The struggle of being a Muslim daddy

[Dadd-ydo-m]

I found out about Ddlg about 5 years ago and I've become a daddy after a year of reading about it and learning! But I've never imagined I'd face a certain type of struggle that will make me feel bad about myself!

 

I was born ( and still live ) in an African country, i don't want to name it cuz somehow it makes others not wanting to be with me , but that's not the only problem, the main one is being a Muslim, i like my religion, trust me it's not what you see on the News , and movies !

I was raised to respect other people's beliefs, but ( from my personal experience) I've struggled a lot on talking to littles after they find out about my religion!

 

Through my experience i have categorized the problems into 3 types :

1- long distance relationships: that's not really a problem, i understand that many littles don't want to be in LDR , so it's completely fine but sometimes i can that it's just an excuse to get away from the conversation! But long distance is not the worst part.

 

2- not understanding The religion: littles get scared the moment they realize im a Muslim , some littles just stop talking immediately and they just block me , others go a bit more and start using words like "terrorist" and that's can be really hurtful.

3- making them covert : another problem that really annoys me , some littles think i will magically make them Muslims too ! I tell them that im not interested in making them Muslims, if they read about and like it , that's good , if they read about and didn't like , that's also good. Religion ( and atheism ) is a personal belief, i respect yours and you respect mine!

 

Now you might ask how would that effect me as a daddy, well in many cases, i start talking to a little and we get along well ,for few months everything is fine, until i mention that I'm a Muslim and everything changes , then i get no replies after that !

It actually effects me a lot that I've become very self conscious about my own beliefs and my location too! I try to avoid talking about those and that only leads to problems cuz i feel like im lying and tricking the little Im talking to !

 

I hope other Muslims don't have the same struggle! And i hope no little and no daddy struggle is any way !

 

If you have any questions or additions , feel free to ask or add!

 

Have a nice day !

 

Ps: im not overgeneralizing , i know many littles are nice and have no problem with muslim daddies , this topic is based on my personal experience

[Little Illy]

I am sincerely sorry you are experiencing this. I've been discriminated against for being an American in Australia. That nearly broke me, so I can't even imagine dealing with this due to your religion.

 

I have a few Muslim friends and I know for a fact that what is on the news is extremists, not the religion. 

 

I hate to say it, but maybe you should just make a disclaimer on a personal or your profile. Explain you are Muslim, but more importantly, explain what you believe and what you DONT believe in (like the radicals). A lot of time the sudden drop can cause the anxiety in littles. If they believe media or if they have had a bad experience, suddenly hearing you are Muslim may be a shock and their initial reaction is back far away. 

 

The same thing can be said with mental illness or physical disability. My Daddy is in a wheelchair with quite a few genetic conditions. He had the wheelchair on his profile and he explained his physical reality to me in our first long conversation. So when I started seeing pictures of him, I wasn't shocked. Your situation is similar - explain what you believe in so when you go to reference it, or talk about it, the little isn't surprised.

 

Besides, boldly stating upfront you are Muslim and proud of who you are, that will deter any littles who don't understand or are misguided or simply are not compatible. Stating you are a Muslim will help draw in those who are "okay" with "it." 

 

I hope you don't have to deal with this much longer, I know it sucks only to the extent of my experience and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I wish you the very best of luck

[EricaSub24]

Heyyy, I'm a little and I couldn't care less where you're from or what religion you choose. All I want to know is do you care more for showering your little with attention or do you prefer spanking? Xxxxxxxxxx

[Pumpkin_Bubble_Princess]

I deal with the exact same thing. I honestly, have been looking for Muslim friends who are into the aspects of BDSM and ddlg, because I am a Muslim little and id like to find friends who don't discriminate against me because we share the bond of Islam. I'd like to be friends with non-Muslim littles to, yet, they seem to not stay long after I've shared the fact that I am Muslim and a little. It's comforting to know that there are Muslims into DDLG and I am not some type of abomination to be forever alone XD but Thank you for sharing your experience it has helped me, truly.  

[Guest Arc]

People tend to expect the worst. Especially when it comes to strangers on the internet. It's sad but there's just so many horror stories out there that it does make people extra cautious and/or scared. 

