Need advice about my Daddy

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

So I have a Daddy that I really don't get to see and he doesn't talk to me much. Like goes 3 days to a week without talking to me but will read my messages then gets upset when i dont ask for permission to do things. Should I find a new Daddy?

[Guest Beards_for_Weirds]

Yes, you should.

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

thanks for some adivce. its been hard on me because i dont feel like a little with how hes been. he says hes busy all the time

[Guest bunnybear11]

:c he doesn't sound like a good daddy, sorry you have to go through this

ddlg is like any other relationship, both people involved should be invested in the relationship, otherwise it doesn't work

[neko]

Girl you should have been gone ages ago. It doesn't seem like he wants to give you the time of day for whatever reason but still wants to have you around. You don't need someone like that

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

:c he doesn't sound like a good daddy, sorry you have to go through this

ddlg is like any other relationship, both people involved should be invested in the relationship, otherwise it doesn't work

he doesnt seem like he is. when he does talk to me he just gets onto me about everything that ive done wrong and goes back to basically ghosting me.

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

Girl you should have been gone ages ago. It doesn't seem like he wants to give you the time of day for whatever reason but still wants to have you around. You don't need someone like that

he hasnt been my Daddy long and i have just given up on talking to him

[Guest bunnybear11]

he doesnt seem like he is. when he does talk to me he just gets onto me about everything that ive done wrong and goes back to basically ghosting me.

 

honestly you deserve someone better, good luck with it xx

[PrincessVanellope]

Yes, id find a new Daddy.

Talk to him, let him know how you're feeling, give him a chance to change ( if youre willing to).

If he doesn't, move on.

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

Yes, id find a new Daddy.

Talk to him, let him know how you're feeling, give him a chance to change ( if youre willing to).

If he doesn't, move on.

thanks for the advice. im just gonna find a new daddy since i dont think he'll change

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

honestly you deserve someone better, good luck with it xx

thank you. he just doesnt deserve to have a little like me

[Guest LittleMapleBear]

I think it depends. Did you clearly negotiate what was expected when you agreed to this dynamic? Have you attempted to sit down and clarify the roles and responsibilities within the dynamic? If you like this individual as your Daddy, if you enjoy each other’s company, you get along well, then why not try to work things out rather than throw everything away?

 

Maybe the two of you aren’t a good fit, but you’ll never know if you walk away. Plus, you won’t get the opportunity to exercise good negotiation and communication skills. It may very well be he relationship is not a good match, but if you at least try to make it work, and it still doesn’t meet your needs, at least you did you’re best, and you gained valuable experience to take into your next relationship.

 

I wish you the best!

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

I think it depends. Did you clearly negotiate what was expected when you agreed to this dynamic? Have you attempted to sit down and clarify the roles and responsibilities within the dynamic? If you like this individual as your Daddy, if you enjoy each other’s company, you get along well, then why not try to work things out rather than throw everything away?

 

Maybe the two of you aren’t a good fit, but you’ll never know if you walk away. Plus, you won’t get the opportunity to exercise good negotiation and communication skills. It may very well be he relationship is not a good match, but if you at least try to make it work, and it still doesn’t meet your needs, at least you did you’re best, and you gained valuable experience to take into your next relationship.

 

I wish you the best!

he didnt do this when we first started the relationship. i think we arent a great fit

[Guest Arc]

I won't tell you what to do because that's not my place. It's your decision alone. 

 

You haven't told us much about the history or if you've tried communicating this with him or even why he doesn't reply for days. If you haven't already, try telling him how this makes you feel and that you'd like him to put in more effort into the relationship. If you have tried this and he hasn't tried... then you need to think if you're willing to be in a relationship where you put in twice as much effort as the other. I can't speak for everyone but for me that would be frustrating and I would be unhappy. 

 

In my opinion I think it's rude when people don't reply for days. It takes less than a minute to send a short message, and if a person won't spend a minute on you then I think it's indicative of the effort they're willing to put in. 

 

The final decision is entirely up to you. If you think it's worth putting effort in then do that, and if you have any hesitation or doubt to putting in hard work then I think you know your answer. Do whatever makes you happy. 

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

I won't tell you what to do because that's not my place. It's your decision alone. 

