Catfished and ghosted

[q.t.pie]

Hi, everyone!

So, I'm new to this whole ddlg thing, and I ended up meeting a daddy through a matchmaking blog. We talked for about a month and I really grew to trust him.

There were some things that were suspicious, but I had reverse image searched the first photos he sent me, and he seemed clean, so I figured he was just busy. But it got to the point that he was growing distant, and the only way I could really get his attention was by sending him photos (and even then his responses were much cooler than they had been in the beginning.)

Since I was starting to worry, I reverse image searched more of the photos he'd sent me, and I found out that he'd stolen them from another website and cropped them to hide the fact that it wasn't him.

I asked him again if I could video chat with him (I didn't let on that I'd discovered this) and now he's ignoring me and hasn't read any of my messages.

I'm just really afraid? I liked him a lot, he was my daddy. And I can't help but feel like maybe I did something wrong, because why would he just leave me if he said that I was his little girl?

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

He catfished you. Using someone else’s identity and photos to cover up your own identity usually means that the person causing the offence doesn’t have any intention of being ‘real’ with any of the people they come into contact with. It’s extremely rare that a catfish will be like “hey, y’know what, I’ve really come to like you. Let me tell you the truth.”

 

You didn’t do anything wrong, they’re just a shitty person. Catfishing is dumb and shouldn’t be allowed anywhere, even if it’s an unknown model or someone who’s just IG “famous”.

 

I’m sorry that this happened to you. Best of luck in future.

Don’t consider ‘not wanting to video chat’ as an instant red flag though. Some people are just anxious or self-conscious. Use your experience to be better prepared in future. You’re obviously very cautious, since you reverse searched their photos. But don’t let this one experience sour the rest of them.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

So first of all, hello! Welcome to the forum!

 

Secondly, I'm so sorry that has happened to you. There are some horrible people out there in the world that betray our trust like that. Not just in the DDlg/BDSM community but also the land of vanilla. It sounds to me that he used your good natured and trusting personality to get what he wanted (pictures). Some littles can be seen as 'easy prey', disgusting right? And bad people can use that to their advantage. He was not a daddy. You did nothing wrong. He lied to you and concealed his true identity. 

 

Thirdly, you will find someone worthy of you one day who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. 

 

I honestly wish you the best of luck and hope things get better for you. 

[Guest Juddon]

Hi and a huge welcome from all of us ~. 

 

Sorry to hear you going through such an ordeal. The biggest flaw of online relationship is you never know if the person has true intentions or is catfishing you generally. There are bad people and good people with true intentions of making you happy and having you love yourself for who you really are. As Barbie state it's common not only in the DD/LG community but many others and usually this happens a lot with disgusting prey lurking everything. If he's not willing to show you his true self, making you feel insecure that you have to sacrifice your own space of security, your own personal wall in order for him to stay. It's not worth it, a real daddy/man takes his time until you;re ready. Never fall into the trap and submitting your personal space until he is deemed worthy ~. 

 

Someone Will treat you better, who won't make you feel insecure but encourages you to be more secured. 

 

We wish you all the best from the community and we're here for you if you need us c:

[Guest Wytchwolfy]

if its any consolation...it happens to us guys too

[Guest Andromeda]

You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes people are just plain mean and awful and it has nothing to do with the person they hurt. Take time for yourself, so you can heal and process this experience. It may be a good idea to create a vetting process before getting involved in the future.

[bigchocolatedaddy]

I really hope you don't feel that it is your fault. It's happened to me multiple times and I get that they did it because they're uncomfortable with how they look. However, this in NO way justifies lying about it to your partner. I, like you, want to think that it is for some reason. People who do it are bad and don't deserve to be in relationships. If you can't be true to who you are or what you look like, then don't be in a relationship. I feel for you very much so and I would like to tell you not to lose hope because of this person. You deserve much more than to be treated that way and if you ever want to talk about it, I am here to talk to you if you need to since its happened to me more than once. I wish you all the best!

[Guest Arc]

Honestly.... you've dodged a major bullet there. Yes it hurts that this has happened but better to lose someone like that sooner than later. He wasn't genuine and he used you and you deserve better than that. He wasn't your daddy - he was a cruel immature boy playing a game he had no right in doing. 

 

You deserve so much better than that. It's understandable to be upset but don't waste more time on this guy. Move on and get on with life and find people who are actually deserving of your time. 

[Guest Vintage Daddy]

It happens with a lot of people unfortunately...

 

Right after joining this forum I was catfished by a member here who has a 3 year old account (who shall forever remain nameless so dont ask)

 

Tineye did not flag anything the first time, but the second time a week or so latter it showed hits... many hits.... and then I scrolled the gallery here and found other pics that were used on me that were stolen from old accounts.

 

Learn and move on, you will find that which you seek.

Edited October 22, 2018 by Vintage Daddy

[q.t.pie]

Thanks, everybody, for the welcomes and reassurances

It's funny, because big me knows that you guys are right, it's just little me keeps looking for her daddy...which is a weird push and pull right now.

I'm really tempted to try and find another daddy right now, but I think it would be best to just try and find more ways to be active in the community without putting myself at risk again right away.

[Guest Still Me!]

It’s also possible this is NOT a catfish situation. It might simply be someone who has grown bored or disinterested. This is something that both genders are highly guilty of. (It’s a proven fact that us girls end relationships far more than men do.) I have had one online daddy suddenly disappear on me, but I also have a family member who is an online daddy and he has had three different Littles totally disappear and quit responding to him. My disappearing daddy happened after two months of online chat but my cousin had a Little disappear off the face of the earth after ten months together. In that case he had proof she was no catfish. He had been to her Facebook page and showed me all of her graduation pics, etc. When he eventually tracked her down and talked with her, it turns out she finally got a boyfriend in real life and dumped her online daddy... and didn’t say anything about it until he found her.

 

One other possibility is that everyone takes online dating at a different face value. Some people are extremely into it as if it were real world dating and other people see it more as a fun game. Those two people are on opposite ends of the spectrum and naturally the one who gets hurt is the one who is taking it seriously. The other person might be considered a catfisher but they might only think of them self as playing one of many many online games. I honestly don’t know. But I always try to give someone the benefit of doubt even though they did something that some people consider wrong. Other people might not consider it wrong at all.

Edited October 26, 2018 by Still in Charge

[Angel24]

I've had this happen to me more times than I care to admit, but the important thing is that you don't let this lead you to assume that all future daddies/partners will do this to you, like I have. It can happen often with online relationships, that's why it's important to take lots of time before officially starting a relationship with someone cuz the longer someone tries to get to know you the higher the chance that they won't just leave you out of nowhere, 9 times out of 10. It really sucks when something like this happens, and I don't understand why people do it, but unfortunately we rarely have control over the situations when they arise:/

 

I wish you luck though in someday finding the daddy that's right for you:)