Too sad for little/middle space?

[Guest xxmixedgirlxx]

[PrinzeCharming]

I am sorry you experienced this. Have you checked out the Resources with some advice (SFW) on ghosting? There are plenty of supportive people here who will share their stories with you, and encourage you to surround yourself with what makes you happy in your little space without thinking about him. Yes, it takes a bit of self-esteem building and guidance but you'll get there. You have to associate your favorite things with positive people in your life. I have a favorite beard balm that I love using, but every time I smell it, I think of being in my ex's apartment. It sucks, and I am still not over it, but it takes time. Surround yourself with better vibes, a supportive network, and you'll eventually get your mind off the past. Good luck! 

[Guest xxmixedgirlxx]

Thanks (PrinzeCharming) I somehow missed that post. I'm been trying to work on feeling better about myself, definitely not easy. I'll be okay eventually though . I hope you'll be able to heal as well.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

You’re hurt at the moment. You’ll get better eventually and be able to get back to the things you enjoyed doing again, by yourself.

 

I can’t go into detail since my Daddy is a member on the site (he didn’t do anything wrong, it’s just personal), but there was a period of about 6 months where I felt similarily about Little Space or DDLG related activity in general. It was just depressing and made me sadder.

 

But life goes on, things and people in our lives change. If you want to heal your feels, you will. Don’t get trapped in a bubble of sadness and self pity. It got better for me, and I feel it’s safe to assume it can for you too. It’s just going to take time, like with any hardships or breakups with people we build relationships with. Y’know?

[Guest xxmixedgirlxx]

You’re hurt at the moment. You’ll get better eventually and be able to get back to the things you enjoyed doing again, by yourself.

I can’t go into detail since my Daddy is a member on the site (he didn’t do anything wrong, it’s just personal), but there was a period of about 6 months where I felt similarily about Little Space or DDLG related activity in general. It was just depressing and made me sadder.

But life goes on, things and people in our lives change. If you want to heal your feels, you will. Don’t get trapped in a bubble of sadness and self pity. It got better for me, and I feel it’s safe to assume it can for you too. It’s just going to take time, like with any hardships or breakups with people we build relationships with. Y’know?

Thanks, I'm just trying to take it step by step. I've managed to get over other breakups so with time hopefully I'll be able to get over this as well.

[prince eefy]

this happens to me whenever i am having a really really bad night. it sucks. dont worry, you will heal!

[Maids]

I'm so sorry you went through all of that, that's really shitty and no one deserves to be ghosted. You have to remind yourself that it's not your fault for what had happened, you entered the romantic interest with maturity and hopes to have a conversation with an adult, have the relationship handled maturely. It's very disrespectful to just up and leave without an explanation, even if you did do something wrong, you deserve to know if you did something wrong just so you're not spiraling with questions left right and center. 

 

I understand how you feel when it comes to regressing when you're upset, sometimes I do that too, but it usually happens when I don't understand something. I had this bad habit of not allowing my little-self to grow from these events and instead sheltering her so she didn't understand why x person suddenly up and left. I even did that with friendships that didn't work out. I would understand the situation, but my little-self didn't. She was still sitting there wondering "Why bother coming out when everyone just leaves shortly after I come out to meet them?" having many questions swirling around in her head that is preventing her from concentrating on her activities she had infront of her. Perhaps you're doing the same thing? 

 

You're completely okay to feel this way, to miss your ex Daddy, but remember that they are an ex for a reason - sometimes we have habits when we're upset to only focus on the good things that people did and neglect their wrong doings. Attempting to reach out to this ex in hopes to rekindle things, latch onto someone else, or find a new Daddy to fix this problem for you, will only result in a bigger void which may end up harming your little-self more. The long-term way of fixing this issue is to acknowledge it, take some deep breaths, don't fault yourself and beat yourself up - try to learn from it and let it shape you into being a stronger and better you; please take some time for yourself to seek out other possible interests. Give yourself a pamper day: take a hot bubble bath and bring some squeaky bath toys in with you, give yourself a bubble hat and beard, then when you get  out of the bath, lotion yourself up with some calming scents and make yourself smell really nice (self-confidence is key in times like this!), put on your favourite clothes and do whatever you can to make yourself feel pretty, paint your nails, do your hair up in new hairstyles; try out dancing and watching cartoons that you watched in your childhood. Take some selfies in littlespace so you can look back and know how good you felt that day, it'll help you create fonder memories of the past.

 

Perhaps reach out to other littles, friends, family, to help you stay grounded and have some human interaction. Or, if that's not your forte, I'd recommend investing in a notebook either a virtual one or a physical one. I have a unicorn notebook that I got at the dollar store to jot down my personal thoughts that I don't feel comfortable sharing with anyone, not even my Daddy. It will help you feel like you're able to release all of those feelings and acknowledge them at the same time, rather than just shrugging it all off and hoping it will go away in time. Yes, time does heal all wounds but you'll feel much more confident, stronger, and better if you take it upon yourself rather than letting time take it's course. 

 

Lastly, never, ever, ever forget that your little-self is a part of you. It's not going ANYWHERE. The amount of times I have been a mega pessimist and told my Daddy that I don't feel my little self anymore and that I'm unsure that I'm still a little - he reminds me that she is a part of me and no matter what she will always be there lingering waiting for the right time and the right place.  She's never gone and she never will be. No one deserves the right to stomp out a piece of your beautiful personality, you are much stronger than you think you are; take your little self by the hand fearlessly and remind eachother that it's going to be a-okay! 