 

You haven't told us much about the history or if you've tried communicating this with him or even why he doesn't reply for days. If you haven't already, try telling him how this makes you feel and that you'd like him to put in more effort into the relationship. If you have tried this and he hasn't tried... then you need to think if you're willing to be in a relationship where you put in twice as much effort as the other. I can't speak for everyone but for me that would be frustrating and I would be unhappy. 

 

In my opinion I think it's rude when people don't reply for days. It takes less than a minute to send a short message, and if a person won't spend a minute on you then I think it's indicative of the effort they're willing to put in. 

 

The final decision is entirely up to you. If you think it's worth putting effort in then do that, and if you have any hesitation or doubt to putting in hard work then I think you know your answer. Do whatever makes you happy. 

i have blown his phone up so many times to where it got annoying for me to even try to talk to him. he sent me a message saying he would explain everything but still hasnt. im just extremely unhappy with how things have been 

[Kaiser]

thanks for the advice. im just gonna find a new daddy since i dont think he'll change

 

 

Don't just find a new Daddy. Find the right one for you.

 

Ask yourself......Are you looking for the idea of a Daddy, or your true Daddy?

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

Don't just find a new Daddy. Find the right one for you.

 

Ask yourself......Are you looking for the idea of a Daddy, or your true Daddy?

im looking for my true daddy. thank you for the advice

[CaresAlot]

Some of the basic things a Daddy should be providing and if not then you may need to look elsewhere.

 

A Little should always feel loved and cared for.  If you are in an LDR then this means communicating at least daily if not more.  Communication does not require long time on the phone as many of us lead busy lives.  You can send a good morning thinking of you in less than a minute.  Longer discussion as to what you've been doing and are planning on doing.

 

A Daddy should be a provider.  Not a sugar Daddy provider, but one that provides praise and makes sure his Little is healthy and happy.  See that she gets surprises to make her feel special because she should be.

 

A Daddy should provide rules (discussed at start of relationship) to make sure his Little is safe, healthy and secure.  when rules are broken then there are consequences, but there is also Aftercare to make sure that the Little still know she is loved and cared for. 

 

Trust is the most critical element in this relationship.  It takes time to build and a second to break.  Not calling and having no "real" reason is a breach of that trust.  A Daddy should be a Little's anchor and this one has left yo a drift at sea.

 

So as we say in Texas, here's how the cow ate the cabbage.  We don't know everything, but I can't see that you are getting any of this any more.  He is what I call a Booty Call Daddy - not necessarily sexual, but he wants to do some of the Daddy stuff when he gets the urge.  He just wants the quick and easy things like telling you what you are doing wrong.  You deserve more than to be a Booty Call Little.  I'm not saying what you need to do but words to him like sayonara, adios, asta la vista, au revoir, aloha or as we say in Texas don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.  (You deserve better).

 

Before you go looking figure out what you want and interview your next potential Daddy with these expectations in mind. 

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

That was really helpful. He’s never done the aftercare when I broke rules and a lot of other stuff. Thank you so much

[Guest Prat]

So I have a Daddy that I really don't get to see and he doesn't talk to me much. Like goes 3 days to a week without talking to me but will read my messages then gets upset when i dont ask for permission to do things. Should I find a new Daddy?

That's definitely not a healthy relationship.

Ddlg isn't about the little pleasing the Daddy whenever he wants it. You're a person too and you have your own needs and desires.

Have a talk with him, see if he's willing to work on it and then if he doesn't even try to change anything, say bye bye. The further away you are from such "Daddies" the better.

[Guest SUeB]

He's not your daddy, he's just some dude that talks to you every now and again when he's bored and wanting female attention. Sorry. Move on.

[Guest LittlePrincess21]

That's definitely not a healthy relationship.

Ddlg isn't about the little pleasing the Daddy whenever he wants it. You're a person too and you have your own needs and desires.

Have a talk with him, see if he's willing to work on it and then if he doesn't even try to change anything, say bye bye. The further away you are from such "Daddies" the better.

He sent a message last night saying he was gonna explain everything but hasn’t.

[Guest SUeB]

He sent a message last night saying he was gonna explain everything but hasn’t.

His behaviour and lack of communication and interest explains all you need to know.