Help me, I’m so lost and confused

[LittleBear_1198]

I need help. So I’m completely new to all this and I’m confused of who I am. I’ve read that I have some traits of being a little but i want to be sure of if I am or not. I’m terrified of storms. I constantly crave to be held or cuddled for comfort. I sleep with a stuffed bear that I’ve had my whole life literally. I do have child like tantrums whenever i don’t get my way. I color whenever I get stressed. I prefer not to go out in public and when I meet new people in person I tend to shy away and try to hide behind whoever I’m closest with if one of my friends are there or not. Please help me. I’m so confused.

[Guest Prat]

What are you confused about exactly?

You think you're a little but you're unsure if you meet the "standards"?

Well if that's so then I have 2 things to offer.

Firstly, there's no such thing as standards to meet to be labeled a little..

And secondly, you're most definitely a little..

Hope that helps ease your mind a bit and if I'm completely off, feel free to comment.

[Guest little_ballerina]

It's more about how you feel/identify rather than what you do (even if many littles like similar things). There is no standards/expectations/one-way. Everyone's different. If you feel/identify as little, then you're little (same thing with middles).

 

I don't do any of the paci/coloring/Disney/cartoons/mountain-of-stuffies fun stuff that littles frequently do. I identify as an older little (or younger middle) age 8-11 and prefer to dress accordingly. Although, like you, I don't like going out in public (scary world), I like to be close to self sufficient in practical (I-can-do-it!) ways -- I can be brave and big when I need to be. More than anything, I'm very Daddy obsessed and needy for him emotionally. This 'Daddy's girl' doesn't do tantrums, has few rules, doesn't need punishments. I still see myself as little, no problem.

[CaresAlot]

Now that you have a good idea that you are a Little - what's next.  Figure out what your expectations are.  What things do you like and is there an age or ages that you like best.  Some have multiple ages depending on what they feel like that day.  Do you want Little friends and/or a Caregiver/DD?  You can be a Little without a Daddy, but a Daddy isn't a Daddy without a Little.  Thats because Daddy is a title that you give to somebody that meets your expectations.  Don't let somebody tell you that they are your Daddy.  They are only a potential Daddy and its for you to decide.

 

Two recommendations.  One read as much as you can in the different areas.  Knowledge is power.  Two - get some Little friends, they will have lots of good information for you plus somebody fun to play with.  Hope you are less confused and have some direction now.

[Guest Revurex]

I think you may find yourself in a less confused headspace by specifying things that you want rather than labeling what you are. What makes you happy? What do you fantasize about? What would the perfect relationship look like? What do you find comfort in? These are just a couple examples. After answering numerous questions like these and educating yourself the confusion will start to dissipate and who/what you are will become more clear. Lastly, try not to view yourself as lost or confused but rather on a path of discovery. Embrace it. 

[Guest Arc]

There's no set way to be a little. No checklist of requirements you have to meet. It's more about what you feel than what you do. Everyone does things differently. Just be yourself and if you feel like a little then you are one. It's pretty simple. ^^

[Guest Clearemu]

If you feel like you’re a little, you are! There’s no checklist that has to be 100% checked off! With that said, you’re on the perfect forum to help explore the little lifestyle more, and learn more things, learn what things you are/aren’t into. Plus, you can always feel free to message me if you ever feel you need someone to talk too or have questions/concerns.