Talking turn offs?

[LeftyGuitar]

Well for me being ghosted is a big one. I also saw some that said people leaving during a middle of a chat or tuning out. I get that too. I mean I get that people get busy, but come on, if you're not interested or losing interest, just say so, it will save us both time, espcially if its early in the chatting phase. I also don't like short replies when it comes to persona messages. I'm fine when its texting or IM'ing. But if its a personal message or something, at least write a paragraph. At least 2 or 3 sentences at a bare minimum. Its the lack of effort that upsets me when it comes to communication/messagining.

[PocketSand]

Answering with one word and taking a whole day or longer to reply. Makes me think you don't really care. 

[Guest DrKraves]

I feel for a little bit of everything here, my main thing is lack of communication and I feel the current dating generation is so used to ghosting as an option for closure that it bothers me. I'm pretty chill and realize people's feelings change and as an adult I am not gonna throw a tantrum at someone telling me they lost interest. It's tough out there though and I get the easy way is of course easier to take than one of understanding.

[quietbunny]

An instant 'ick' is when someone says "So when do I get your attention?".....EW. Any sort of attraction or even respect I had for that person is instantly gone. Especially if we recently started talking. Like bro, I have a life. I have responsibilities and relationships and things to do and I met you like 2 days ago!

[Ancientad1992]

I know this has been said before but one word answers definitely. There's no way to build a conversation on that and I'm asking questions over and over, makes it feel like I'm interviewing the other person lol.

 

Another thing is not asking questions about me, it'd be nice to be asked about my day, my work, my plans etc. It will just show there's some interest there about me as a person.

Edited April 27, 2022 by Ancientad1992

[Sunshine Daydream]

Something I’ve realized I really don’t like are when people clearly only want to talk/are interested in you when they’ve been drinking or it’s late at night. I know things happen and at first it may be funny…. I do my best to make people feel comfortable but when it is a clear pattern it just starts to seem rude.

[ChrisM9128]

Well, doubt standards are a turn off. For example if one says that they hate one word responses and generic responses, expect good conversations but speak in one word responses, generic responses and can't keep a conversation going. 

 

Lack of good Hygiene habits. 

 

Treating ddlg dating as amazon shopping... They collect multiple matches, speak to everyone, lead some of them on, finally ghost most of them and speak to one or two till they meet someone better. 

 

Also... People who say something because they want to speak, not because they have something worth saying. 

 

Also, constantly talking about their past experiences with exes or others.

 

A big turn off is when a little asks for attention and whines/complaints about not having it 2 days into a conversation. However they twist it around and call out a daddy dom for asking for time to talk. 

 

Basically there's way too many double standards. 

Edited May 9, 2022 by ChrisM9128

[Nymph]

@lilly____it's ok to have standards and preferences, which I am sorry to inform you is most of your "turn off" list, if we were going to list that, mine is hell of a lot longer. My friends also think I am impossibly picky btw XD

Turn off for me:

1. One liners
2. Not using paragraph breaks or commas.
3. Try to get sexual super fast
4. Asking for pictures every single day.
5. Clingy guys and drama queens

[chris23102310]

For me it is a turn off when I get not the same effort back that I am putting into the conversation. If it be for a potential partner or just friendships.  I wanna see that the person I am talking to puts the same effort in getting to know me and interest in my person than I do. 

Because effort and attention is not a one way thing. Even if you are shy or not that conversation starter just put effort in when getting questions and at least answer and ask back. 

If I ask a lot of questions and never get a question back I loose interest. 

[Erasmeus71]

@Nymph I have a writing problem. If that is not obvious to you by you now. I have had girls try to go real fast on here fast. I am not in the mood.