Is it possible to take things “too slowly”???

[Guest DavidK21]

Hi, a little context here. I’m a caregiver, over the last couple of months I’ve been looking for a little and I’ve had a lot of success getting responses from people, and starting conversations with people. In a lot of cases everything seems to be going reallly well. Conversations run smoothly and don’t feel awkward or forced (at least not to me). However I always prefer to take things slow, really get to know someone before ever entering a relationship because I feel starting a relationship with someone is a major deal. Usually after 2-3 weeks though I’m being ghosted. I don’t tend to talk about anything sexual unless it’s brought up by the little as I feel other things are more important and if we’re not local, it could potentially be a while until we needto cross that bridge. I also don’t want to sound like I have alterior motives.

 

So my question is it possible I’m taking things too slowly? Or maybe getting too personal with other people. Any advice would be well received. Thank you.

[xBabydollx]

I would say no. u just have to find someone who matches ur pace. I am very similar to u in the sense that I like to really get to know ppl before being all "yeah I'll be ur little" because if I don't know u like that, then why would I want to commit to anything with u (my prospective anyway). u can go as slow as u want with ppl and if they can't respect that then they aren't a good fit imo. Just because a relationship is a major deal to u or something that takes a lot of time to build, doesn't mean it has those same values or necessary steps for other ppl. Find someone on ur wavelength. Communicate how u are and how u like to do things from the beginning and see if they have the same stance as u.