How do you deal with busy mommys an daddys

[Austinjb1]

Edited September 17, 2018 by Austinjb1

[Guest Aetherr]

this is also relevant to doms who have a busy little, my little works a ton and its not out of the norm for her to be unreachable for up to 25-26 hours at a time and usually she is exhausted and only interested in talking before promptly falling asleep, it get really lonely sometimes

Edited September 17, 2018 by Aetherr

[Austinjb1]

Thats sort of how my mommy is but she tries to have time for me on her breaks an before she sleeps but she tries her best an thats all i could ask of her.

[Little Illy]

Thats sort of how my mommy is but she tries to have time for me on her breaks an before she sleeps but she tries her best an thats all i could ask of her.

 

The honest, blunt, 100% truth is you need to start living your life the way she is. What do you do as an individual? Do you work, do you have hobbies, an active social life, familial obligations, etc? What is happening is that because there is more time when she is busy, you are feeling more and more disconnected (Which is normal), however, what you need to do to "deal" with her being away is to start doing things for you. 

 

She staying late at work? Read a book, do a craft, make a super different dinner for the heck of it. My point is, don't fixate on her being away. The more you fixate, the more it bothers you. The more it bothers you, the unhappier you get and the more your Mommy can feel it. The more your Mommy can feel this tension, then more tension is added into the relationship over something she cannot change. And so on.

 

Working especially isn't something to be worried about - if she was going out with her friends every night, or if she was just not making time for you and she didn't work, then that would be a problem. But working, as you made a lovely tribute, is something she needs/wants in her life and your support will mean the world to her. But because it is work, unfortunately, it is a legit reason to be gone all of the time.

 

So while she has something occupying her time (like work) I always recommend their partners find something productive that they enjoy to occupy their time. This decreases the risk of loneliness turning into obsession.

[MadelynVictoria]

My daddy is also busy a lot, and I only get some actual time with him (albeit over Skype, we're LDR at the moment) at nighttime. I have to force myself to realize daddy is busy, and distract myself however I can (watching tv shows, playing games, doing homework, etc) until I can talk with him and be with him

[Kitten Fluff]

My daddy has school (college) And even though he sort of has short hours he's always busy with work. I distract my time by doing things for me! Reading, cleaning, walking..I do things that make it seem like less time has passed by that I have talked to him

Edited September 18, 2018 by Bunny Fluff

[Guest DeOriginalMittens]

Well, I am not a little, however I am a daddy. I work, and need to sleep for work, and my schedule is difficult to work with. My little lives in another country as well, and if I stay up until she goes to bed and sleep when she does i'll only get about... 3 hours of sleep hehe. So managing ones work, sleep, and free time to spend with your partner is difficult to do. And honeslty, it depends on the couples. I will stay up late and sacrifice sleep for my little, however, this can become quite pointless if the little (or you in this case) becomes busy with other things. This could be important things like work, doctors, etc. But most littles tend to put more time and value into friends, or just doing random "fun" things than they do their mommy/daddy/caregivers/dom. And it's actually the same the other way around. As a dom/CG/DD, I lose a lot of time to myself to make communication work, I lose all that time for whatever I want. To go shopping, hang with friends, playing games, etc, just to spend time with my little. So you've got a lot of choices that can help with this, or will fix it, some more unreasonable that others (But it is technically still a choice you can make.). I'll do my best not to list obvious ones. 

 

1. Talk to your mommy. See if she can change around her schedule. Instead of going to bed right after work, she can make it where she wakes up and has to go to work instead. or vice versa. Normally. I like to sleep right after work then wake up, but I now stay up after work and wake up rushing to work. It is a sacrifice I made to have more time with my little. 

 

2. Same as above, but with you. Maybe you could put aside some things in your life (if any), that could help create time for each other.

 

3. if neither of the above are possible, then go with a more obvious route. Go find something to do until she talks to you. I am 30, and there is something I learned the very very very hard way in life. When a human being wants something bad enough, they'll do anything to get it. And I mean anything. So instead of staying free and open all day checking your phone, waiting, just relax, spend time with others, make friends, play games, color, do arts and crafts. Pass the time so it doesn't seem like forever. 

 

There are more but I only gave you the best 3 advice I could think of without compromising my moralistic integrity. I can give more if you must, just add me and ask for more if need be. 

[Austinjb1]

Thanks to all the great suggestions.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

My Daddy works like a mofo and takes pretty much any opportunity to do overtime.

Which I’m really proud of him for. But I wish he’d purposefully decline a day or two to get some rest, and get to spend time with him.

 

We live together but I barely see him more than a couple of hours per day. And he’s usually gaming during that time, so it’s not like actually spending time together.

 

Tl;dr- it sucks to miss your mommy/daddy .-.

 

Hope some of the suggestions help you work it out with her.

[ilylily]

Hey friend! My Daddy is not usually busy, but he plays at the football team at his university, so lately he's been busy with practice, schoolwork and also managing a part time job, while I know that can be tough and I know how hard he works and how tired he gets I still miss him because I'm the type to feel lonely easily. Doesn't help that we're also LDR and he's 1300 miles away from me. So, yeah, it suucks but I think you should make little space YOUR personal space and do stuff that you like, keep yourself busy so you won't miss your mommy too much, also you could focus on stuff that makes your mommy proud so that way she'll get happy to see that you're working hard as well and as always, enjoy the time you spend together to the most of it!

[Guest Arc]

Keep yourself busy with... whatever it is you do. Work, study, sports, gaming, chores, movies, etc. Keep yourself busy because when you focus on her being away it feels like time goes so much slower ._. 

 

If you get really stuck for what to do - make something for her. Draw her a picture or colour something in or something else she would like. Then when she is back you have something nice for her. ^^

[Guest DuckDaddy66]

My suggestion and the way my little and I have been able to stay connected in our long distance relationship is to keep in touch short but frequently.  Like text or  facebook messenger.  Keep the conversation short if she is really busy.