Letting it out

[AngelLove]

I just need to let a load off

 

So the man I’ve dated on and off for the past 3 years completely broke up with me. Well it wasn’t so much a breakup as him just popping up and saying “by the way I have a new girlfriend” which COMPLETELY blindsided me as we had recently (legit just two weeks prior) finally decided to work on us, we even shared a joint PayPal account that we were putting money in to save for an apartment to get together. We finally decided to get together for real and be serious and now he’s dating someone else?? He begged me to stay friends as he really does love talking to me, but I said no. We stopped talking. The other night I called him after drinking a bit, I begged him to take me back. He said he loved me and said if I called him the next day sober he would love to talk and see if we could resolve things..stupidly I did, I called him on the morning, no answer, I called him again that night..and he rejected my call.. I guess it really is over.

 

I’m mainly upset because I only talk to three people regularly and he was always one of them, dating or not he was my best friend, I deleted all traces of him on my phone, it’s too painful to look at his stuff. I’m glad he’s happy but I feel so lonely, my two other friends are cool but he was my BEST friend. Despite what a lot of people think, I’m not very popular, it’s extremely hard for me to make close friends, I’m just trying to forget him now but it hurts so much.

[Guest]

If I may give you super hugs or a pat on the hand. I'm really sorry that you lost your friend. I hope that you find a new best friend that can give you all that you need and want. 

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi,

I am so sorry that you are hurting right now, and I think it was wise to delete all traces of him off of your phone. It is very hard when you are the one giving so much in any relationship and it is not reciprocated. I wish you the best of luck and know that there is someone out there that will love you implicitly and will treat you with the respect that you deserve.

[Tinka]

hello, i broke up 6 days ago, after 4.5 years. 

 

i changed country for him and now i am back in my country at point zero.

 

And this i share so that you can understand that i am in kinda same bad point , emotionally.

 

My girl, you are beautiful, inside and out. And in a year from now, chances are you will have someone else and this person/situation will be just a memory.

The things that occurred (the new gf) and the fact that you were not ready for such a sudden change that is not in your favor, are for sure making it difficult as fuck.

But these are signs that this person is not good for you. I dont think he treated you right, and i dont think he is the one for you.

It is time for new things. Thats why the previous things ended so sudden.

That is the bad thing in relationships that are ldr or include mostly lots of phone calls, they reach up to a certain point and then just fade out. 

Couples need to always have some mutual goal that is exciting, some nice moments that they can actually touch and smell and hug each other. 

If i wouldnt pressure myself to move to his country so we can start doing things in real life too, i felt i would loose him. I could sense it.

 

Anyway i am trully sorry because this truth hurts, but its good that he told you at least, and that you have the chance to move on. 

No kids, no prisoner in another country unable to move on due to actual facts (not only emotions) etc. 

 

i dont make sense, i know but keep in mind that everything happens for a reasons, and you would never want to be with a man who put himself into a new relationship and then announced it to you.

[hurtnolivingthing]

I'm so sorry that happened to you AngelLove.

That's a horrible ending to a relationship, and a very disrespectful way to treat you after all these years.

 

Sadly.. you are going to hurt a lot.. probably for a long time to come.

 

I think if you can; it would be best to sever all ties with him.

I say that because of how he has treated you. He sounds very offhand in his attitude to you.

 

That said.. letting someone you love go, is one of the hardest things in the world to do.

I know. But you can do it, and will do it eventually.

 

 

All you can do now.. is take things one day at a time. Take the time needed to heal.

 

My sincerest sympathies, and best wishes.

Edited November 12, 2018 by hurtnolivingthing

[AngelLove]

hello, i broke up 6 days ago, after 4.5 years. 

 

i changed country for him and now i am back in my country at point zero.

 

And this i share so that you can understand that i am in kinda same bad point , emotionally.

 

My girl, you are beautiful, inside and out. And in a year from now, chances are you will have someone else and this person/situation will be just a memory.

The things that occurred (the new gf) and the fact that you were not ready for such a sudden change that is not in your favor, are for sure making it difficult as fuck.

But these are signs that this person is not good for you. I dont think he treated you right, and i dont think he is the one for you.

It is time for new things. Thats why the previous things ended so sudden.

That is the bad thing in relationships that are ldr or include mostly lots of phone calls, they reach up to a certain point and then just fade out. 

Couples need to always have some mutual goal that is exciting, some nice moments that they can actually touch and smell and hug each other. 

If i wouldnt pressure myself to move to his country so we can start doing things in real life too, i felt i would loose him. I could sense it.

 

Anyway i am trully sorry because this truth hurts, but its good that he told you at least, and that you have the chance to move on. 

No kids, no prisoner in another country unable to move on due to actual facts (not only emotions) etc. 

 

i dont make sense, i know but keep in mind that everything happens for a reasons, and you would never want to be with a man who put himself into a new relationship and then announced it to you.

 

 

I am so sorry that happened to you, I understand how horrible it must be, thank you for sharing this with me, I know now he wasn’t right for me and all I can do now is try to move on, heartbreak is always painful but it’s a part of life I suppose. I hope things get better for you, I can’t even imagine how hard it must be

[Tinka]

I am so sorry that happened to you, I understand how horrible it must be, thank you for sharing this with me, I know now he wasn’t right for me and all I can do now is try to move on, heartbreak is always painful but it’s a part of life I suppose. I hope things get better for you, I can’t even imagine how hard it must be

 

its actually liberating in a weird way. When something is toxic for us for a long time, and we finally escape it, it feels and tastes like freedom.

Yes i am angry with my self that i am 30 and i am at point zero as i said before, but at the same time i am 30 and not 60 with 2 kids and zero future. 

Nothing is lost yet. And i am trying to take everything i can from my life.

And i know i deserve better. And i know you deserve better too. And my girl, we will get this ''better'' that we deserve, one way or the other.