Little -dar? Daddy -dar?

[OceanPaintr]

So most of us have heard of gaydar, which is the ability just look at a person and know if they are gay or LGBTQ or not. Some people are really good at this (I'm not).

 

Is there a similar thing in the ddlg world? Can someone just tell if someone else is a little or a Daddy or a Mommy just by looking at them?

 

I ask because I know a little who was identified by another little.

[Quirkygrl16]

I think there is lol

[Guest Dulci]

Yeah, I think there is also!

 

I've got two RL friends which I am pretty sure they're in a DDLG relationship; it's just not a close friendship where I can be all "hey! are you guys into DDLG"? XD But, eh. Maybe one day it'll come up, if not, it's not something I need to know anyway  

[Guest lilprincess1703]

My ex said he knew I was a little the first time we met! 

[Guest Aetherr]

i'm sure if you spend enough time in the lifestyle you will know the traits of a little and a dom and be able to identify them easily... the real question is, do they know about it or not...

[alwayscurious]

My little friend and I have speculated on some people being little or not, particularly amongst artists we like (singers, writers, poets, visual artists), where it's a little easier to hint at that without being overt. Living in a fairly conservative part of the country, I haven't met anyone who clearly seems to be little, but it would be nice. I'm also not very social IRL, so my little radar doesn't get much testing. XD

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

I don’t tend to be presumptuous about peoples lifestyles like that. There’s plenty of adults out there who display dominant or submissive behaviours and know nothing of bdsm let alone ddlg.

 

The only time I’d think “they’re a Little” or “they’re a Daddy” is if it was legit a couple out in public, calling each other Daddy or babygirl or something. In which case I’d be a lil cringy about them not being terribly discrete lol

[Guest TheQuiet1]

I think so. I remember hanging out with a friend and his friend, and I could tell his friend was kind of child-like - then a few minutes later she started talking about her daddy. This same friend also had mentioned to me that I'm rather childlike and I think he was hinting at me being a little (this was before I even really knew about it).

 

So I think if you're someone who's in the community or knows about the community, you'll likely be able to pick up on certain "little" or "daddy" characteristics. Regardless of whether the person knows about/is in cgl.

 

Just like I've heard stories where littles or daddies have come out to their partners only to realize their partners were into it too and were either scared to mention it or didn't know there was a name for it. Because if you're a little you'll probably be attracted to those with "caregiver" personalities and same goes for caregivers being attracted to those with "little" personalities.

 

It's not difficult to determine if someone seems like a caregiver or seems like a little, especially if you know them a decent amount.

It's just a matter of whether or not that person wants to identify with those labels.

[Little Illy]

I don't know about radar, but I may think a magnetic force is more apt.

 

After I was confident in my little side (last year) and I was finally comfy that this is the life I wanted, I started realizing that the littles and CGs started flocking to me, online and IRL. Almost all was platonic, but they started copying or emulating my mannerisms (which are inherently little) so much so that I got my entire office to decorate my best friend's desk in plastic dinos.

 

I think what happens is that if you are open about even small parts of your identity, people will naturally come to it if they are of the same creed. I wore bows, I had a rainbow purse with little fangirl merch stuck to it, I went on about puppies and dinos and etc. And by the time I left work, my supervisor was giggling like a school girl (he is a man) with me and constantly showing me funny animal photos during work hours. My other friend constantly brought me little things that made me happy - a plastic puppy, a cool pen, a holiday plastic ring from a cupcake, etc and then my other coworkers actively engaged; there is a coloring contest, Illy, thats right up your alley! Oh! How adorable! You're Belle for halloween (they then continued to treat me like a princess for the day). 

 

No one knew I was little, except my supervisor, yet everyone just kinda naturally reacted to my littleness. Were they little? Were they CGs? I don't know and I wont assume. What I think happened, was they found an innocent way to encourage innocent behavior. Adults rarely get to express any innocents they may have, so it is always a shock to see it and sometimes it is endearing. So people get protective or excited to join.

 

Which is why I don't think there is a radar but rather, a magnetic pull.

Edited September 3, 2018 by Little Illy

[Guest Arc]

Many people I know in my local community always assumed I was a domme, and I'm as far from dominant as you can get lol. So I don't think so. Maybe if they're quite open and obvious about it, but I don't think there's a way to accurately tell what someone is by looking at them. You might get lucky sometimes but I doubt it would ever be often enough to be statistically significant lol