[DamagedLittleKitten]

So i introduced a platonic friend of mine to DDLG and now he wants to pursue a relationship. Before i even told him what it was, he had never heard of it. Anyways he is being very adamant that he excepts that im a little and that he would be honored to have me call him daddy but i feel skeptical about it. Could he just be saying this so he can sleep with me or is he being sincere? Has anyone ever had this happen to them? If so, how did it go?

[Guest Tx_abdl]

Not to get into a “fake daddy” vs “real daddy” discussion but if he is that fast to adopt a dynamic that he was just introduced to, he may be using as a way to become more intimate with you rather than carrying on an actual ddlg dynamic. You mention he is a friend (not a person you are interested in) so my guess is he sees that as a way to pursue something more by playing towards something you enjoy.

[DamagedLittleKitten]

That is how i feel about it too but i dont want to completely write him off. I did explain that i am not just hoing to jump intoa relationship right away and i told him to research it.

[DamagedLittleKitten]

That is how i feel about it too but i dont want to completely write him off. I did explain that i am not just hoing to jump intoa relationship right away and i told him to research it.

[Guest Swadloon]

This isn’t setting off my “shady” radar like some people’s stories on here have.

 

Honestly, it sounds to me like he was interested in you before you even mentioned anything, and is jumping on the bandwagon of your likes and interests because of that. I don’t think his intentions are coming from a bad place, put it that way. I think he just wants to get closer to you. But since you pointed out that he is a platonic friend of yours, I’m getting the feeling that you don’t feel the same way towards him! I think you need to be clear with him about where you want things between you to go and what you would be comfortable with - if you want to stay as just platonic friends, best to tell him.

 

Edit: I read your last post! I think if he’s truly interested in you as a person and interested in being your Daddy, he’ll respect you wanting to take things slow and will look into it to get to know more about the type of relationship you’re looking for! If he takes offence to what you’ve told him, then that shows he isn’t serious.

Edited October 13, 2018 by Brightmoon

[DustBunny93]

I was thinking the same thing.

I was going to ask if he has ever had feelings for you. Because maybe if he has had secret feelings for you maybe in his opinion this is his way into a relationship with you. I think that's maybe why he is so quick to just jump into it.

 

Yes have him do research on not only ddlg in general but daddies.

 

Maybe explain to him in your own words what a daddy is to you. Let him know how you personally would want your daddy to act. I'm saying this because if he finds info on daddies and the dynamic he might just think daddies have to act a certain way (like spank for everything instead of giving different punishments that might work better).

You want a daddy who adapts to what you want (for example: you might want a daddy who is strict on bedtime but lenient with other things) and you make it work in the best way for each of you.

 

Now once you explain this to him and he does research, if you want him to be your daddy then go for it.

 

 

Edit:

I was just thinking that maybe you could have him be a "babysitter" to you. It would help introduce him into it and sorta show him what's involved with it without committing to being a daddy right away when he really doesn't have much knowledge of the dynamic. It also kinda might help you scope things out with him and let you see if he seems into it and serious.

Edited October 13, 2018 by LittleBunBun93

[Guest Aetherr]

I was just thinking that maybe you could have him be a "babysitter" to you. It would help introduce him into it and sorta show him what's involved with it without committing to being a daddy right away when he really doesn't have much knowledge of the dynamic. It also kinda might help you scope things out with him and let you see if he seems into it and serious.

 

 

^^^^ This ^^^ 

 

if you are considering this, you should consider spending time with him as a caregiver/babysitter send him ddlg related images and show him any little stuff you might have, i would also say you gotta tell him there's no guarantees you two will match but its worth a go. excellent way to see how he acts with little/no prior understanding of being a daddy and allows you the opportunity to share the lifestyle with a friend for a little while

 

but you should be open to him about your intentions and give him a fair chance to voice his intentions, that way he does not get into something because he things its a way to get closer to you and you don't feel betrayed by a friend!

[DamagedLittleKitten]

Thank you very much for the advice guys! I will take it all into consideration and use a combination of these suggestions and i have let him know that it is possible that we wouldnt be compatible. I just hope that if things dont work out that he will remain my friend

[DamagedLittleKitten]

Thank you very much for the advice guys! I will take it all into consideration and use a combination of these suggestions and i have let him know that it is possible that we wouldnt be compatible. I just hope that if things dont work out that he will remain my friend