Stay-at-home Littles

[Guest Swadloon]

My Daddy and I are getting married next year.  We've been engaged next to forever, but we're finally able to go for it because he's in a really good position, financially speaking. So good, in fact, that Daddy will be able to support us both, 100%.

 

Daddy has brought up the idea of power exchange, and of me being a "stay-at-home husband" / 24/7 little once we're all settled.  A few years ago, my answer to that would have been "uh no are you kidding me?!", but now, I find that the idea really appeals to me. This would be a few years in the future - I'm currently in university working on a doctorate, and I've told Daddy that I'm finishing it, period.  He agrees unequivocally because he knows how much work I've put into it and how much it means to me.  Even if I end up not using that credential, ever, I'll be extremely proud of myself for seeing it through, and I'll have it in my back pocket just in case.  

 

The thing is, I've always worked my butt off at a job or school, and I'm having a bit of trouble translating that work ethic into a household-centred context. I realize that if I stay at home while Daddy is off working 40-hour weeks, the household becomes my responsibility - cooking meals, doing the cleaning and laundry, running errands, doing maintenance and repairs that don't require an extra pair of hands, etc.  But...once the chores are done and dinner's in the crockpot, what is there for a stay-at-home little to do?  I guess I'm just afraid of having too many hours left over at the end of the day, and it driving me crazy after a while, and afraid of slipping into a bad routine, spending too much time in littlespace or on my hobbies, and becoming a burden.

 

So, if there are any 24/7 littles / stay-at-home partners here, I'd like to ask you - how do you make it work between you and your CG?  What's a typical day for you look like, and what are your responsibilities? Did your CG lay out those responsibilities or do you plan your own routine? How do you ensure balance between you and your partner, so that you're shouldering your fair share of work and not placing a burden on them?

 

Thanks to anyone who replies!

[LittleBunnyCici]

SO!

 

This is something that I think about a lot, since I'm big into 24/7 dynamics and 1950's housewife kink and I'm determined to be the home maker for my future Daddy.

I think the first thing to keep in mind is that if you're taking on full-time care of the home, that really is a full-time job.  If you take to those responsibilities with a sincere work ethic, you're already making sure that you're shouldering your fair share of the work.  As far as ensuring that there's a balance between you and your partner, I think that answer is going to be very different to people with different dynamics.  For example, I would need to sit down with my CG and have a frank, up-front discussion about who will be responsible for what, what kinds of rewards and punishments would be put in place, and what the schedule of those responsibilities look like.  I personally would not be happy with simply having everything dumped in my lap with my Daddy saying "have fun!," but other people who are deeper into the service submission side of things than I am may not have an issue with that.

 

That said, this leads us quite nicely into my next point.  Being the stay-at-home partner also doesn't have to mean that you literally stay at home and do nothing else but take care of the house.  Do explore and enjoy your hobbies!  Just make sure that you do so in a manner that allows you to uphold your responsibilities.  You know what they say - work first, play later.  You can't equate being a stay-at-home partner with being an isolated one.  You need to go out, to spend time on your interpersonal relationships outside of your relationship with your partner, and to focus on the things that make you happy.  This is part of why I make it so clear that people need to have those up-front discussions about the division of labor.  Just to give you a direct example, my desire to be a housewife and stay-at-home mother does not mean I have any interest in giving up on my own ambitions and dreams of being a writer and game developer.  A Daddy who expected me to do nothing but cook for him and clean up after him while giving up on that is going to taste curb pretty quickly.