How to get back into littlespace after having a "bad daddy".?

[Lostlittle25]

For a year I was o in an anusive relationship with a "bad daddy". I'm findin myself in a rut where I desperately want to get back into littlespace and live the lifestyle with my new Daddy.

 

He's a very good daddy and I love him very dearly. He takes very good care of me and does his best.

 

But I'm having a lot of trouble with getting into the swing of it. Things that used to make me little now have little impact and I don't know what to do.

 

He has been able to get me into littlespace, but the problem is getting myself there and staying there like I want to be. I try my best to follow tasks given to me, but it gets hard as I forget or simply have no energy to do so.

 

What do you suggest.?

[TheRealSugaBaby]

I completely understand what its like to have an abusive daddy. It's hard to try to get back into littlespace  after something bad happens to you like that in a ddlg relationship. Something that I found that helps me get into littlespace is laying down on the floor surrounded by stuffies and snackies watching my favorite little show. It wont always work on the first try but after sometime I would find myself slipping into littlespace and being happy. 

[PrinzeCharming]

I am sorry you experienced this in a ddlg relationship. I am glad you found a daddy more appreciate and caring. As SugaBaby mentioned, surround yourself with the most perfect littlespace possible. Surround yourself with everything that makes you happy. If you keep thinking about what's outside your window, you need more stuffies to block it! If you can't make this happen over night, browse through the Internet searching for "littlespace" ideas. For example, try Pinterest. It takes time to heal, but you're already heading in the right direction. We're proud of you. 

[Guest Arc]

Just relax and give it time. Don't try force things - let them happen naturally. If you focus on not being able, or aiming to try for longer then you'll likely end up frustrated if it doesn't work out, and that will make it harder to try again.

 

Try small things you like and just relax and have fun. Have the end goal to be enjoying yourself rather than doing X for Y amount of time. I'm sure you'll get there with time. Just be yourself and it'll happen when it's ready ^^

[Maids]

I've been through my fair share of "Bad Daddies"... it honestly felt like I would never regain my littleness back, that when they left, so did that part of me. 

 

But what I have noticed is that if I consciously remind myself of the last time I was in littlespace and how long it's been, it will only drag me down more and will end up with me feeling "broken" or "that I must do it or I will not be little anymore" if you catch my drift? If you're constantly reminding yourself "I haven't been in littlespace in a month", you are putting somewhat of a rushed time frame on your littlespace, you'll start to think negatively; which will not bring out your little space.

 

Littlespace ruts happen, everyone goes through them - right now I'm going through a tiny one myself where I don't find much enjoyment in colouring anymore, for some reason. The fact that I don't know what is causing it is driving me bonkers, but it will only make matters worse if I keep pondering on it. Just remind yourself that ruts happen and that it's completely okay to go through them... try out new things with your new Daddy so you don't feel like you're doing the same thing that you did when you were with this abusive person, the weather is pretty nice where I am - don't know about you... but maybe try chalking? Get some new playdoh toys? I found this new passion awhile ago where I absolutely adored making kids craft pillows and random craft toys from Indigo (Chapters? Not sure... it's a Canadian store I think!) Remember that this doesn't make you broken or that you will never find the things that once made you feel little, that you will never find them pleasing again.

 

Whenever I go through ruts and I have been through really bad ones where I told my Daddy "Maybe I'm just not a little anymore... " because I felt SO disconnected from my natural behaviours due to stress, busyness, just overall crappy life scenarios... my Daddy always reminded me that no matter what I say, I will always be a little because it is a part of me. My little self is a part of me and since I was 16 years old, I have felt her slowly growing with me. I don't know you personally, but that may apply to you. Sometimes even when there is absolutely nothing wrong, I randomly snap out of littlespace when I didn't want to leave and then I get rather sad... but the last thing you want to do is try to throw yourself back in that mindset, just take a deep breath, occupy yourself for a little bit by watching something more... middle, so you can gradually come out of that mindset. It will make it more welcoming to come back to and perhaps it will stick around longer. When I dated a bit of a shit-bird, he made me feel as though my littlespace was unwanted and he wanted big me more than my little self... it hurt really bad and even to this day I still struggle with the thought of "is it okay to come out right now...? are you sure? is this going to make Daddy mad? what if he wanted big me?" 

 

I don't know what you've been through, so I'm not making any assumptions - just know you're not alone and perhaps you need to have a little chat with your little self because maybe she's feeling rather insecure and unresolved, you may feel okay... but does your little self feel okay?

 

You're not alone! Keep trying and do not give up!