My Ex still wants to be my DD

[KelseyKarebear]

My boyfriend had broken up with me yesterday and he came over tonight to get some of his stuff at my house. We talked about what went wrong to clarify so it'd be a bit easier on us since we would fully understand the break up. He told me that in his heart he'd always be my Daddy (this is both of our's first DDLG relationship) and despite our status that he wanted to continue being my Daddy. He said he loves taking care of me and feeling the satisfaction of seeing me happy and the cuddles and kisses but we wouldn't be "together together". I asked if this would last until he found someone new and he told me if the feelings between us grow stronger then we can give our relationship another shot. But I feel like he wants a relationship with me but with no labels like "boyfriend/girlfriend". I don't know if I should continue letting him be my caregiver. I love him and he says he loves me and I really do want him to be my Daddy. I love everything about the lifestyle and I love having him as my Daddy. He's great. But I'm not sure if he's just keeping me around because he knows he can. Our minds are all over this place with this break up. I just need advice on what to do because I'm stumped.

 

(I'm sorry if this is in the wrong spot Admins. I was unsure wether to put it here or general discussions but I saw a post of unhealthy DDLG relationship and I figured it be okay to place here. I apologize if it is once again. I can move it."

[LizzTea]

I'm not entirely sure of your personal dynamic but it seems like perhaps he is keeping ties with you because he doesn't want to be alone, but it is your first dd/lg relationship and the ties can be really strong.

[SnowPea]

Right after a breakup is a fragile time to make a decision like that. You guys are both still trying to grip the idea of not being together.

It may seem like a quick, easy fix to the inevitable feelings of a breakup, but you need to give both of your minds a little time to realize that your old relationship is no longer.

Denying this may keep the relationship closed and festering into something even more confusing and painful. So at least give yourself some time.

If it's difficult to wait, then you know it may be an emotionally charged attempt to keep your reality unchanged.

[kittenminx]

That's a hard situation, but usually when a guy wants to keep you on that sort of level it's because they want to avoid being alone. On the other hand however, he could be realising that he doesn't want to lose you and is trying to find a specific way that could work for both of you but avoid the initial boyfriend/girlfriend label.

It's a waiting game with this one, if it feels right then go for it- give it a trial period and see how things go. But if you don't want to then that's also understandable.

 

I hope you're okay!