Kaiser Posted July 23, 2018 Report Posted July 23, 2018 it does not show any. please explain how her cheating makes her the dom? like i think you should stop cuz you are not helping and even botherd people who wanne help Simple....she cheated on you. She used you, per your own admission. You took her back. You're here asking how to make things better with her. I mean....hello......
Little Illy Posted July 24, 2018 Report Posted July 24, 2018 OP - Cheating is such a hard topic to bring up for the obvious reasons. Cheating is probably the biggest grey area in the world of relationships, and no I am not endorsing cheaters. But cheating happens for many, many reasons. When I was volunteering for work with peers at college, I met a couple where he had cheated on her. I was a peer-counselor and between talking to both of them, I learned very quickly that cheating is rarely ever just about sex. And there is a fairly large proportion of cheaters that cheat due to mental imbalance in some areas. To put it simply, they truly believe cheating may help in a way. Kinda not knowing the difference from right and wrong. AGAIN - I DO NOT ENDORSE CHEATING! And a majority of cheaters are just assholes. But there are plenty of cases where cheating is a byproduct of a current situation. And trying to understand her roller coaster through you - I would believe more that the cheating was a result from whatever she has going on mentally. It honestly sounds like she doesn't have any independent stability and it is crashing down on her. I recommend you save all of those emails and any texts or other documentations. Then you politely disengage. Explain it is not good for you and certainly not good for her to continue down this path and its best if you both split. If shit hits the fan, be prepared to disclose everything you have saved. I hear how hard it is to essentially have your sub rip your heart out. And I know how hard it is to try to mend those pieces back together afterwords. My best advice in all of this is to try to stabilize your identity, your needs and your mental health (and maybe physical health). Once the dust has settled, step up and try again. That is all anyone can do. But give yourself a period of adjustment. Don't feel like all is lost as that is not the case, it just may feel like it right now. If you ever need anything, feel free to PM me.
Frog Posted July 24, 2018 Report Posted July 24, 2018 the thing rn is i honestly just want it to end like the back and forth really she emaild me and i asked her what she wants so we can end this en yet no answer so it seems she is avoiding it so yeah. She won't end it. For whatever reason (psychological, evil, whatever) she will not end this. The only way this will end is by you taking charge of the situation and your life and stopping all contact. Block her on all your social media, block her text messages, put a silent ringtone, everything. If you don't end it yourself you're inviting a long life of heartache. You'll end up making a stupid mistake, probably hurt yourself trying to get her back, and just be her toy. 1
novadesu Posted July 24, 2018 Author Report Posted July 24, 2018 Simple....she cheated on you. She used you, per your own admission. You took her back. You're here asking how to make things better with her. I mean....hello...... you dont know the backround of the whole situation this thread was never on how to make things better with her at all it was to why do i care and should i care. once again you do not know what you are talking about at all. i didnt just take her back just like that when we had a fresh start. the more you talk really makes me think you have no idea what a dom and sub relationship is about or what a relationship is about in a whole or how people can still feel this way after the other person hurt them. i advice you to not respond on this thread any longer 1
novadesu Posted July 24, 2018 Author Report Posted July 24, 2018 (edited) update on what happend she gave me an answer saying that me and her were never gonna be a thing again so i said okay and gave her some advice and wished her the best. she really took it wrong and then said that she was planning on talking with me and taking it slow meaning about wanting to be with me wich at this point blew my mind so hard and confused me. to top it off at the end she said ''i told you what i want and you dont want that or me so fuck it'' so yeah in about 5 min she whent from not wanting anything with me to was going to take it slow and then to saying i dont want her not much to say about it really Edited July 25, 2018 by novadesu
novadesu Posted July 25, 2018 Author Report Posted July 25, 2018 OP - Cheating is such a hard topic to bring up for the obvious reasons. Cheating is probably the biggest grey area in the world of relationships, and no I am not endorsing cheaters. But cheating happens for many, many reasons. When I was volunteering for work with peers at college, I met a couple where he had cheated on her. I was a peer-counselor and between talking to both of them, I learned very quickly that cheating is rarely ever just about sex. And there is a fairly large proportion of cheaters that cheat due to mental imbalance in some areas. To put it simply, they truly believe cheating may help in a way. Kinda not knowing the difference from right and wrong. AGAIN - I DO NOT ENDORSE CHEATING! And a majority of cheaters are just assholes. But there are plenty of cases where cheating is a byproduct of a current situation. And trying to understand her roller coaster through you - I would believe more that the cheating was a result from whatever she has going on mentally. It honestly sounds like she doesn't have any independent stability and it is crashing down on her. I recommend you save all of those emails and any texts or other documentations. Then you politely disengage. Explain it is not good for you and certainly not good for her to continue down this path and its best if you both split. If shit hits the fan, be prepared to disclose everything you have saved. I hear how hard it is to essentially have your sub rip your heart out. And I know how hard it is to try to mend those pieces back together afterwords. My best advice in all of this is to try to stabilize your identity, your needs and your mental health (and maybe physical health). Once the dust has settled, step up and try again. That is all anyone can do. But give yourself a period of adjustment. Don't feel like all is lost as that is not the case, it just may feel like it right now. If you ever need anything, feel free to PM me. also ofc i woul want to talk with you abiut it further i can then also forward some more things
Little Illy Posted July 25, 2018 Report Posted July 25, 2018 also ofc i woul want to talk with you abiut it further i can then also forward some more things I am always here - FR accepted. I have to sidebar though - Im glad you saw bad advice for what it was... bad advice.
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