Uncles

[Bull]

What are your thoughts on Uncles (and Aunts!) in the DDlg scene?

 

I'm not a Daddy, but I'd love to be an Uncle. There are so many possibilities. The gentle mentor that guides you through your first little experience, the laughing friend, the strict Sir, the playful teacher, the guide, the sower of seeds for a fun and healthy dynamic...

 

The Mentor Uncle role is especially important for new littles, and caregivers who don't have any littles of their own. Not only do Uncles have more time to spend with them, they also bring another varied influence into their lives. It’s hard to describe, but “Daddy-like mentor” is the closest I’ve got. Daddies can spoil a little, but are obligated to enforce discipline. An Uncle remains free without much required; their main job being adding new things to a little's chaos building arsenal.

 

It's common to hear the description "crazy" before the title, and that itself allows them to bend the rules!

[Elle]

I have not personally heard of Uncles and Aunts but from the sounds of it, it would be an awesome idea! Esp. for littles who are new like you said and maybe aren't just yet ready for a daddy or mommy.

[Guest Sae]

It sounds cute! I think it's something that works.  :3 It's still a form of caregiver/caretaker. It makes me think of how there also is sisters and brothers in DDlg too. 

[princessandthesailor]

I follow a blog on Tumblr that calls herself Auntie because she has a little, but likes to be a mentor to all kinds of littles. I think it's a sweet, affectionate, and respectful title for a big you're close with.

[Guest Sae]

I follow a blog on Tumblr that calls herself Auntie because she has a little, but likes to be a mentor to all kinds of littles. I think it's a sweet, affectionate, and respectful title for a big you're close with.

I think I've seen that blogger before! She seems like a sweetie. Super friendly.

[princessandthesailor]

I think I've seen that blogger before! She seems like a sweetie. Super friendly.

She is! I forget the exact url, but she's been very kind to me when I needed advice.

[littlemariposa]

I think I may have gained an Uncle today and it's pretty cool. He's very nice and it's nice to be able to be little and accepted with someone other than Daddy. Plus he still treats me as a little and is someone I can openly talk to.

[Guest ElephantsDaddy]

I think Uncles are great! I was an Unca to a little boy a while ago . . . I just love littles (and middles), I love spending time with them, and I know that a lot of littles still need a Big around to bounce off of, whether they have a Daddy or Mommy of their own. I know my girliephant has had some really good relationships with Uncles in the past. It's exactly what littlemariposa said - it's someone who treats a little as a little, and completely accepts that part of a person.

 

But I think some Bigs don't understand that being an Uncle comes with just as much responsibilities as being a Daddy. Not disappearing without warning or pushing boundaries and all those trust-building things that can be devastating to a little. 

 

So yes. I like the idea of Uncles and I am open to it myself. 

[PeppermintBatty]

When I was a little younger, I decided that I had finally gotten sick of all the crappy bigs that I had run into in my young life. So I created a persona that was a big. For the longest time I had been a bab so I decided to make a "grandpa" and play big to a few littles I really liked. I think this was an enriching experience for me because one of the reasons I had such bad experiences with bigs is because I didn't know what I really wanted from a daddy or mommy. I was surrounded by the mystique of having a big and didn't know what I really wanted out of the relationship.

 

While I was only a grandpa for a little while (about six months), the experience taught me what I really wanted and helped my friends learn what they wanted too. I'll always have a lot of respect for bigs because of how difficult for me it was to be a big. Its got so much responsibility associated with it and, while I feel I was a very good grandpa, I don't really think I could do that and be happy.

 

LITTLE 4 EVA

[MountainFlower]

I think this idea is adorable, especially for new littles!!
I'd like to see this start to happen

[tiemeupwithyourlove]

The best thing with having an Uncle is that he'll sneak you cookies when Daddy said you couldn't have any. 

[Baby_Bows_]

The best thing with having an Uncle is that he'll sneak you cookies when Daddy said you couldn't have any.

Right!

[Kat]

I think it would be a cool idea!

[mxiio]

*Volunteers for Uncle duty*

[Guest TNDaddy]

I will have to say I believe this is a wonderful idea.

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

Played the part of Uncle Twitch since ive been here.

 

I think its a good idea, its like having an elder brother or sister to help guide but also protect.  

 

good post

[Guest Missy]

I love this idea so that you have someone as a friend & mentor...but where there's no romance. If "play" and flirting become a part of the arrangement, that could be hard on a Daddy/little relationship (if you're in one) and you're just having an open relationship at that point. I would think there would need to be some clear boundaries and expectations. Right?

 

*that being said...great idea.

[Guest curious]

Ive never had an uncle but I think its a great idea

[SpinSpinSugar]

Definitely like the idea of an uncle. I don't really trust self-professed Daddies much anymore but am still little. It's sort of like the same premise of having someone as an emergency contact if going through classic BDSM 'sub frenzy' to keep from making poor choices out of a sense of desperation.

[Guest babygryl78]

In need of a Uncle. I am fairly new to ddlg. I was in one d/s but not anymore. I have so many questions and need answers. I have been researching alot. I am a little and dont want to mess up with a new great daddy that will come my way.

[Guest Bear]

This is something that I found to be pretty perfect for me. 
I'm not looking for a romantic relationship, but at the same time I really enjoy caregiving / exploring that side of me ^^

[ShyIsabella]

I think this is a great idea! I was recently given the opportunity to start a relationship with a friend who wasn't into dd/lg but was willing to act like one for me. After much thinking I realised that I didn't want nor was ready for an actually relationship with a daddy/mummy. I realised that I actually wanted to have a sister/brother/uncle/auntie. I realised this because I haven ever been in a ddlg relationship nor have I ever been in full little space so if I started to have a relationship I wouldn't know what to do or what to exactly expect. I want to discover my little first without having to worry about a relationship.

 

Sorry for the rant.