How to explain to your boyfriend?

[dinolyf]

hi! I'm 18 years old and since I was about 15 I've been interested in this ddlg stuff. Back then it wasn't so much the sexual part, more the "little" stuff. To make a long story short I've had a rough childhood. I feel like I grew up way too fast and I don't remember much from my early childhood. Today I have a boyfriend that I've been with for around a year, and I love him to pieces! But I don't know how he'd react if I suggested this to him, and I don't have any idea how to explain my need to be a "little" in a way that wouldn't weird him out. Or can I do it in a way that he wouldn't notice too much? I just don't wanna freak him out! He's very understanding normally but this is kinda "far out" for "normal people". I obviously don't think it's weird, but I know what I felt like the first time I was introduced to it. Also we already do it a bit though. He loves taking care of me and all that stuff, and at the same time he loves dominating when we have sex, so it's not totally new for us. This is kinda hard to even type out, I've never talked about this to anyone and honestly I never thought I would do something about it! Lately I've just been having this urge to express myself as a little! I've made a seperate tumblr from my main one, but I don't wanna keep secrets from him, especially not now that I feel like it's a part of me. I hope you can help. <3 

Sorry if this was confusing to read, it was very confusing to type as someone who's kinda new to all this and also don't speak English as their first language.

[VanillaAlpaca]

I also want to apologize before hand for my possible mistakes typing this ヾ(｡･ω･｡) as much as I want to help with your problem, english is neither my first language. But I can promise you I'll try the best of me to share my personal experience — and, hopefully, giving you the best advice possible to this situation ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

 

When I found out about this dynamics was when I was two years immersed on a great relationship with the man who today is my Daddy (◐ω◑ ) 

 

When I found out about this dynamics was when I already was on a relationship (◐ω◑ ) with the man who today is my Daddy — it started as a joke, me calling him "daddy" because I always have been the kind of brat who likes to bother people on a playfully way (*´꒳`*) but it was developing to something more... And none of us knew what was that about! 

 

So we researched together, discovering this amazing universe ❤

 

The most important thing we learned together was communication, as stupid and obvious as it can sound for someone (◡‿◡✿) those are the basics. Not just for DDLG dynamics but for every little thing you have to face with him in the future — that's a matter of trust! ❤

 

I can't promise you he is going to accept it without prejudices or he isn't going to be shocked at first ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ we are littles, but not silly — but maybe he can learn a couple of things about the dynamics of a DDLG relationship that makes his mind change, if he isn't open to new things, and you always can say that you were honest about what you expected. Research together, read together about it, discover together and have fun together (◕‿◕✿) that's the best way to introduce him, as basic as it sounds. 

 

So ask him to have a conversation about a serious matter for you, and explain how are you feeling about your relationship ヾ(｡･ω･｡) tell him that you want to try dynamics, explain him every doubt he can have about DDLG... 

 

At the end of the day, you're the person who knows best who he is (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤ so you'll know if my advice is worth it or not.

 

There are amazing (and more experienced than me) people on the forum ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ so maybe someone can offer you a better advice than this.

[TwilightSparklez]

VanillaAlpaca basically summed it up. You need to communicate as two adults. Be very clear in what your needs and wants are going into the conversation and make sure you have a clear definition for questions you think he might ask.Just always keep in mind you cant force someone if after explaining things they decide it's not for them.