Likes/comments on social media

[Little_lauren]

I just wanted to know fellow Little’s feelings on their daddy/mommy liking and or commenting on someone else’s(of the same gender as you).

 

My daddy has known this girl for a couple years (before I was in the picture). They never dated or anything, they just have a really good ddlg friendship. With that being said, she posts some naked pictures on her social media and my daddy likes and comments “gorgeous” or “you look stunning” yet I never receive any of those comments from him. I’ve brought it up to him because being his little (with anxiety), this worries me a lot that he thinks she’s gorgeous and not me. I just wanted to know your opinion. Tankies!

[Guest Aetherr]

my opinion is if he is making comments like that despite your worries and you have told him you don't like it then he clearly doesent respect your feelings i am sorry to say

from the little information you have given atleast

[Guest AMS23]

That’s kinda sad he doesn’t at least tell you that too. I believe you can have plutonic relationships and appreciate the human body and others beauty. I also believe if you told him about it and how it makes you feel he’s not respecting your wishes. The only thing that is wrong here really is not complementing you as well. He should make sure you are feeling sexy too is say talk to him again.

[Guest Arc]

I don't really have any feelings towards it, to be honest. There's nothing wrong with it, and the only reason you'd have any concerns or doubts is if you're feeling insecure or the relationship lacks trust. But that's a relationship issue and not an issue with liking photos. 

 

I think sometimes people in relationships kind of forget that those are still important things to say to your partner. Like they think it's implied that they prefer your body to the ones in the photos because they're with you and not them. I'd sit down again and try communicate with your partner again. Make him listen and discuss things that would help you feel more securre, but don't be over the top about it. If he cares he'll make sure to understand and try, and if he does nothing... well that says a lot imo. 

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

I sure as sh*t wouldn’t like it, and would be sure to let him know that :”> for the rest of our lives.

 

The way I see that sort of stuff is- if you’re doing something that upsets your partner, try to stop doing it. It’s not going to hurt him to stop complimenting some rando chick he’s not in a relationship with, but it IS hurting you for him to continue.

It can’t always work out that way, but in instances like these I don’t see why he can’t be a bit more sensitive in catering to his Little/partner.

 

That said though, I’m oversensitive atm ‘cause sick and pains. I could tear a throat out right about now. ^—^

[Guest BabyGlitterMilk]

I try really really hard not to be jealous or overly clingy. I know I can be possessive and it can be bothersome. But watching something happen that clearly hurts me or makes me uncomfortable and not saying anything about it? That’s a sure fire recipe for disaster. I would try to work up the courage to bring it to your Big’s attention again. You don’t like it so try to make it more clear. If you can’t say it as little you, try to say it as big you. Otherwise you’ll just hurt yourself and your trust if you let your worry slide.

[Little_lauren]

Thank you so much for the advice. It isn’t hurting me as much as it did during the first couple months of the relationship to now so I think I’m coping with it more but it still aggravates me that I can’t get those comments back, even when I compliment him. I’m gonna talk to him again and see what he says

[Maids]

Little late to the party but...

 

 

 

I would hate that so much.

 

Yes I am a very insecure person and I try not to put my Daddy through anything unnecessary if I can get a reign on my insecurity.

 

I have mixed feelings on this though...

 

Firstly, let's start with the bad... 

He doesn't seem very respectful, he knows you have anxiety yet he's still doing this - he clearly hasn't talked about it with you and asked you "Are you okay with this? I don't want you to force you to get over things that  you don't feel comfortable with". Guarantee he wouldn't like it if you did that to him but with another guy, I'm not saying you should, just to be spiteful and petty - but his ego would be damaged and he wouldn't feel too great.

 

I understand if this friend is insecure as well and needs a bit of compliments to feel good about herself, but is he only commenting on the naked photos of her or is he commenting on plain selfies too? If he's just commenting and liking her nude photos, that's a red flag. I'm a firm believer that if you're as insecure as you claim to be, why post nude photos? That takes a lot of self-confidence to do, in my opinion...  but, if he's only commenting on her nude photos, it's a red flag that there may be some underlying attraction there, that maybe he isn't aware of himself. I don't know if these two grew up together, but if I saw my Daddy commenting on crap like that with someone who he has known for a lifetime, he'd have some explaining to do.

 

Does he know you can see this? He's doing it right infront of you, right? So... maybe he's doing it out of being an ass or because he has nothing to hide? Maybe he's super oblivious to what you could be thinking and is just trying to support a friend by commenting things she likes to be told. But, it's not fair at all to you that you aren't getting rich compliments like that. You should get waaaay better and more compliments than she does because you're his little!

 

I understand that we are all human and we are all attracted to other human bodies whilst in a relationship, there's nothing wrong with that - it's human nature! Human bodies are beautiful! But I know that if I request my Daddy to not throw it in my face how 'gorgeous' x is or how 'hot' x is... I know he will respect me and not say it infront of me. This is a relationship; a relationship is a two way street and if he's not willing to sacrifice something and expecting you to just go with everything he does and that he doesn't need to make some changes to himself, then it's not worth it for you. I've spent so many years bending backwards over for people, changing myself, making up excuses for people's shitty behaviour/attitude and tried to change myself to make it hurt a little bit less. You don't have to stand and deal with anything you don't want to.  Yes, relationships are supposed to help you grow with trust challenges and whatnot; but some things are a little ridiculous and shouldn't even be in the equation; he's not single, so there should be no problem with requesting him to stop complimenting her naked photos. If he wants to do that so bad, be single. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Especially when he's not stroking your ego too.

 

On the flip-side; as Arc has mentioned, he is with you, not her. If he wanted to be with her, he would be with her. 

 

This is all just my opinion though, sit down with him and discuss what's going on with you and what's going on there.  Everyone's different with how they handle relationships and I hope yours is concluded with a healthy resolution that leaves you both satisfied.  Try not to accuse him though, you don't want him to feel like you're cornering him and he has to do it in secrecy which will make it super shady so...

 

Best of luck to you! Hopefully with me being late to the party, by now you more than likely have had this situation sorted with him... 

 

 

               

Edited September 6, 2018 by Maids