't and rewarding me when i do. You're a little, having the "perfect" behavior shouldn't be expected. Explain to your Daddy that is part of you and if he's a good caregiver he will accept it and you two can work with it!

Love from a brat at heart

He said hes ok with a little bit of brat. But with our current living situation he cant really punish me like we would like. So my brattyness goes untamed and then my ego gets in the way and it gets out of hand..

[baby_k]

Okay, so in reality this is not really about you being a brat. This is about really severe issues you are facing in your relationship.

 

So, if I have understood correctly: your daddy has asked you to be totally obedient for awhile because he feels he needs to to start gaining trust in you and that would help?

 

There is, imo, two things you need to consider:

 * are you really good fit in long run if you are really bratty and he is more into really obedient littles? Are you having different ideas on what ideal relationship looks like?

 * is your real issue trust? What are the actual ways you can fix that? What he asks may seem like reasonable idea for him but I would say it is just some thing he has invented and hopes to help. Will it really help? Maybe, maybe not. Imo you need more work into gaining the broken trust.

 

 

Not knowing what you have done, it is also bit hard to comment on what you could do now.

 

 

 

Edit: hups, I pressed send before even writing this XP

Edited November 15, 2018 by baby_k

[Littlebrat]

Okay, so in reality this is not really about you being a brat. This is about really severe issues you are facing in your relationship.

 

So, if I have understood correctly: your daddy has asked you to be totally obedient for awhile because he feels he needs to to start gaining trust in you and that would help?

 

There is, imo, two things you need to consider:

* are you really good fit in long run if you are really bratty and he is more into really obedient littles? Are you having different ideas on what ideal relationship looks like?

* is your real issue trust? What are the actual ways you can fix that? What he asks may seem like reasonable idea for him but I would say it is just some thing he has invented and hopes to help. Will it really help? Maybe, maybe not. Imo you need more work into gaining the broken trust.

 

 

Not knowing what you have done, it is also bit hard to comment on what you could do now.

 

 

 

Edit: hups, I pressed send before even writing this XP

I think it seems reasonable. Right now I dont have anything to do for myself accept take care of our daughter. So I have the time and capacity to give him everything he needs and wants. And I did private things with other people on a break we had so I have been telling him everyone I talk to and what we are talking about. Which helps. But we've both agreed to complete obedience, I just have a hard time

[baby_k]

I would suggest seeing a professional: couples counsellor could help you with your situation. Specially as you have a child together, so would be good to get things sorted between you two. The issues you have are not about the dynamic, so you can leave that out.

 

If you had break, it often means you can have sex etc with others, unless you agreed something else. Obviously it can still hurt even if you had not sayind you are being monogamous.

 

You both agreeing on something does not mean it is the key to actually get your things sorted. Also, you seem to struggle a lot with the obedience, so not sure you should go and promase total obedience as it does not seem to be natural to you. It's never a good idea to go against ones real character and personality, you can't do that forever as you either will explode at some point, stop loving your daddy or get depressed.

 

Being stay at home mom does not mean you have capacity to change your personality. You may have time to clean the house, cook and do groceries but that's about it.

 

This is just quessing but you don't want to loose your relationship and therefore are going on bargain over stuff you "can" do. Even in reality you can't do those things. That is not stable and good foundation to build a lasting relationship.

 

The issues you have, are not some minor hiccups, so, again: I strongly recomend seeing some sort of professional. Most people are not able to sort that big problems by themselves, and they don't need to. That's why you have the professionals, so you can ask help, tips and so on.

[SamL]

Why I tell you this? Because I want you to think WHY you brat. How it makes you feel? What would be best out come in those situations? How you wish your daddy to react? Is something bothering you there? Do you wish him to outsmart you? Punish you? Is that just your way of avoiding something as you are not actually comfortable to just do whatever he says? Do you really trust him?

 

I might be totally wrong but the vibe I get from your text is that he requires absolute obedience and maybe has made you believe you need to give that ( not true ). Of course could be that you actually are really hurtful towards him and it is not just about obedience. But then you really need to think why you do it. People always have a reason even it can often be hard to know it even ourselves.

 

The difference between knowledge and wisdom is that wisdom is portable.  In other words, what year did Columbus 'discover' America?  Knowing this will not help you answer other questions.  "I want you to think  WHY..." is wisdom and it is portable to almost every problem you'll ever encounter.  Well said baby_k.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Also, I need to be bratty in order to respect my partner. I don't brat on strangers really, I only do it when I feel safe and that there is some sort of good relationship going on. So, when I brat, it is sort of expression of trust: I trust he can take it, I trust he is not leaving even I don't behave perfectly, I want him to laugh or at least smile to my mischief. I also need to see that he can handle it. Honestly speaking I would get mentally really bored if I can't sometimes sort of annoy my partner and see what happens. But I never mean any ill with it and my partners have always known it. It is just a game we both enjoy to play ( or in some rare occasions: my way of telling that not all is okay ).

 

Oof, punch me right in the feels, baby_k.