I feel out of place

[Veronicamarie]

I feel like Daddy and I are out of place within the BDSM community as a whole, but more specifically as DD/lg.

We are involved locally in a few groups including little scouts and DD/lg meetup groups (to go have fun and play like laser tag and stuff), but it seems we are the only ones in the entire community (including littles and their Daddys) that are monogamous.

It bothers me so much I almost don't want to go to any events anymore and just stay home with Daddy. And to clarify, I'm not against others being poly it's just that Daddy and I aren't and it feels like we are oddballs. It's almost like expected that we be poly because everyone else is. I dont want to share my Daddy and I know He doesnt want me with anyone else either. *sigh* I guess im trying to find out if we should just drop out of things and it just be us.

[Guest chubby_marshmallow]

If it makes you feel that uncomfortable, you could just keep it between you two if you want, but keep in mind that you don't have to be like everyone else to be part of DDlg or BDSM. The lifestyle is what you make it! There's no code or set of rules that says you must be poly to be a part of the community. The dynamics are as varied as the people who participate in those dynamics.

[PrincessAurora]

your local community might just have a higher number of poly couples. but there are plenty of monos around the communities. we have tons here. and there's even tons in my own local community.

 

no ones expecting you to be, it's just more commonly accepted among the community and a bit more open towards it.

 

You guys have a closed relationship and that is totally fine. that is what works for you. don't let anyone make you feel bad over your relationship style <3

[Guest CollateralBeauty]

Firstly, I just want to say that you should do what is comfortable to you. Don't judge your relationship based on the standards of other people's relationships. If you are always doing that, you'll never be happy.

 

Secondly, I'm in a monogamous relationship. You're not the only one. It may feel like it, but it's not true. So, again, do what you're comfortable and happy with. There's no point in being in a relationship if you're not happy with it. So if a poly relationship doesn't make you happy, don't do it.

[Guest DuckDaddy66]

My partner and I choose a monogamous relationship. we are very happy with our choice.  So go have fun with them but go home together <3

[BabyBird0891]

My partner and I choose a monogamous relationship. we are very happy with our choice.  So go have fun with them but go home together <3

DD66 is correct, we dicsussed a possible poly situation at first, but never followed up on it, and as our feelings grew for each other, we talked and agreed neither one of us would be comfortable sharing the other. So we are mono and happy about it. Don’t let others relationships make you feel like you have to do this in a particular way. Maybe it’s just your local group that’s like that? Maybe look for another group with more mono couples?