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Okay so. I'm not sure how many others, if any, here have the same issue I do. But I have an inability to cry, as a side effect of my depression. I was wondering, if any others here have the same issue and what you do as a kind of substitute?
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I’ve totes experienced that. It sucks nuts.

Honestly, I couldn’t find a substitute or way to fix it aside from just stop taking them and deal with everything au naturale. Which I don’t recommend unless advised by whoever your specialist is.

 

That doesn’t mean it’s hopeless btw. I’m just a bad patient. ^-^”

I’m sorry to hear that’s what you’re experiencing with them, and hope someone else can be more helpful lol :heart:

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It's not from pills, or anything like that. It's a side effect of the depression itself
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I had the same problem. I toom sometime to myself like a day listened to music and let myself focus on my thoughts and than the flood gates just opened. 

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For me it never goes further than burning eyes then i swallow it up. Yesterday i did finally cry again after months, but its because of a very specific scenario and lasted about 10 seconds
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I'm the same way Aesthetic, I get the burning eyes and about ten seconds worth of tears. But I haven't had an actual cry in almost 8 years now
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  On 9/8/2018 at 7:45 PM, Waffle.Demon said:

I'm the same way Aesthetic, I get the burning eyes and about ten seconds worth of tears. But I haven't had an actual cry in almost 8 years now

I just simply don't cry for extended periods of time. Its not like im void of sadness or emotion. Its just. It literally feels like youre about to cry and something inside you goes NO and bam just like that you compose yourself and shrug it off. Its such an odd sensation

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[Trigger Warning]

 

  On 9/8/2018 at 7:45 PM, Waffle.Demon said:

I'm the same way Aesthetic, I get the burning eyes and about ten seconds worth of tears. But I haven't had an actual cry in almost 8 years now

 

When I was at the climax of my depression, after an attempt I had made myself and hospitalization where everyone now knew how bad I was mentally, I could no longer cry. I had been given 2 of the hardest pieces of news in my life and everything happened at once. It was as if I had used up all the hydration to cry and no longer had anything left.

 

That started around Sept 2013. And that winter, we lost our pug. He was 13 years old and my best buddy. I didn't she a tear (and yall know how I am with puppies). I held him before my parents took him to the vet and I just couldn't cry. I wanted to. I desperately needed to, but it didn't happen. To this day, I do not forgive myself for not properly mourning one of the best puppers I have ever had. It eats away. 

 

My depression did that to me because it was mentally strangling all other emotions; grief, hurt, support, love (from my family), understanding, care, all of it. Depression does affect your senses as well as normal body function (sleep, hunger, etc) so the inability to cry is not all that unheard of. I am not saying its easier knowing that, but I am saying is that you are not alone. Those with true depression (vs those who had a bad day) have probably at point experienced this without even realizing it. You know those moments when you look around you and its like... your life is literally crumbling into ruins yet you just sit there? You don't actively help yourself, but you don't hurt yourself. You just take everything in, but don't give anything back. Why? Because that takes energy.

 

All of these functions require energy - Depression zaps your natural energy and any in reserve. This is why things like crying, laughing, caring... why they all become so hard to deal with during depression. I would recommend seeing a professional, as I always do. But also know you have a support system right here waiting for you if you need it, Demon.

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I have the same issue, I think it's more of an inability to relax. Crying is a natural venting mechanism and because I have a stress disorder I can't relax and the mechanism isn't triggered. Maybe it's a similar thing with depression.
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my daddy has this problem and we never really figured out why he can't. he just...hasn't been able to for years. it's concerning.

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I've had this many times before. The tears feel like they're right there but it doesn't happen and it's soooo frustrating. It's almost painful having that burning and it just staying there ._. 

 

Mine's only every lasted days or weeks, never years, so I don't really have any suggestions since mine always kinda just came back. Maybe if you see a professional you could bring it up with them. ^^

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  On 9/9/2018 at 8:10 PM, ArcOfInfinity said:

I've had this many times before. The tears feel like they're right there but it doesn't happen and it's soooo frustrating. It's almost painful having that burning and it just staying there ._. 

 

Mine's only every lasted days or weeks, never years, so I don't really have any suggestions since mine always kinda just came back. Maybe if you see a professional you could bring it up with them. ^^

The way you described it is very accurate. The tears are trying to push their way out but this mixture of a conscious and subconscious choice just says no.

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For me, it's probably that I never truly relax. It's also because I know if I do, someone will hear and then they'll ask why. And that is not an option. No substitute, I just don't.

 

I can't really offer any advice. I wish you well.

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It nice to know I'm not completely alone. Although I do wish you all didn't have to go through the issues you do/have

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