Giving up on being a daddy/mommy dom?

[Dom.Taylor]

Should someone give up on being a daddy/mommy? Should you only try bring a daddy/mommy if you have that instinct? Can that instinct be developed?

 

I’m just wondering what the community would answer

[Guest Avi]

Im so tired bc its past 3 am so gonna keep it a lil short. For me, the whole dom experience is heavily influenced by my partner. The person im with kind of dictates how much of a dom i am. It depends how well it suits our relationship. I dont try to force it but i dont try to hide it either, so for me its really optional and i guess you could say itd not hard for me to "turn it off"

[Guest Loki]

I give up periodically. My soul is tired. I still want someone to love, though, so I keep coming back. I guess I’m a masochist in that regard.

[DustBunny93]

I am answering this as a little. I'm not a Dom or switch, I'm just a little. But I too sometimes feel like giving up. Some days it's hard being a little.

I mostly feel this when my depression is a little worse than normal. But I don't give up because I know that being a little is part of me no matter if I act little or not.

Don't give up. If it's something you are interested in or feel like it's part of you please don't give up on it. I feel that as you get experience it will come more natural and become a part of you.

[Guest Revurex]

 I think the more helpful question a person in that position should ask is why do they want to be a mommy/daddy? I suppose anything can be learned but If it doesn't become something they desire or that they're passionate about then what's the point? If it's only to appease someone else it won't work out.

[Guest Arc]

I could never give up who I am. I think everyone has days where they're like "ugh I wish I was someone else" but really we can't change who we are. We should embrace it because it's what makes us who we are. 

 

It depends what your reasons are. If you have absolutely no interest or passion then yes. Don't do something you're not interested in or that you don't care about. If you're just having an off day/week/month, or if you're just feeling unsure.... then take some time to work out what you want and go with that. I won't say someone should or shouldn't give up on being a daddy/mommy because it's more complex than that. It depends on your reasons. 

[Cell]

Hmmmmmmm. I would say, try to be the thing that makes you most happy

If you’re being something that doesn’t make you happy then you are probably being the wrong thing!

After you figure out what thing you are, then you can worry about what to call it. It might not be called mommy or daddy!

[baby_k]

Consider what you think means someone is daddy/mommy. Maybe you have too high expectation of that and it wears you down.

 

I found my current partner from this site and he was only interested in the ddlg in bedroom setting. But the way we work together made it super natural for him to act daddylike even I was not expecting to get that from him. Nice bonus, I admit

 

So, sometimes it is about people and how they go together which really forms the dynamic. Like he has been super supriced how much he enjoys taking care of me and how automatically it happens even with 0 experience and initial interest to it. Of course there is a lot to learn still but that is more about us starting to know each other well than ddlg.

[Guest Aetherr]

in my eyes, being a dom is not something i can stop doing, just like any facet of a personality, its there to stay unless you put serious effort into changing it, for me being a daddy is as natural as breathing, its who i am and i am glad for the little who helped me find myself even if i no longer get along with her.

Edited October 7, 2018 by Aetherr

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

For me being a Little comes as second nature... It's not something i Try to be. I imagine being a Dom/me is much of the same thing - If you're forcing it or hoping to get an instinct for it.. You're probably gonna have a bad time.