 

I hope this helps a little bit, and yes, you will definitely feel little again! What I did when I was going rough times with my ex Daddies, I would scour through Tumblr and find self-care checklists, even if they weren't directly made for me, it still made me feel little and submissive to be reminded and told what to do. Sticker charts rewarded by your big self to your little self whenever you complete a day's of work. It will help strengthen the bond between yourself and your little self by doing that. I wish you the best of luck and please remember, you're never alone! It's really hard to let go of a relationship and be ghosted in this dynamic. This dynamic is very vulnerable, that can either help you grow into a better you, or knock you down momentarily. There's better and more mature Daddies out there who won't ghost you, you deserve to be cared for, respected, and appreciated.

 

Good luck and I hope you feel better!

 

             

Edited September 8, 2018 by Maids

[Guest xxmixedgirlxx]

 

I'm so sorry you went through all of that, that's really shitty and no one deserves to be ghosted. You have to remind yourself that it's not your fault for what had happened, you entered the romantic interest with maturity and hopes to have a conversation with an adult, have the relationship handled maturely. It's very disrespectful to just up and leave without an explanation, even if you did do something wrong, you deserve to know if you did something wrong just so you're not spiraling with questions left right and center. 

 

I understand how you feel when it comes to regressing when you're upset, sometimes I do that too, but it usually happens when I don't understand something. I had this bad habit of not allowing my little-self to grow from these events and instead sheltering her so she didn't understand why x person suddenly up and left. I even did that with friendships that didn't work out. I would understand the situation, but my little-self didn't. She was still sitting there wondering "Why bother coming out when everyone just leaves shortly after I come out to meet them?" having many questions swirling around in her head that is preventing her from concentrating on her activities she had infront of her. Perhaps you're doing the same thing? 

 

You're completely okay to feel this way, to miss your ex Daddy, but remember that they are an ex for a reason - sometimes we have habits when we're upset to only focus on the good things that people did and neglect their wrong doings. Attempting to reach out to this ex in hopes to rekindle things, latch onto someone else, or find a new Daddy to fix this problem for you, will only result in a bigger void which may end up harming your little-self more. The long-term way of fixing this issue is to acknowledge it, take some deep breaths, don't fault yourself and beat yourself up - try to learn from it and let it shape you into being a stronger and better you; please take some time for yourself to seek out other possible interests. Give yourself a pamper day: take a hot bubble bath and bring some squeaky bath toys in with you, give yourself a bubble hat and beard, then when you get  out of the bath, lotion yourself up with some calming scents and make yourself smell really nice (self-confidence is key in times like this!), put on your favourite clothes and do whatever you can to make yourself feel pretty, paint your nails, do your hair up in new hairstyles; try out dancing and watching cartoons that you watched in your childhood. Take some selfies in littlespace so you can look back and know how good you felt that day, it'll help you create fonder memories of the past.

 

Perhaps reach out to other littles, friends, family, to help you stay grounded and have some human interaction. Or, if that's not your forte, I'd recommend investing in a notebook either a virtual one or a physical one. I have a unicorn notebook that I got at the dollar store to jot down my personal thoughts that I don't feel comfortable sharing with anyone, not even my Daddy. It will help you feel like you're able to release all of those feelings and acknowledge them at the same time, rather than just shrugging it all off and hoping it will go away in time. Yes, time does heal all wounds but you'll feel much more confident, stronger, and better if you take it upon yourself rather than letting time take it's course. 

 

Lastly, never, ever, ever forget that your little-self is a part of you. It's not going ANYWHERE. The amount of times I have been a mega pessimist and told my Daddy that I don't feel my little self anymore and that I'm unsure that I'm still a little - he reminds me that she is a part of me and no matter what she will always be there lingering waiting for the right time and the right place.  She's never gone and she never will be. No one deserves the right to stomp out a piece of your beautiful personality, you are much stronger than you think you are; take your little self by the hand fearlessly and remind eachother that it's going to be a-okay! 

 

I hope this helps a little bit, and yes, you will definitely feel little again! What I did when I was going rough times with my ex Daddies, I would scour through Tumblr and find self-care checklists, even if they weren't directly made for me, it still made me feel little and submissive to be reminded and told what to do. Sticker charts rewarded by your big self to your little self whenever you complete a day's of work. It will help strengthen the bond between yourself and your little self by doing that. I wish you the best of luck and please remember, you're never alone! It's really hard to let go of a relationship and be ghosted in this dynamic. This dynamic is very vulnerable, that can either help you grow into a better you, or knock you down momentarily. There's better and more mature Daddies out there who won't ghost you, you deserve to be cared for, respected, and appreciated.

 

Good luck and I hope you feel better!

 

             

This made me tear up a bit, thank you. It was something I really needed to here. I really started getting into little space once I met him, so naturally that part of me was used to him. Big me and little me has a bit of "growing up" to do haha. ❤️

[Guest xxmixedgirlxx]

this happens to me whenever i am having a really really bad night. it sucks. dont worry, you will heal!

thank you ❤️

[Guest Prat]

You'll be fine, you just need time.

[Guest xxmixedgirlxx]