Controversial topic.

[Guest PixieKat1995]

Hello. *waves a bit half-heartedly* I'm Kitty, or Pixie. Whichever Chu prefer. I'm a little in Cali, wif a Daddy of my very own.

 

I recently ran into an old friend on an online game of mine (I had been away a bit), and I used to know her as a fellow little. I guess she's taken to also being a domme while I was gone. When I got back, I private mailed her in game, saying hi again, and since it ish a roleplay game, I tried to throw a party, cuz I missed hers. She ended up giving me a lecture about how I should have come to her with my eyes lowered, and asked permission to speak.

 

Now here's where the issue lies. She questioned me being a little, and saying that I should talk to ANY Dom like that. Now, I am new to the lifestyle, and have a Daddy that's new, but I felt it was taken out of proportion for the simple fact that she was NOT my Dom, and hadn't earned meh respect like that. What are your guy's opinions? Do you think I am overreacting?

 

I'm just really hurt, and toying wif the idea of blocking her. I don't like dat type of negativity or anything, especially for a game I use as meh escape sometimes.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Its a game first of all... 

 

and nobody would ever talk like that to me like that.

[Koala]

You should show everyone respect. But! Anyone trying to structure the way you show that respect without you owing them anything is just a power trip. 

[Guest Aetherr]

you are right to feel hurt, that kind of thing would get any male dom labelled as fake. you should tell her you wont stand for it and you already have a dom

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Perhaps this is some kind of game culture which I will freely admit to being completely unaware of.

 

Absent some kind of BDSM game? Bitch is crazy. If someone said that to me I would assume they were either very, very young or delusional.

[Guest]

I would screw up the courage to give her a rant about how to properly treatment a friend. You approached her as a little because you had no idea she had changed roles, is that right? If so, part of that rant is that if she doesn't remember who you were as a person before SHE changed then she shouldn't have replied at all. Just because a person is a dominant doesn't make you their sub. You are not in a relationship with her and she needs to tone down her attitude. Now I'm sure ranting at her will get you blocked because her idea of being a Big is all screwed up, so I'll say don't expect a reply, at least not a good one.

[hurtnolivingthing]

Hello PixieKat1995

 

If this wasn't part of your game.. then she is completely in the wrong.

In that case, discard everything she said.

 

If she was talking to you outside of playing, you should consider if maintaining

a friendship with her is good for you. Personally I think that's a pretty crappy way to

talk to friend.

 

Good luck.

Edited November 12, 2018 by hurtnolivingthing

[SamL]

She is, very clearly flying blind and has no idea what she is doing.  As you probably know, there's quite a lot of D's that have no idea what they are doing - and the problem with that is legion.  It's one of the few things I'll get on a soapbox about but I'm sure we've all heard it before so I'll spare you - just know this: There's nothing controversial about the topic of respect, everyone deserves it, regardless of who they think they are.

[MadelynVictoria]

Sorry, but she's not your dom, she has no right at all to be demanding and expecting that of you, or talking to you like that.

[Guest infinitecases]

She's not you Dom, so you're not obliged to do anything. If I was to or told to show submission to anyone other than my Daddy, I think that it would become the case of my Daddy being upset. Your relationship with that girl is clearly friendship only, so I don't see how she got the idea that that's how you should greet her, you don't belong to her in any sense - unless it was just the roleplay in the game?