 

I think it could be good if you explain more on your personal ads and/or profile about what it means to you, and that you're accepting and supportive of other religions and even atheism. Because reading it and then having the opportunity to discuss it is nicer than having it dropped on you. A lot of people just get scared and run away, so maybe a gentle approach like them coming to you if they're interested could help. 

 

As an atheist I will admit I find it intimidating when talking to a potential partner who is religious because there are so many out there who try shove it down your throat or force you to convert. It's great that you're open and accepting - massive credit to you. You just need to find a way to get that across, but it will only work with someone who is at least somewhat open minded about it in the first place. 

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[LittleCelticLass]

I angers me that you get treated this way. I couldn't care less about a person's personal relationship with their God(s). As long as they are decent human beings.

As a pagan, and a witch, I've faced similar discrimination. I truly hope that you find a little who will love you for who you are, including accepting your religion.

[UpstateNewYorkDaddy]

Why don't you try this relationship with someone in your country?

[Dadd-ydo-m]

I angers me that you get treated this way. I couldn't care less about a person's personal relationship with their God(s). As long as they are decent human beings.

As a pagan, and a witch, I've faced similar discrimination. I truly hope that you find a little who will love you for who you are, including accepting your religion.

Im sorry you faced similar discrimination, i hope it didn't effect your little side !

[Dadd-ydo-m]

Why don't you try this relationship with someone in your country?

Because people here don't know what ddlg is, i can have a vanilla relationship, but i don't want to, i can't be happy in a relationship i don't like from the beginning!

[Guest Thisshyone]

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I feel so bad for you. My family is Muslim and when I mention it people like to crack jokes, asking if they can marry me for 20 sheeps, etc. Sterotypes come with the religion, like people assuming I'm obedient and Muslim; I'm not muslim and a few people have told me I'm a brat. lol. So I know how you feel.

 

It's sad you are fighting against two negatives. Media and people that use Islam in a bad way. I know that a muslim man can be with a woman of any religion and that she does NOT ever have to convert. You should add that to your profile as well. I point this fact out because every time I have been approached by a woman asking about Islam they say that their muslim boyfriend is telling them they can't be together until she converts. It is a really terrible way to trick a person and the fact is that the guys are withholding telling them they're muslim until the girl is already invested in them. That being said I respect you all the more for being up front about being Muslim and telling littles about your religion right away. Bravo to you! I hope you find a little that loves you for who you are as a person and can respect your choice of religion.

[Aaziz832]

Respect gore a long way and it’s been lost throughout the years! Don’t be discouraged! I myself am a Muslim Daddy! I have had a bit better luck with littles when explaining my religion, but religion and politics is something I do not like to speak of! Like you’ve stated, you will respect theirs and they can respect yours! Knowledge is power and if you get the chance to give them a bit of knowledge, they’d have a better understanding! I think you’ll do absolutely wonderful and do not let these little things discourage you! As long as you know how to be an amazing Daddy, that’s all that should matter! Good luck buddy!

[Princess nona]

حسنا لما لا تتعرف على ليتلل عربية و مسلمة سيكون هذا اسهل ....بنسبة لك وتجنبآ لمواجهة هذا الصراع

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

حسنا لما لا تتعرف على ليتلل عربية و مسلمة سيكون هذا اسهل ....بنسبة لك وتجنبآ لمواجهة هذا الصراع

What does this say Nona? Can you translate to English, please.

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

I advise you to put on your page and in your description that you are Muslim and that it's important to you but you accept others of any religion. This way people who don't like Muslims won't talk to you in the first place. I know that's lame but you'll preemptively dodge bullets (metaphorically) and you'll know whoever talks to you doesn't have a problem with it

[little1grl]

I think that's really sad. I know that Muslims get a really bad reputation in the media because of the extremists, but I think it's really sad that so so many littles are turned off by this. Nobody should call you a terrorist for your beliefs.

[LittleTeacup]

Yeah, being called a terrorist simply for being Muslim just shows how ignorant those people are. Be glad you aren't with them.

 

For me, I don't really care whether someone calls themselves Muslim, Christian, Jew, Hindu, Buddhist, or any other religious group. The real question is whether your religion is an expression of love or an expression of control/fear. One either loves the Great Love or runs away from it.