Hey new Daddy with a new little looking for advice and direction!

[BMJ]

So we are both pretty new to this in several ways and I am trying to be on top of this to help us better explore and figure things out together. I think I will directing her here later when she is ready to talk to others about it to help her part. 

 

Essentially we are an age gap couple and she (the little) is the one who started bringing up the dynamic. It took me a bit to start taking the hint in full and understand she was serious about it. Initially I thought she was just being cute or just liked calling me 'Daddy' but it became clear she is certain and serious that is how she would like things. Neither of us have experience in this and I sort of hand to sift around to find out if there was something similar to our dynamic and interest.  The more I have read and talked to her about it the more certain we are this is the type of thing we are both excited for. However I have some general concerns before I want to really start pushing forward in this dynamic as I may also be misinterpreting things I've read so far.

 

 

My little is certain she wants to be treated child like. She loves when I call her childish pet names and tell her what a good girl she is. She is very playful and happy and wants to treat me as a daddy who looks out for her and cares for her.

 

The point of concern is her preference when things become sexual she still likes the DD/LG dynamic. However she goes from wanting gentle kindness and sweetness to wanting to be shamed/ belittled. She likes the idea of being told how wrong she is to be turned on or to be attracted to something. She knows she wants the after care which I know I can do. I just don't know if there is something specific regarding the sudden want to be treated like an object. So far aside from that and her extreme sexuality everything else in our normal interactions and even some intimate moments feels very much DD/LG so far.

 

 

I also wanted to bring up that with the whole DD/LG thing and out age gap she is 19 now and I am turning 28 soon. My concern with this is if anyone has experience with it if she just likes the age gap stuff or maybe because she is younger she wants to be a little more? While almost all signs I've seen point to this dynamic for us she isn't quiet to the point of coloring books. Probably in a mindset slightly older but still very child like tho I haven't explored all of that with her just yet since we only really started moving forward with this.

 

 

My bdsm.org test post https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15388-bdsm-test-your-daddylittle-aspects-and-some-others/page-29#entry183541 

Plan to have her take the test later today when she wakes up from her nap.

 

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Wanted to elaborate to sort of support at least my side and my feelings regarding becoming/being a DD. I absolutely fell for her hard when we first got together and at some point I just told myself I'd give her my all. Since she is younger I want her to feel she has all her opportunities open to her. I don't want her to feel constrained in how she will progress in life because of our relationship. I am absolutely happy to spend time just playing with her. I want to protect her from a lot of harsh reality and help ease her into things in life that most would have to take head first. I honestly get excited treating her as someone who not only wants but needs my protection and care. That I can make sure she is not only happy but also comfortable with everything we do. 

Edited September 20, 2018 by BMJ

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[BMJ]

Thanks for the response I kind of glazed over this site initially to be honest. I was really trying to check around to see where was active and where was dead in terms of communities. I appreciate the warm welcome! Will probably edit the head post later since it got shifted here from introductions.

[Little Illy]

Sorry for the recycled response below, however I have heard at least some of these help. This forum has a massive wealth of information and a lot of it contains comments with all sorts of different perspectives and tips. 

 

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This also may seem pedantic, but I have written so many pieces on those just entering this community, a BDSM community and/or needing help with the fundamentals. I am just gonna link my pieces below:

 

https://www.ddlgforu...thread-adapted/ (SFW) - the absolute basics that you need to consider in regards to who you are and what you want/can handle.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-gratification/ (SFW) - explains why, especially in this community, time is a necessity and you need to be sure you take consideration in who you partner up with.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...d-to-be-single/ (SFW) - jumping right into a relationship will not help you figure out who you are in this community or what you may like. It does increase the risk of being hurt or manipulated as you are new. 

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-end-of-things/ (SFW) - this piece kinda breaks up the dynamic in a more understandable way. Do you like this as a kink and only in the bedroom, or do you want to live this every day, day in and day out and never break from it? This piece helps clear that up a bit.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...mean-powerless/ (SFW) - this is something every CG and Little needs to remember. It doesn't matter if you are a little, a sub, a pet, a brat, a whatever, if you are in a relationship where your partner assumes some sort of authority over you (even if it is just enforcing bedtime), you will ALWAYS have the right to say NO whenever you need and WANT to.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...ation-is-vital/ (SFW) - this is my most important piece. It explains how communication is literally the foundation of this dynamic and any relationship.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-needs-to-stop/ (SFW) - this is my second most important piece. It goes into detail explaining how the term 'fake' is a plague in our community, when in reality what you are seeing (and those expectations people have of you) are incompatibility. 

 

Those are a few from my collection, but I have been told they are a great help to those just starting out. I wish you the very best and myself and a lot of people are always around if you ever have questions. Good luck and welcome to the community!