Left alone for days at a time

[AvaiI]

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Edited November 27, 2018 by AvaiI

[Averi]

Speaking as someone whose been on the receiving end of uncaring partners more times than I want to remember, it's important to consider this:

- When people care, and want to talk to you- they will. How someone treats the time you devote to them tells you everything you need to know about what they think of you. -

Seeing as it takes all of 8 seconds to shoot back a reply, and they're apparently reading your messages; I'd say it's probably safe to assume something is certainly up. The fact that they're apparently messaging other people like that more or less cinches it: you'd probably be better off moving on - nobody deserves to be treated like that. I know it sucks to hear, but based on the information you've given here, it doesn't sound like there's any degree of give-and-take going on - it sounds just like give on your part.

I hope like hell I'm wrong, I wouldn't wish that situation on anyone but if you're already in it, all I can advise is that ya get out of it. Best of luck with everything~

[Guest Still Me!]

It doesn't help that I recently caught him messaging other girls that he loves them.

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RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG!

I hate to be heartless, but everything you’ve shared just blares that your relationship is already over with your daddy. He has already moved on. He is ignoring your efforts to keep the relationship going. You send messages and he doesn’t prioritize them in the least. He is chatting with other Littles and most probably giving them the impression that he is their daddy. I know this is hard for you to hear and not what you want to hear but you now need to move on too.

 

Advice is so hard to give in this type of situation. One suggestion is to quit texting him. Let him make the effort. Treat him as if he is no longer your daddy. But, be prepared for him to respond and act like you are the one in the wrong. He will try to turn the situation around and make you think how bad you are. He will play innocent. Ouch! It hurts so bad but you have to be strong and endure the pain.

 

A second suggestion is just to jump right into a confrontation and tell him right up front that you are aware he has already ended things with you and state all the things he is doing that indicates he has ended it. Then just ask him to be honest and tell you the main reason he no longer chats and has a good time with you. His response will hurt no matter if he trys to play innocent or if he actually gives an honest answer. If he does give a truthful honest answer, you better listen and take it to heart. Example: he might say something such as you never held up your part of the conversations and only gave one and two word replys ((I use this example because that’s a pet peeve of mine)). You can ask if he wants the relationship to continue if you work extra hard on what he mentioned. But even if he does stay with you, pay attention to see if his pattern has improved or if he continues the same old ‘ignore you’ that he had been doing, and if so, dump him.

Edited November 3, 2018 by Still in Charge

[Guest Still Me!]

Addendum to what I wrote above......

I now see that you mentioned it’s only been TWO DAYS. Well, that’s really not a long time. We all have distractions that can affect us for a couple of days. But if those two days grow and become the norm then definitely take to heart everything I mentioned above. Thanks.

[Guest Aetherr]

sounds to me like your daddy is just taking a few days to work out some stuff, the best you can do is make him aware of your concern and show support, and hopefully he comes back to you soon feeling more like himself

[AvaiI]

sounds to me like your daddy is just taking a few days to work out some stuff, the best you can do is make him aware of your concern and show support, and hopefully he comes back to you soon feeling more like himself

Thank you

[AvaiI]

Addendum to what I wrote above......

I now see that you mentioned it’s only been TWO DAYS. Well, that’s really not a long time. We all have distractions that can affect us for a couple of days. But if those two days grow and become the norm then definitely take to heart everything I mentioned above. Thanks.

Thank you so much~

[MadelynVictoria]

I'm sorry, but he sounds like a really shitty partner. He's messaging other girls behind your back, and ignoring you, and that isn't okay. I get that he's stressed, but that's not an excuse to do that crap, and you don't deserve it.

[Guest FairgroundAlice89]

It's so hard, because littles' need to give is so strong that a daddy reducing contact for any reason feels like abandonment. But ignoring your best attempts to please him while telling other girls he loves them doesn't sound like the behaviour of a caring daddy who just needs some time to himself. I think you deserve better.