unsure if boyfriend might be into ddlg??

[kitkatpumpkin]

hi!! i'm new to this forum but uhhh i basically wanted to reach out and ask this (hopefully this isn't in the wrong topic). so basically when i'm around my boyfriend i do act "little", but he doesn't really....know? if that makes sense? but he always says how cute i am when i act that way? he's always taken on a bit of a "caretaker" sorta role even though sometimes it'll switch and i'll take care of him and he'll act kinda little.....he also bought me a pikachu stuffie about a month ago and i always cuddle with it and he comments about how adorable i am with it....i don't know! maybe i'm looking too much into this? because he does kinda get very caretaker-y at times, and he always says how cute i am when i act little. so what could i do? i'm very confused ahhh lol

[Guest Babykitkat 23]

Have you asked him. Like what he's in to or what he is interested in. It seems to be that maybe he could know about ddlg.

 

I would say to just ask about. If he doesn't now and you want to have the kind of dynamic ddlg offers. Tell him about, explain and research together. You both do seem to have a common bond for it. There is nothing wrong with asking either. They say curiosity killed the.....cat....no pun intended...but satisfaction brought it back.

 

If you feel uncomfortable asking just go over it with your self of how you want to ask your question or tell him about it....don't over think about...trust me. But just kinda make a game plan.

 

Good luck and I hope it goes well.

[Koala]

My advice would also be to dive in, to whatever degree feels comfortable. Take it slow by watching how he reacts to elements of the dynamic, tell him about DDlg right away, whatever you think you're able to do. Either way: start poking and prodding a bit! He seems like he'd be receptive to some of it. 

[Guest Arc]

What could you do? You could and should communicate. Communication is essential in relationships, and he's literally the only person who can answer your question if he's into it. 

[Guest Halien]

Hello!

 

I struggled with the same thing as you. I started dating my boyfriend about 6 months ago and I wasn't sure if it was something that he would be into. I have been a little for over 3 years now and it is something that I need to have in my relationship. 

 

I started asking him about his kinks and things he was into. When it got around to being my turn, I just told him. I said, "This might be a little strange to some people, but I am into DDlg." At first he questioned me, he had no idea about DDlg or anything concerning the matter. So, I began to tell him about all of the aspects and what it entails. Come to find out, he was really interested. At first he was weird about the pacifiers and some other things, but now he is very accepting and he has gotten a lot more into it.

 

I think the most important thing is to be honest and to just tell him. Communication, like others have mentioned, is SUPER important. Especially in a DDlg relationship. There are a lot of things you need to discuss and talk about. All DDlg relationships are different and it really depends on the people who are in them. Some people won't be okay with what other people are into and that's fine, you just need to figure out what works the best for you two c:

 

Also, be patient. This is something that I cannot stress enough. If he is a new Daddy, you really have to help guide him into the role and help him to understand what you expect out of your relationship. I have had to do that with my Daddy and it can be hard and draining, especially if you just want to be little. But, practice makes perfect and it will definitely take some time c: 

 

It seems like he is already on his way to being a Daddy, he just might not know it yet. Just be open and honest and let him know that a Daddy/little relationship is what you want. Also, lots of research and reading. Find what works best for the two of you and build on it ♥

 

I hope this helps! Let me know how it goes c:

 

-Haley

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