Age gap relationships

[Guest SifuTheWolf]

I'm 55 and my babygirl is 34 = 21 year difference. She had 3 children before we got together, ages now 13, 10 and 5. We have been together almost 3 years, the first 2 as a ldr and the last year+ in person. We have now decided to try and have a baby together. Are you in an age gap relationship or anything similar to ours?

[sullenDaddybones]

Several age gap relationships here. They're in their 30s, the only real consequence of having a child is your longevity ... 20-25 years should be pretty good for a kid at least minimally. Though when he or she is 15 you'll be in your 70s so think about that. I couldn't take care of a kid right now and I just hit 40 a bit ago. If you are very vital, don't smoke, drink and eat well. Well, maybe you can play ball with them at 72... My Dad is barely able to drive at that age!

 

Most age related bias is in 'looks'. Nobody really cares about being equals in their level of personal development this day and age.

 

Love is love if you got it and it's legal I say go for it! But be brutally honest..

[baby_k]

Not personally but followed couple like that (mainly their chidren). Was not too great as youngest kid was still teen when the dad started to need looking after and had dementia like state... The youngest kid never had change to have normal childhood and grow up into an adult in peace.

 

I would also recomend looking into studies about old fathers (40+) and the risks and issues that can cause to their kids health (if offpring can be produced anyhow. It is myth that men can always have children at any age: fathers age has big impact even mother's is bigger).

 

So, age gap: that is your bussiness only. But I would recomend doing some learning before mixing others into it (==getting the new kid).

[Guest Kerjin]

I'm 56 and my little is 31. She has 4 children from her ex. We are only LDR at the moment although we are working on plans for IRL soon. We have also spoken about children of our own.

 

All I can say is that there is a bit more planning and such that needs to take place with the age difference rather than if y'all were of the same general age.

[Guest littlemarmar]

My Daddy is several years younger than me, and it's working out fine. I think it has more to do with temperament then age. There are plenty of grandparents raising children, so I'd say it depends on whether you're healthy and have enough desire for it. Also, your maturity will likely give you more patience and level-headed wisdom than younger parents. If it's not something you want very badly, I wouldn't do it. Your ambivalence WILL come back to haunt you (and your little). Parenting is difficult enough even for those of us who love kids. It will test your mettle more than any other challenge on the planet. But if you're sure it's what you want, and you've got more love and patience than you know what to do with, and enough resources to take care of them without too much stress, I say go for it . 

 

-MarMar

[Guest SUeB]

We met almost exactly a year ago (it's our anniversary on Wednesday!)

He is now 70 and i am 47. Over 23 years difference.

That is a gap that i would have never considered before Him. In fact, when He first messaged me, that was exactly what i told Him. Sorry, just too much of an age difference.

But then i saw His picture and read His profile and VERY quickly reconsidered! We laugh about that now.

Fact is, most men His age aren't physically fit or healthy enough to sustain the type of relationship that i craved.

Physically active, sexual, and one that would last forever! No apologies if that sounds shallow or ageist, it's just a fact, and me being practical and realistic.

He is NOT your average 70 year old. We go long distance walking, go on bike rides of anywhere up to 40 miles together (and He easily beats me up big hills, lol), we enjoy a very regular and mutually satisfying sex life, and He regularly gets mistaken for someone at least 10/15 years His junior. We also go on weekends away in His motorhome, and have been away on a few walking holidays. This November we go to Tenerife for our first holiday abroad!

Our relationship is amazing. Never before Him have i ever had more fun, more laughter, and felt such a pure sense of love, joy and peace. And oh, how i worship and adore Him.