help - nothing makes me feel little?

[caramilkee]

hi all

 

I’m relatively new to the community! I've been browsing the site for a bit (also tumblr) because I think maybe I could be a little.

 

but, it turns out that nothing really makes me feel little or go into little space, not even traditionally ddlg things like being called kitten, or pink, or dolls.

 

any thoughts on this? maybe I’m actually just not a little?

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

There is a topic posted in the Resources section of the site that may be helpful for you. It gives loose definitions of different roles and identifiers for Littles/Subs with a CG.

 

“Types of Littles”

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11032-types-of-littles/

 

There are also lots of topics throughout Little Space asking similar if not the same questions. Those may help give you some insight into whether or not you consider yourself to be a Little.

 

And some member-made topics that may also help you:

New here and feeling out of place.

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/34256-new-here-and-kinda-feeling-out-of-place/

 

Little Space but NOT Little Space

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33762-little-space-but-not-little-space/

 

Definition of being a Little (member interpretations)

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/14927-definition-of-being-a-little/

 

Defining Little Space (also member interpretations)

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/581-defining-little-space/

 

Is it normal NOT to be deep into Little Space?

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/34807-is-it-normal-to-not-be-deep-into-little-space/

[Guest Niet meer]

Being little has nothing to do with hanging on to what is traditionally seen as "methods" for being little.

It takes a lot of soul searching to find the inner motivational thoughts and cravings that make you want to be a little girl.

Those motivations can then lead to behavior that can be an outlet for those thoughts and cravings. You will find them somewhere within yourself. Not over night but over time!

Edited September 5, 2018 by MeneerM

[PrinzeCharming]

Welcome to the Community!

 

There are plenty of resources for you to read. Just remember - breathe, smile, and have fun. It's a lifestyle of self-discovery. As Meneer mentions, it takes time to discover your inner ddlg role. You don't even have to find a specific role. DDLG isn't designed to bake up a batch of cookie cutter relationships. What makes you feel young and rejuvenated? What helps you escape the big bad world? Many adults want to put down everything and stop adulting for a bit. What helps you step back from paying bills and back into a mindset of freedom and no responsibility? Everyone has something, whether it's going to the park, casino, reading a book, going to the beach, watching an old television show, or even visiting a toy store (just not around December).

 

First, take a moment to question what you could possibly do to make your life happier? Do you find yourself requiring more time for yourself? Do you see yourself caught up in giving too many "ducks" about silly things that waste your time, money, and energy? Are you invited to events that you couldn't be bothered with, and would rather do your own thing? But you go anyway? DDLG is a great community to drop everything, and focus on you.

 

Good luck! Feel free to reach out to our great staff and members for advice. 

[caramilkee]