Heartbroken little. How do I get closure?

[Guest HippieLittle]

L Edited April 17, 2019 by HippieLittle

[Guest QueenJellybean]

oh, boy. 

what an awful situation. 

i've so been there. 

 

unfortunately, there's only so much you can do here. 

you can't force him to stop being an immature baby & reply to you. 

i'd say make sure you've said all you want to, & then delete him, block him, whatever you need to do. 

 

if he won't give you the respect of a reply, i say you deprive him of the option of doing so later. 

 

edit: i realize this is harsh, but it's just my opinion.

unless you want to wait it out more, that's the only closure i can think of. 

[sullenDaddybones]

Had this happen before a lot. Unfortunately some things will never close or be fully resolved. Time will dull them out eventually... you will forget and up to you to forgive.

I had to end it with daddy after he was ignoring my messages and was barely talking to me. The only thing is, he is ignoring my break up messages that I sent 3 days ago even though he is online and because of this I am struggling to get closure. Has anyone got any advice for me please? I am totally heartbroken over this and he's really messed with my emotions. I just feel lost. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Guest HippieLittle]

 

oh, boy. 

what an awful situation. 

i've so been there. 

 

unfortunately, there's only so much you can do here. 

you can't force him to stop being an immature baby & reply to you. 

i'd say make sure you've said all you want to, & then delete him, block him, whatever you need to do. 

 

if he won't give you the respect of a reply, i say you deprive him of the option of doing so later. 

 

edit: i realize this is harsh, but it's just my opinion.

unless you want to wait it out more, that's the only closure i can think of. 

Thank you so much. I unfriended him but didn't block him as I was giving him the chance to reply but I think 3 days is enough time.

[Guest HippieLittle]

Had this happen before a lot. Unfortunately some things will never close or be fully resolved. Time will dull them out eventually... you will forget and up to you to forgive.

Thank you so much, appreciated.

[Guest KinderCanuck]

Thank you so much. I unfriended him but didn't block him as I was giving him the chance to reply but I think 3 days is enough time.

Blocking him is likely the best for you. You offered him respect and dignity now is your chance to offer the same to yourself.  You are worthy of it and deserve nothing but the best

[Guest HippieLittle]

Blocking him is likely the best for you. You offered him respect and dignity now is your chance to offer the same to yourself.  You are worthy of it and deserve nothing but the best

You're the best man!

[Tinka]

This kid is not a daddy. 

[Guest Arc]

I've been in this situation before 3-4 years ago. It was an irl relationship too and he just refused to see or talk to me so I broke it off. It may not be the best advice.... but what I did was get angry and break shit lol. I went to the local gun club one weekend when they had an open clay pigeon shooting day. It was great lol. 

 

You've already wasted enough time waiting around for him. I say block him and find a way to move on. If getting angry and breaking shit isn't your style.... then go treat yourself to something you enjoy but maybe don't always do. Maybe something like having your nails done, go to a fancy cafe, go see a movie and buy all of the snacks they have, or buy a teddy bear the same size as you. ^^

[Guest HippieLittle]

A huge thank you to everyone. Today is a better day x

[SmartAssLittle]

if he ignoring you, he does not care.

[Alaskan Daddy]

Hi

I understand what you want from this man. But you may never get what you want from him and I know that is hard. But it sounds like he left the relationship long ago and was just waiting for you to end it because he did not have the courage to do it himself.

You can still get closure but on your terms. You can walk away knowing you are a wonderful person and acted mature and with love to keep things going. Even if he responded it would probably would not be an honest response from his heart, it would be just a bunch of B.S. 

I know you will have some questions from him that you want answered and that will sting for a while. But you have lots of people on this site that will give you love and support.

[Funeral]

I'm very sorry that this happened to you, feeling neglected is never a way to treat a little. Or anyone for that matter. 

I know you'll find a better person, it just takes time.