Moving in with my little

[Snow]

So my little (LMC) and I are talking about moving in together and actually moving to another state. She is much younger than I am and her parents don't approve of our relationship, simply because of our age difference of 20 years. I've offered many times to sit down and talk with her mother in hopes of explaining how much I care about her daughter and that I only want the best for her. But she refuses. Instead, she likes to ambush me when I come to her house to pick up LMC. She likes to yell at me about how she doesn't approve or she tells me that she wants me to break up with her daughter and tell her it was my idea. So I'm just posting this here to seek advice. Have any daddies here experienced this? I feel like the right thing to do is to tell her parents that we are moving. But I'm not sure how to go about it. My little and I have come to the conclusion that her parents will never understand and so we shouldn't try to make them. And we are ready to start our life together in a new place. We are making a plan and setting a date to move. I feel like we should wait to tell her parents we are leaving until just a few days before. I wish we could get their blessing, but I don't think that will ever happen. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

 

- snow

[DaddyandMunchkin]

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. My mother didn't/still doesn't approve of my relationship with my little (her parents don't really seem to care about much that goes on in her life, in a bad way). My mother doesn't know we are DDlg, but disapproved of the fact that she is 7 years older and disabled. She thought it would be too much "work." This was 9-10 years ago when I was 17-18. When I was 18, I went behind my mothers back, planned the trip, bought the ticket and left home with only a backpack of clothes on my back and $500 in my wallet. I left my mother a note, explaining that I needed to do what I needed to do. Since then, a decade later I have been disowned (for other reasons) however my relationship with my little is strong as all hell. Given your little is legal age, there isn't really anything her parents can do to her or you. I would say sit down with her parents, and your little, and have her tell them that you are moving and that whether  you get their blessing or not, it's not going to stop you guys from being happy together. They may come around one day, they may not. If you know this will be useless, have your little write her parents a note the morning of your move, and jet. What's important is you have found a home in each other and love each other. Best of luck. 

[Snow]

Thank you for the advice DaddyandMunchkin. I will share it with my little as we continue to plan for our move. I'm so glad to have this forum

[Sarah]

I am currently living a similar situation: I also have to move from my mother's house to go back to my father's house because we really don't get on anymore.

And like you I was planning to announce it to her at the very last moment, if fact the same day I'll go.

 

You told us about telling her parents a few days before, but what I fear is that your little's parent will go really mad and do something crazy like throwing her stuff out or trying to hurt you or something. I think waiting as long as possible is the best solution. But do you really want to cut the link? That also depends on her parents but I know my mother won't talk to me the first few months. Maybe your little and you could try writting them a letter?

 

Also how are you planning to move her stuff to your new place? (personally, if it can help, I'm trying to do it without my mother realizing so that the day I move there isn't too much stuff left)

 

Take care =)

[DelilahDream]

If your little already lives on her own, I'd just go and give them a call after the fact. At the end of the day, their opinion doesn't matter. She's an adult, she can make her own decisions about what or who makes her happy. I can definitely relate too. My mother doesn't approve of my Daddy either. But I am the happiest I've ever been with him. He's a good man, hardworking, amazing with my kids, and I really see us being together for the long haul. I'm not about to let my mother stand in the way of that. You all shouldn't either. Her parents be damned, do what makes you happy. Good luck!