Am I just being selfish?

[Just a little one]

So daddy feels sad about not having friends he has two good friends but they rarely talk and because he was upset I messaged them and asked them to check in him and see if he was okay. And they did and now he's happy. And I'm happy that he's happy but I have no friends either. Am I selfish because now I feel sad because I'm. Not enough to make him happy? I know sometimes you do just want a friend and not your girlfriend but I just feel upset that I'm not good enough and scared that he may now just go off with his friends. Becaudse my first daddy had no social life or friends and I introduced him to my friends and my social life and then we split up and he went with them all. They come running to me when I go a gig or what ever but they don't invite me out anymore. Daddy is the only person I have entirely and he's enough for me if it selfish to be sad because I'm not enough for him.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi,

Number one I am sorry that your are feeling this way and never feel bad about what you are feeling. Just because you have a feeling though does not mean you should act upon it. We all need relationships outside of our "relationship." Those outside relationships make us more well rounded. I encourage my littles to have outside friendships as they do for me as well. You are not being selfish by feeling that way at all, I think finding those friendships for yourself would help alleviate those feelings you have. It is not that you don't make him happy, rather we all need our own space at times and outside friendships are not a reflection on you not being enough. Rather they are indicative of connections outside of intimate relationships which our normal. 

A question for you: If you had some outside friendships would you be feeling as though you are not enough for him to make him happy? If you answer that you would not be feeling this way if you have outside friendships then I feel that shows you that it is not a reflection of you not being enough it is rather showing that you need some outside friendships as well.

Best of luck to you and I am certain you will get through this, be sure you communicate always with your daddy.

[Just a little one]

Thanks for the reply there's some good stuff for me to reflect on

[Guest Aetherr]

no its not bad to feel that way, what matter is you dont let it affect how you two are, if you need to you should talk to him but most people require time away from their partner and that is okay, for some of is that is not something we need and that is okay too

 

i know we have talked briefly in the past and if you need someone to chat with i would not be opposed to that.

[Just a little one]

I know its normal to need time away from your partner and just want friends and that's why I don't wanna tell him