First Ever Punishment :'(

[Daddys_Little_Kitten]

I received my first ever punishment from Daddy... I broke one of His rules and he expressed how disappointed his was at me. I felt so bad, I started to cry He made me stand in the corner for five minutes, along with doing a few other things...

 

Do you remember your first punishment? Did you feel bad? I just feel very stupid for crying

[Guest Princess Dusty]

I don't think it's stupid to cry sweetie. Especially if you feel bad! It's hard when you break one of the rules and get punished. Especially with the disappointment factor.  My first ever punishment I cried the entire time. It wasn't because I was physically hurt, it was something similar to yours, but because I felt so horrible that I had disappointed my Dom. 

 

That's my personal experience anyway.

[Daddys_Little_Kitten]

I don't think it's stupid to cry sweetie. Especially if you feel bad! It's hard when you break one of the rules and get punished. Especially with the disappointment factor.  My first ever punishment I cried the entire time. It wasn't because I was physically hurt, it was something similar to yours, but because I felt so horrible that I had disappointed my Dom. 

 

That's my personal experience anyway.

Thank you for your input. I just felt so silly.  I'm used to being His good little and I broke a rule and I just felt really bad. Daddy ended up cuddling me after my punishment, which made me feel a lot better. Daddy doesn't ever show anger, but when he showed that disappointment, it just broke me.

[Guest Princess Dusty]

You are not silly in the least, at least not for this!  It's good that he cuddled you afterward that's what Daddy's are supposed to do! Once the punishment is done it's done. That's normal, it's not the anger that gets you, it's that disappointment. I understand.

[Daddys_Little_Kitten]

:3 I have never had a DaddyDom until my Daddy came into the picture, so it was really different for me. I'm new to DDLG and still getting used to Daddy's rules. Of course he made a list and I do good for the most part, but one had just slipped my mind. I'm glad that somebody understands! Sometimes I just need reassurance with my feelings towards my Daddy, His rules and punishments. Thank you :3

[LB Chris]

They way I look on it is it lets out those feelings of disapointment or shame even so there's nothing wrong with crying afterward but good aftercare matters and he's doing that

[Guest Princess Dusty]

It's no problem sweetie and if you ever need to talk, feel free to add me and I can always listen.

[Daddys_Little_Kitten]

It's no problem sweetie and if you ever need to talk, feel free to add me and I can always listen.

Thank you! It's nice to have a little friend :3 I added you as a friend!

[Daddys_Little_Kitten]

They way I look on it is it lets out those feelings of disapointment or shame even so there's nothing wrong with crying afterward but good aftercare matters and he's doing that

I'm glad :3 I thought me crying would make him even more disappointed, but I think he disliked punishing me more than I;

[Bull]

Speaking from a Master's perspective, it's very difficult to punish. I love my submissive dearly, and I don't like seeing her unhappy, especially because she works so hard to be the best submissive she can be. Punishments for her end up being a test for us both.

 

That said, in my dynamic, punishments are VERY helpful! They're a way of saving, "okay, that's over, it's time for us to move on". It's a very healthy thing, and if the punishment is successful, it erases the guilt from her and the disappointment from me. After my girl is properly punished and aftercare is implemented, it's a clean slate.

[Daddys_Little_Kitten]

 

Speaking from a Master's perspective, it's very difficult to punish. I love my submissive dearly, and I don't like seeing her unhappy, especially because she works so hard to be the best submissive she can be. Punishments for her end up being a test for us both.

 

That said, in my dynamic, punishments are VERY helpful! They're a way of saving, "okay, that's over, it's time for us to move on". It's a very healthy thing, and if the punishment is successful, it erases the guilt from her and the disappointment from me. After my girl is properly punished and aftercare is implemented, it's a clean slate.

 

I know it was hard for Daddy... What made it worse was when I tried talking myself out of a punishment and I realized how that made my Daddy feel. Even though I ended up taking the punishment, I did realize how much it had hurt Him as it had terrified me (first punishment ever and I had always been His good girl. Of course I was terrified when I broke a rule).  Now I know that if I do something wrong, not to use the puppy pouty lip and eyes and try to talk my way out of it. I know He does it because He cares for me very much. :3

[Guest Miss Braid]

I tend to find myself crying as soon as I've broken a rule and it's a relief to be punished and not have to feel guilty anymore.