not sure if ddlg is for me?

[caramilkee]

hi everyone! 

 

so i've been in and out of the community for a past while, mostly browsing tumblr and reading blogs. 

 

sometimes I feel like, hey, I could totally be a little! but other times, i'm not quite so sure. i've also never been in little space which is something I read a lot about online. I feel like if I could go into little space, I might be able to know if I am a little or not. 

 

if anyone could help me decipher this confusing thing i'd really love and appreciate it! (also, I think having some little friends would also be amazing, if anyone wants to be friends!) 

 

thanks to anyone in advance for any replies and advice.  

 

 

[Guest Dulci]

Not everyone has a little space, I know some that never enter it. It's not a qualifying factor that makes you a little; for me, yes I have little space BUT little me is part of big me and vice versa. I love things that would be considered child like (again, not a requirement for being a little). It's just part of my personality. 

 

Have a look through the search bar, because this question has been asked so many times by fellow confused/unsure people. Also, have a think about why you like or are interested in DDLG. I think that might help answer your question and give you some clarity. 

 

Remember, there is no right or wrong way. Just be yourself. You don't need to fit into this view of "what a little is" because a little may be;

Someone who hates pink/glitter

Someone who doesn't use a paci/nappies/bottle 

Someone who doesn't use baby talk

 

Just to give a few examples of the most common tropes of being a little  

 

Use the forum, like I said earlier, have a search around. As you won't be the first or last to ask this question :3 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

my very firm feelings on this matter are simple;

 

if you feel like you might be a little, then you are.

 

there are no real requirements, just some common, shared themes for /some/, but not all, folks. as long as you are over 18, then you have all you be to be a little! your variations do not hinder you in any way!

 

it doesn’t matter what guidelines you don’t think you reach — i promise there are other littles who feel the same way. you can even choose not to identify as a little, but still feel connected to this community and feel as though you may have a small aspect to you, like myself.

 

try not to stress about checking off boxes, and focus on the feeling. good luck!

[Guest NappyDragon]

Hi caramilkee,

 

Please please don’t let other peeps experiences and loves define anything.

 

Tell us some of the things you do like (little or otherwise) and if you are by yourself or with someone that cherishes you and wants you to be yourself would you do anything differently?

[Soulmatesearch]

I havnt read the replies.

But...

 

My advice wouldn't be too read too much into someone else's experiences.

Things like. What age is your little, I find all that a little bit of a fad.

 

It should be something personal to you. And really just take the aspects of being a little that you want/like/need.

 

So personally.

I like some abdl aspects.

Like my babygirl having a dummy, bottle, even nappies if she likes.

For me I wouldn't want a crossover into out sexual Life.

But I don't the baby talk and the acting like a baby, especially the ones that want it 24/7

Not judging. It's just personal for every single person.

 

You may only like a slight element of being a little/babygirl.

 

Maybe you need a patient understanding daddy to try some things?

 

I wouldn't stress though.

It's all about you and what you want and if you only take a slight element from all of this. That's all you needed

 

Good luck xxx

[Frog]

Without being too personal, what aspects of "little" attracted you most?

 

As others have said, some littles or middles don't go into little space. You might just be a little who doesn't. Like babyjellybean said, don't worry about checking off boxes. I wouldn't worry about it. 

 

I'll be honest... A lot of Tumblr is... well... it can be good or it can be sketchy.  

[caramilkee]

Hi caramilkee,

 

Please please don’t let other peeps experiences and loves define anything.

 

Tell us some of the things you do like (little or otherwise) and if you are by yourself or with someone that cherishes you and wants you to be yourself would you do anything differently?

 

hiya! thanks for the input! (and also, thank everyone else for the inputs and for being so kind and welcoming <3 ) 

 

it looks like you have a question, but I couldn't quite figure out what you meant by it   I dont know if it was a rhetorical question or if my english is just bad,,, could you say again what you meant? 

[caramilkee]

Without being too personal, what aspects of "little" attracted you most?

 

As others have said, some littles or middles don't go into little space. You might just be a little who doesn't. Like babyjellybean said, don't worry about checking off boxes. I wouldn't worry about it. 

 

I'll be honest... A lot of Tumblr is... well... it can be good or it can be sketchy.

 

I think a lot of the things that attracted me was maybe things like stuffies or being able to have interest in younger things? (such as crafting, cute colours, stickers, etc). but at the same time I wasn't sure if I was into these things because I was a little, or because I live with 4 younger siblings (12 and under) and I just spend so much time with them that I was automatically conditioned into liking the things they like. 

 

but I think, hearing everyone say I dont need to tick off boxes is very reassuring, because often on tumblr I read a lot of things like babytalking, or pacis, or other common things that I personally didn't quite enjoy and felt that for those reasons I wasn't a little.

 

i'm still unsure, but everyone's responses helped a lot and it's awesome that there is such a unanimous stance that littles dont need to conform to any standard! I see a lot of people terrorizing others on tumblr and saying things like "then you're not a REAL little!" so I think I love this community already because everyone is so accepting  

[BrattyLittleKitten]

you don't have to like things like pacis and baby talk to be a little, you can be a little in whatever way you want. I don't do all the usual little stuff either, I don't baby talk or pastel, I'm punk and like leather and wear all black and my little age is on the older side but I'm still a little. I'd say you just need time to try it out and see if it's right for you.

[Guest NappyDragon]

hiya! thanks for the input! (and also, thank everyone else for the inputs and for being so kind and welcoming <3 ) 

 

it looks like you have a question, but I couldn't quite figure out what you meant by it   I dont know if it was a rhetorical question or if my english is just bad,,, could you say again what you meant? 

Just be fabulous you

 

No one should have to tick boxes