Unwelcome?

[cutie_patootie]

I joined this site three and a half months ago with the intention of using the chat room for conversation and possibly meeting a new Mommy.  I had a Mommy from a different site but it appears that I've been abandoned, maybe she's just too busy or just no longer wants to be involved with a lesbian little.  I have no idea which it is but that's a moot point and not the purpose of my post.  I've found over the past month or so that whenever I enter the chat room, I'm lucky if even one person bothers to say hello.  The entire room appears to go silent or people leave within a minute of me entering.  I can't think of anything I've done wrong and to the best of my knowledge, I've said nothing to offend anyone.  I feel so unwelcome.  Is it because I'm a lesbian and looking for a Mommy instead of a Daddy?  I'm really quite confused and wondering if I've made an enormous mistake by joining this site.

[Tiger Striperino]

It really depends upon what time of day you get on the chat. Most of the people on the forums are really nice and welcoming, I can pretty much guarantee it's nothing against you personally, it really just depends on if the chat is dead.

 

However, I may recommend opening up a bit when you get on the chat, that way people get to know you.

[Guest Miss Braid]

It's actually really common for the chat to be quiet and awkward. Just keep checking back until there are people to talk with

[Guest Sae]

Its not you. The chat room can be really quiet.  And sometimes when you come in someone is leaving. I haven't been on for awhile because I took a personal break because I felt like no one liked me on here. But its not true, people do like you. I hope you stay, but if you leave thats okay.

 

I'm bisexual, I have no issues with lesbians on here. Your allowed to want someone to be your caregiver and your allowed to want a mommy. If someone is making you feel like you can't have those things or you feel like you are being singled out for being a lesbian please contact mod staff so they can help you.

[Guest CookieDoughDarling]

I feel like this a lot too.

I came here to find people like me, that understand me, but I feel kind of left out.

Many tend to stick with their own little group, but I suppose it's because they've known each other longer? *Shrugs*

I do sometimes feel like they don't take the time to try and make a new friend. Yes, I do get hello's and such, but never any deeper conversation.

Then I remember..this is a site full of LITTLES.

They aren't paying much attention to you, because each is seeking their own. They all want to get their own issues, conversations, and sharing thoughts, daily life and such out.

 

I think the key to making friends on this site is to make a personal post for friend finding maybe. Or perhaps finding someone you have stuff in common with by looking through entertainment and hobby posts.

I am a shy little myself, so I haven't really done what I just suggested. Perhaps I should.

 

As for being a lesbian, there are no issues with your sexuality. There are plenty on this site of every sexuality. I don't think it's that at ALL.

[MaybeTarquin]

I totally know how you feel but you just have to put yourself out there and talk to people. When I first joined I knew people here could be friendly but at the sametime the chat was a bit off putting for me because how quiet it can be sometimes. Also, I'm a boy Little and I felt that they weren't nearly as popular as girls (silly stigma, I know!). I'm super shy but I reached out to people and slowly I'm making some wonderful friends, it's hard but it's worth the time. By the way if you ever need to talk  you can friend and message me. c:

[Guest buddhagirl]

I'm new, too, and that chat can be a bit confusing/weird-feeling, so it's not just you. I'm glad you're here-I'm bisexual and think that the more diversity in the group, the better. You can always talk to me!

[cutie_patootie]

I just wanted to thank all of you for your advice, I will take it to heart and try to be more patient in the chat room.  I'm not a fan of cliques though due to their exclusive nature, which IMO is so wrong in a place that is supposed to be inclusive.  Still, I will try harder and hope for the best.

[Guest Sae]

I just wanted to thank all of you for your advice, I will take it to heart and try to be more patient in the chat room.  I'm not a fan of cliques though due to their exclusive nature, which IMO is so wrong in a place that is supposed to be inclusive.  Still, I will try harder and hope for the best.

We can always talk if you wish Cutie <3 

[Cherry41]

I thought the same thing when I first tried the chat....only I'm a straight 40 yr old, so I thought it was because I was older than most on the site. It's not anybody or anything about them. Sometimes two or three people will get to talking...then one has to go...then it goes quiet...and if nobody else says anything, people log out at random. I understand how you would think that though...as some chat rooms really are cliquish....so you kind of expect it.

[cutie_patootie]

Thank you Princess Sae; it would be nice to chat with a fellow Canadian... well, I'm British-Canadian anyway (first ten years of my life in England, the last thirteen in Canada).