BF into DDLG and I have no clue how to be a little

[FoxGirlKat]

So I gotten myself a bf a few weeks ago which I first met on fetlife. Something about me and him clicked and he felt it was love at first sight. Anyways I was reading on his fetlife profile about how he was into DDLG and is looking for a little, I started teasing him a bit about him being my daddy but then I found out he was serious and wanted me to be his little. He said that I have a happy bubbly personality and something about that makes him want to protect and take care of me.

 

Tbh i was not into ddlg at all since I found it too uncomfortable to call someone daddy and have it not be my actual dad, plus I found the nappy thing and pretending to be a kid while being sexual too much... But ever since meeting my bf in person and calling him daddy I'm more okay to be his little...

 

Anyways the thing I wanted to ask is how do a be a little? Would I have to act like a baby and wear nappies or do sexual stuff with kids toys? Or can I just continue being myself, wearing cute outfits and calling him daddy while being with him? (like I already have a bunch of plushies and stuff toys that I love <3 I'm kinda scared of sleeping in the dark unless I'm with someone or have my teddy with me, I love to play with bubbles, I can be pretty goofy and I love to play games)

 

Thank you and sorry if this sounds like a mess, only joined 5 minutes ago

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi,

I have been a DD for quite a while and there is no one way to be a little, if you have to force something then it is not right for you. You do not EVER have to do anything to be a little. Some little are sexual while being little and some or not it is really just whatever feels right to you. The minute you question something or do not feel comfortable with something you are doing you don't need to do it. Being little is something that should come naturally to you and you should not have any misgivings about it at all. It should be something that brings you peace and frees you of anxiety and stress. 

Keep being yourself and if he is not ok with that then he is not the right BF/Daddy for you. He should make you feel comfortable, loved, cared for, and respected always.

I wish you the best in your relationship. 

[Bzar]

I agree 100% with what TS said above, you don’t have to be anything besides yourself in order to be little. You shouldn’t be something that you aren’t in order to please your partner. The way that you describe yourself is perfect because it expresses who you really are. If you wanted some more examples of how littles express themselves, you should visit the “Little Space” where others share their creations and what they do whenever they are feeling anxious, happy or just want to share. Anything you feel like asking, they would be most able to help you.

 

Whatever you do, don’t let someone dictate when you feel little. If you are uncomfortable being little during sex, and rather express that side of you at night, then that’s exactly how you should be. There are many great discussions in the “Sex and Health” section about this dynamic. Lastly, I wanted to welcome you and I hope that you feel comfortable and welcome here. Feel free to join us in the chat if you ever wanted to get a question answered promptly or just to have a conversation. Talk to you soon!

Edited November 8, 2018 by Bzar

[FoxGirlKat]

Hi,

I have been a DD for quite a while and there is no one way to be a little, if you have to force something then it is not right for you. You do not EVER have to do anything to be a little. Some little are sexual while being little and some or not it is really just whatever feels right to you. The minute you question something or do not feel comfortable with something you are doing you don't need to do it. Being little is something that should come naturally to you and you should not have any misgivings about it at all. It should be something that brings you peace and frees you of anxiety and stress. 

Keep being yourself and if he is not ok with that then he is not the right BF/Daddy for you. He should make you feel comfortable, loved, cared for, and respected always.

I wish you the best in your relationship. 

 

 

I agree 100% with what TS said above, you don’t have to be anything besides yourself in order to be little. You shouldn’t be something that you aren’t in order to please your partner. The way that you describe yourself is perfect because it expresses who you really are. If you wanted some more examples of how littles express themselves, you should visit the “Little Space” where others share their creations and what they do whenever they are feeling anxious, happy or just want to share. Anything you feel like asking, they would be most able to help you.

 

Whatever you do, don’t let someone dictate when you feel little. If you are uncomfortable being little during sex, and rather express that side of you at night, then that’s exactly how you should be. There are many great discussions in the “Sex and Health” section about this dynamic. Lastly, I wanted to welcome you and I hope that you feel comfortable and welcome here. Feel free to join us in the chat if you ever wanted to get a question answered promptly or just to have a conversation. Talk to you soon!

 

Thanks so much, he hasnt made me do anything uncomfortable. he always makes sure im okay with what we do together and just like me, he's happy to even just be in my company. I just really dont know if he would want me to do anything as a little but then again im too shy to ask...  I will check those other forum topics though to get some more info about DDLG 

[Guest Aetherr]

basically, be a little in your own way if you like toys sippy cups and pacis that is fine if not then that is also fine, the important thing to know is you gotta be yourself and talk to him.. find out what you both like and want and if you have a limit on certain things make sure he knows.. also it may help to socialise with different littles  and find out how they do it you may even find you have a littlespace but bear in mind you may not and that is also okay!!

 

everyone is different and aslong as you want to be a little and are happy with him then it doesent matter what you should and shouldnt do.. theres no rulebook for these things only what makes you happy

[FoxGirlKat]

basically, be a little in your own way if you like toys sippy cups and pacis that is fine if not then that is also fine, the important thing to know is you gotta be yourself and talk to him.. find out what you both like and want and if you have a limit on certain things make sure he knows.. also it may help to socialise with different littles  and find out how they do it you may even find you have a littlespace but bear in mind you may not and that is also okay!!

 

everyone is different and aslong as you want to be a little and are happy with him then it doesent matter what you should and shouldnt do.. theres no rulebook for these things only what makes you happy

 

I actually never thought about asking since i thought most of the information is on his fetlife profile, just like how some of mine is on my fetlife profile. But yeah thats a really good idea, i will try and bring it up when i have the confidence to or when i next see him. Thank you  

[Guest Aetherr]

I actually never thought about asking since i thought most of the information is on his fetlife profile, just like how some of mine is on my fetlife profile. But yeah thats a really good idea, i will try and bring it up when i have the confidence to or when i next see him. Thank you

 

 

well i can't speak for him but i dont often include a ton of info on myself that can be publicly viewed, i make sure people know the big stuff but theres much more to me that is only available to people when i decide they should know.. and besides if you dont leave a few things out for people to figure out about you then wheres the fun in getting to know someone... anyways i hope you figure out your own take on the dynamic that works!!

[Bzar]

Thanks so much, he hasnt made me do anything uncomfortable. he always makes sure im okay with what we do together and just like me, he's happy to even just be in my company. I just really dont know if he would want me to do anything as a little but then again im too shy to ask...  I will check those other forum topics though to get some more info about DDLG

 

That’s the best way to approach this. Have a list of things that you are okay with doing and want to try out, and approach him whenever you meet him next. If he’s a good daddy for you, he will be open to your suggestions and tell you about what he likes. The most important thing in any relationship is communication. Good luck!!