Advice to a new Little???

[himesamayuni]

I don't know what to do. I know I'm new to it and I love it, but I feel like I'm such a terrible little to my Daddy. I'm so emotional and I get so in my head that it drives me crazy. He's such an amazing Daddy. I want to be the best for him, but I feel like I'm doing everything wrong. It makes me feel so bad. I'm not very good at communication, but I'm trying. Sometimes it just feels like everything is closing in on me. I don't know if this fits here, but to anyone that can help me, it is so greatly appreciated.

Thank You.

[Little Illy]

You mentioned you have trouble communicating, here is a technique a few people have found helpful:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/34860-trouble-communicating-to-new-partners/

 

 

This also may seem pedantic, but I have written so many pieces on those just entering this community, a BDSM community and/or needing help with the fundamentals. I am just gonna link my pieces below:

 

https://www.ddlgforu...thread-adapted/ (SFW) - the absolute basics that you need to consider in regards to who you are and what you want/can handle.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-gratification/ (SFW) - explains why, especially in this community, time is a necessity and you need to be sure you take consideration in who you partner up with.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...d-to-be-single/ (SFW) - jumping right into a relationship will not help you figure out who you are in this community or what you may like. It does increase the risk of being hurt or manipulated as you are new. 

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-end-of-things/ (SFW) - this piece kinda breaks up the dynamic in a more understandable way. Do you like this as a kink and only in the bedroom, or do you want to live this every day, day in and day out and never break from it? This piece helps clear that up a bit.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...mean-powerless/ (SFW) - this is something every CG and Little needs to remember. It doesn't matter if you are a little, a sub, a pet, a brat, a whatever, if you are in a relationship where your partner assumes some sort of authority over you (even if it is just enforcing bedtime), you will ALWAYS have the right to say NO whenever you need and WANT to.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...ation-is-vital/ (SFW) - this is my most important piece. It explains how communication is literally the foundation of this dynamic and any relationship.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-needs-to-stop/ (SFW) - this is my second most important piece. It goes into detail explaining how the term 'fake' is a plague in our community, when in reality what you are seeing (and those expectations people have of you) are incompatibility. 

 

Those are a few from my collection, but I have been told they are a great help to those just starting out. I wish you the very best and myself and a lot of people are always around if you ever have questions. Good luck and welcome to the community!

Edited September 13, 2018 by Little Illy

[Guest Arc]

Communication is so so super important. You really need to learn how to before anything else, because you need to be able to communicate these feelings to your daddy. Only he can settle your worries. You're probably doing great and only think you're doing bad, and it could help so much if he could reassure you that you're doing way better than you think. 

 

Personally if this was me... I'd either straight up ask these questions, or show him this post if you really need to. It's so much easier to be to the point because then they don't turn around and ask more questions and make it even harder when you're already struggling.