Posting in Personals

[Dominari]

Any one else hesitant to post in the personals? Part of me feels like it could be a good way to meet other littles. But another part of me feels like it comes across as being desperate. I see some Daddies that reply to almost every post almost fishing for a little. I would have to think quality over quantity is the best approach.

 

Thoughts?

[DavidUK21]

I don’t think it comes across desperate. It’s a great way to introduce yourself and your interests and see others as well. Some daddies might reply to everyone but that doesn’t mean you have to. I definitely agree with quality over quantity though. Good luck

[Guest Arc]

I once posted a personal to FL. I remember how nervous I was and didn't want to come across as desperate or an easy target for also desperate people lol. But that's just a feeling. It's rare that that's how it comes across.

 

We're all adults here and the majority of us want a partner to share special things with. There's nothing desperate or wrong with making a post to say you're looking. It makes it much easier to approach the idea of looking into a relationship with someone when you know they're actively seeking someone. I don't know many females who have the confidence to message someone and ask if they'd be interested lol. Having a personal kinda just makes that scary step a little smaller. 

 

There are some people who do come across as desperate, though. The ones that copy and paste the same reply on every single new personal. If you can't take the time to individually reply to people you are genuinely interested in because you're too busy trying to message everyone in the hopes you'll get an answer from even just one out of a hundred... that seems kinda desperate to me. >< 

[Guest Professor Optics]

There are some people who do come across as desperate, though. The ones that copy and paste the same reply on every single new personal. If you can't take the time to individually reply to people you are genuinely interested in because you're too busy trying to message everyone in the hopes you'll get an answer from even just one out of a hundred... that seems kinda desperate to me. >< 

 

I copy paste messages. They're "templates" I write before hand, and tailor it for the individual as I go. Honestly, with the amount of times I've been ghosted/rejected/blown off, I just can't be bothered expending so much energy writing well thought out messages for every little, or human, that peeks my interest, just to have them ghost/reject/or blow me off. I put my all into every relationship I'm interested in having, and it's draining to find out after so much effort that all they wanted was a few nudes to blow them over for a while, ghost, reject or blow me off.. So if they're interested, they'll message me, and i'll put a little more effort in the longer the conversation goes. But they don't get full effort, until I know they are willing to put in the effort themselves.

 

Regarding OP: I feel like that too.. though i feel like that with every online dating app: tinder, okcupid, bumble, you name it. Part of me feels: "Am i that desperate to have to resort to online media to find a girl to be with... what the hell is wrong with me..." I do it anyway, because it at least gives a chance to meet someone splendid...

Edited October 9, 2018 by Professor Optics

[Guest Aetherr]

think about the community we are in, some people here are living in a town where they know nobody into bdsm let alone ddlg, as for the thing about daddies replying, i dont think you quite realise just how many little's and daddies ghost, and whats wrong with getting to know a bunch of people before making a choice? i don't see that as desperate sometimes you will message a bunch of people and end up making a bunch of new friends or all of them will ghost or you wont like them and just maybe, 1 or two will hit it off with you and you will have a potential friend in one and a potential partner in the other    desperation has nothing to do with it from my point of view, its a matter of practicality and putting yourself out there to meet people....

[Guest Longlegs]

think about the community we are in, some people here are living in a town where they know nobody into bdsm let alone ddlg, as for the thing about daddies replying, i dont think you quite realise just how many little's and daddies ghost, and whats wrong with getting to know a bunch of people before making a choice? i don't see that as desperate sometimes you will message a bunch of people and end up making a bunch of new friends or all of them will ghost or you wont like them and just maybe, 1 or two will hit it off with you and you will have a potential friend in one and a potential partner in the other    desperation has nothing to do with it from my point of view, its a matter of practicality and putting yourself out there to meet people....

I don't think there's anything inherently bad about talking to a bunch of people while looking.

However, it is - in my experience - a huge factor in why people ghost.

Some folks get drained from all the social interaction, while some do find a person with whom they want to pursue a relationship.

Tons of possibilities there, really. But from what I understand, ghosting is often rooted in the different "candidates" being wholly unaware of each other.