Being a daddy but without the punishments?

[Guest Affectionateandloving]

Hello, I'm new to this.

 

I like the idea of dd/lg but I don't want it to be a lifestyle if that makes any sense.  I like it becuase I find it adorable.

 

I'll rather it be another way to express love to my partner.

 

I also don't like the idea of punishment as she would be my little girl and I wouldn't want to see her sad.

 

I'm also not really into rules, I would only have one rule; give daddy affection.

 

i also like Kittenplay but I don't really like the idea of collars (even though they look cute) as they appear to symbolize ownership and I'm not really into owning someone.

 

Am I strange?

[GentleDaddyDom]

Not at all! The wonderful thing about the dynamic, as I tell to many people asking questions like yours: There are no cookie cutter shapes you're expected to fill. You're given a big ol' sheet of dough, and you shape your cookies yourself. You could just shove the whole sheet into the oven as is and make a mega monster cookie cake, or roll it into a million tiny cookie orbs!

 

There's nothing strange about that. You'd be hard pressed to find two people with a relationship based on/containing this dynamic, that are exactly the same. You and your partner will form your relationships based off of what you want, what you need, and what it means to you! And that's entirely okay. It's your life, and your relationship.

[minachan16]

Hello, I'm new to this.

 

I like the idea of dd/lg but I don't want it to be a lifestyle if that makes any sense.  I like it becuase I find it adorable.

 

I'll rather it be another way to express love to my partner.

 

I also don't like the idea of punishment as she would be my little girl and I wouldn't want to see her sad.

 

I'm also not really into rules, I would only have one rule; give daddy affection.

 

i also like Kittenplay but I don't really like the idea of collars (even though they look cute) as they appear to symbolize ownership and I'm not really into owning someone.

 

Am I strange?

 

My daddy is the same way, so no, you're not strange at all

 

However, you should be conscious of what your little wants as well. Littles crave structure and rules because it establishes boundaries for them to walk up to and sometimes break to see what happens, much like a biological child. While you don't want to punish or set rules for your little, be conscious that your little may want some structure in place to really define that she is indeed a little and you are her daddy. You don't have to spank her or any kind of physical punishment. Time-outs are very effective. When I really misbehave, daddy says our safe word to pull me out of little space and calm me down before I can go back in.

 

Everything in any relationship dynamic is trial and error. The most important thing is that both of you have fun

[Kenguin]

I dont really like much of the structure, I think I'd like giving some of the spanking once in a while,

 

but like, you I want, more chilling but still there role as a daddy/caregiver type

glad other people like this too

[Trixie]

no,I don't think you are strange. What If your little is behaving in an inappropriate manner? How will you get your desired outcome? How will your little get her desired outcome?

[Beckie]

The dynamic depends on the people in it. You are not strange at all   Trust us!

As for punishment, it does depend on the people in it. I love a good spanking and don't view it as much of a punishment (until the paddle come out. ouch)

But I am curious to what you would do if your little acted out? Obviously  punishment isn't the only way to discipline a person.

[The Perennial Princess]

My papa bear does not punish me. He may reprimand me quite gently, but that is the extent of it. However, my personal goal as a baby is to be the best I can be at all times. Therefore, I strive for perfection and goodness and do not seek discipline. I seek guidance and daily teaching and learn from it as best I can so I do not make any mistakes. Immense respect for one another is inherent in our dynamic and we therefore seek to maintain that element of respect by behaving in a way that pleases the other. To make my papa bear unhappy is to make myself unbearably unhappy which is ample punishment enough. I've always been a bit of a perfectionist by nature so this is quite natural for me and like you, my papa bear does not like to make me sad and would therefore dislike punishing me. He sees me as a little flower, and I try my best to be one.