Not a 'normal' little. Help!

[Daddy'sKitten]

When Daddy and I figured out I was little (we started out D/s, and it's the first relationship like this either one of us has had) I felt relief. Like who I am finally made sense. BUT since I started reading about littles I feel like I'm too different. I do go into little space, and enjoy the new shift in our relationship but I don't feel like I relate to other littles. I'm a tomboy. I don't like pink, stuffies, colouring or any really cutsy stuff. I'm more of a ride my horse, play in mud puddles, climb trees, go target shooting kinda girl. I wasn't ever really girly as a kid and maybe that explains it?

 

I know my Daddy likes me the way I am but sometimes I wonder if I'm really a little?

 

I've always been the tough one. Grew up on a farm, the kinda girl who goes out with my chainsaw and tools to go fix fence. The kinda girl who's always worked like a man doing everything from working in a commercial truck shop to being a hunting guide. Outwardly and publicly I'm a very capable woman. The kind of girl who is more at home hanging with a group of guys than girls. I don't see that changing and I know Daddy loves me the way I am. I just don't know how to relate to other littles. And I don't know any littles. Other than Daddy I don't know anyone who's interested in this lifestyle.

 

I mostly just needed to get this out but I wonder if there are other littles like me?

[GentleDaddyDom]

There certainly are! PrincessSae, my little, doesn't go into little space either. Sure, she likes pink cutesy things and her stuffies, but everyone is different! It sounds like you're more of a tomboy as far as your little side goes? If that's what we can call it. You don't have to regress, or feel super little-y to be a little! We don't expect everyone to fit into the same little cookie cutter, shaped like hello kitty with pink frilly edges that goes into a teddy bear oven.

 

While I'm no little myself, I'm sure there are plenty that will be able to not only back me up, but to let you know that they're similar, or the same! Trust me, there's nothing wrong with who you are, how you act, or anything like that. Not at all!

[Daddy'sKitten]

Thank you GentleDaddyDom.

 

I know logically that I don't have to fit into a mold, and I know my Daddy loves me for me and enjoys my tomboy-ish ways (he really likes talking about trucks with me and other stuff like that) I just struggle to feel like I fit in. I've always been different, and normally feel like it's a good thing I just sometimes wish I wasn't SO different.

[Daddy'sKitten]

Thank you ddlgdoodles.

I've been hesitant to join fetlife because I already have a Daddy. I assumed it was like a dating site. I joined it today and am so glad I did. Thanks for the suggestion!

[CaptainsKitten]

I'm not really a "normal" little either. I don't like pink or teddy bears or stuff like that and instead I love pirates and dinosaurs but at the same time I like princesses... just most of my thoughts are of princesses falling in love with pirates... XD

but basically it depends on my mood whether I'm girly or not but I'm always little around him and he loves it so I just roll with it no matter what I do ^~^

[princess-mel]

No little has to be girly. I like Disney princesses and pink cutesy stuff, but at the same time, even in little space I prefer video games and superheros and stuff. The most important part of being little is identifying as little.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Just like everyone else said, you don't have to take interest in girly things to identify as a little. You're definitely not alone in this matter- I had the same issue when I discovered my little side.  As long as you feel little, then you are

[Ember Moons]

Lol you are SOO not alone girl. My little isnt a space its just part of me always and as for things *giggle* I would rather have dinosaurs and monsters, pirates and superheros, MTG the card game and video games. I would much rather have my things in blue, green, yellow or purple then pink. Dont get me wrong i do like SOME girly things like my little pony and suffies and coloring, but i also like my fishing, horseback riding, rock collection, clime trees and dance in the rain why splashing in mud puddles (in fact one of my little desires before i even knew what they were was for a yellow rain coat and some yellow rain boots with a clear umbrella to play in the rain ><) . 

In fact if you look at my little wish list you will find where there are SOME girly things i have just as many if not more boy little things.

[Daddy'sKitten]

Thank you guys so much. I feel so much better about this

[DelilahDream]

I don't regress at all and can't relate to those littles that do. I'm just a big kid at heart. And while I do like some cutesy girly stuff, I really like "boy" stuff. There's no right or wrong way to be a little. If you feel little, you are little. That's the only requirement.

[PeppermintBatty]

 

 

I'm a tomboy. I don't like pink, stuffies, colouring or any really cutsy stuff. I'm more of a ride my horse, play in mud puddles, climb trees, go target shooting kinda girl. I wasn't ever really girly as a kid and maybe that explains it?

 

I mean, I'm a boy little and I'm not really into pink girly stuff and coloring and such things either. You self identify as a tomboy but even so, what about all the actual boy littles that love video games and eating candy? And cooking and cookies and stories and camping? Honestly, there's all sorts of littles out there. You're not weird at all.

[heybbgurl]

oh heck yes!! ive said this in another post but i just wanted to say it to you too!

 

okay so like im pansexual, and i never really go into a little space its just me all the time. and sometimes i dress really girly and other times like a tom boy, being a little doesnt matter how femm or masc you are, its about feeling it and feeling right im so happy that you found something that makes ya feel like you fit! 

[Cherry41]

I'm not a "typical" little either. I'm 40 and the hot (I wish) librarian/professor/writer type. (I'm a real college instructor and writer). My "little" side is a nerdy college girl who loves to read but also still loves stuffed animals, chocolate milk, makeup for fun, bubbles, and glitter and needs to be wrapped in a blanket to sleep. When I'm teaching or writing I act like an adult professional instructor/writer and keep everything professional and chaste... but when I'm not working, I act about like a geeky, sex obsessed college freshman girl.

 

I'm pretty new to this...about a year into it now...but my understanding is that an "lg" is a woman (guess it would be lb if it were a man) who has a naturally submissive personality, likes to be cared for, and likes her man to assume a dominant caretaker role. (DD), but there isn't any specific list of likes and dislikes or a certain type you have to be.

 

I used to worry I wouldn't fit in among "lgs" either because I don't like that many very child like things. I don't like pacifiers or using baby cups or utensils and I don't care for pink except for bright sunset pink. I don't care for little kids' cartoons. I do like cartoons...but I prefer old reruns of "King of the Hill" and "Beavis and Butthead" and "Daria." 

[PrincessBunnieButt]

I'm a tomboy too! I get what your saying though cause I felt that way. Daddy talked to me though and reminded me that I am who I am and thats what he likes. <3

[Daddys babygirl]

Hi daddy's kitten I am not always so little an yea I love pink purple but I also super love when daddy takes me to vw an he takes me out shooting with him!!!:) I get to a with his n papa's guns an shoot targets it's soooo cool! I also love to go four wheeling an love going on adventures which is why I'm not always so little basically I jus say I'm me I love going under the pier and lookin for treasures from the ocean or people up above giggles you don't gotta be all pink n ruffle just cause your a girl I am very princess sometimes but I am also sometimes hey let's go ay in the mud make a fort an build a town for our matchbox cars to run threw when the mud dries up just be happy with the you you is that's all that matters

[premer89]

I am so happy to see how non-judgemental everyone is I was on fetlife and the woman were super snippy with me since I am new . It was like they were trying to to tell me how I was doing it all wrong. It was like we were competiting to see who was the most submissive which is not healthy

[Guest harlequinkid]

I guess I'm not your "typical" little, either. I like "girly" or "cutesy" things, but I also really, really like stuff that's "boyish"--comic books, superheroes, video games, etc. I sometimes go into little space, but other than that, certain aspects of my littleness are just a part of me. 

 

Sometimes I feel odd because I don't fit what I guess is the stereotype, but I feel less odd the more I surround myself with accepting people, & the more I work on accepting myself for who I am.