Getting my little back into being little

[Nixstormz]

So me and my little see each other one a week or two weeks due to school work and other things. Usually, when were together its fine she naturally snuggles into me and talks with a little voice and I get her blankets or food. Although things are great when in person she gets lost and sucked into how dumb life can be around her. I was wondering if anyone had suggestions as to how i can help her escape kinda show her im trying to be the daddy she needs. some days i feel like she's given up on me completely.... and that feeling comes even when we're in person sometimes. I have talks with her as to why she does this. She gives me a reason that makes sense but nothing constructive or helpful. I read a lot of the DDLG quotes and captioned conversations....and i want nothing more to be that for my little..but its really hard to talk with someone who never wants to talk and is always distracted by Instagram or Netflix. does anyone have ideas for me to help draw her attention to me and show her i want her in little space because i know that what's best for her at the time? thanks 

[CaresAlot]

One of the biggest drawbacks from all the instant gratification social media and other stuff is that it allows people to not have to talk to each other they can text.  When you are there these things go off.  If you want to watch Disney movie have it on disk.  That means it last for a specific amount all the time.  You need to find "Little" activities to do that don't require electricity.  You can color, build a blanket fort, have a stuffie party or play games.  You can find all sorts of outdoor actiivties to do as well.

 

I'm sure you've heard it plenty but expectations and communication will break or make a relationship.  As what was said in the movie "Coolhand Luke", what we have here is a failure to communicate.  You need to revisit these and find out where the two of you are at.  This has to be adult to adult.

[Guest infinitecases]

Maybe you can make a rule saying no distractions when you're together? You can phrase it as wanting to pay full attention to her and give her all the love she needs. That would be a good start to stopping her daydreaming away or getting distracted by her phone. 

 

After you've managed to take away all the devices that distract her, then you can work on coaxing her into being little with you and being happy/comfortable. I think it's very easy to forget what people are trying to do for us or to properly feel 'little' when we're stressed, perhaps try different techniques like babying her, complimenting her, in general being reassuring and bathing her in love! I'm sure you do already, but this time with no distractions for her. 

[Guest Arc]

Quotes and conversations like that are often staged and idealistic. Yes it's cute and you can do some things like that but I wouldn't be aiming towards something like that personally because a lot isn't real. Just be yourself. 

 

I don't know what to think of your comment about you wanting her in little space because you know what's best. There is also the possibility that she doesn't want to be in little space when it doesn't suit her. ._.

 

But.... Maybe to get her attention away from those things and into more little things you could ask her to draw or colour you a picture. Or you could use rabbit and watch some kind of cartoon or Disney film on netflix with her. You can still do activities that are "little" while long distance. 

 

But most importantly I think you need to get her to communicate. She's an adult and is perfectly capable of communicating. If there's something else going on she needs to tell you, or if there's something more she needs she needs to tell you that too. If she doesn't understand the importance of communication it's just going to lead to further issues ._.