Need help with my little girl.

[DemonWolfie]

My little got spinal surgery and is unable to do most active activities unlike normal people. She needs something for us to do that makes her feel little that is active such as Disneyland, but after the surgery things that make her happy and feel little was taken away from her because of it. Is there anything that we both can do as an activity that makes her feel when she is in her little space. like after she realized that she couldn't do anything that required of the ride or any of the characters at Disneyland she broke down crying because she felt like she was being punished and in trouble and no matter how much she explained to me, I didn't understand why. So any ideas would be helpful at this point so that she would feel less insecure about them. all of this is really hard for her, no matter what im going to try to help her but anyone's suggestion would be helpful at this point. Thank you all.

 

 

[TimidLittlePupen]

I've had family members and friends who had back issues and so I know that sometimes it's hard to understand why they feel like they were bad, or like they were recieving a punishment, but it's sorta like this: They haven't done anything wrong/bad, but here they are hurting, and having things they enjoy taken away in one degree or another, it can feel like they are being punished for some unknown reason by some unknown force and that can be devistating on the mind. In a way, it would be like walking up to a random child that you don't know, that's eating candy/playing with something and taking it away from them and scolding them for no good reason.  The child didn't do anything bad/wrong, but here they are being punished by someone unknown to them for a reason they can't understand.

As for little activities and such? Well you could have a little day:surprise her with a new stuffie and one of her favorite treats, make her lunch and cut it up, cuddle with her, brush and play with her hair, have a movie marathon with all her favorite little movies/shows?

Playing her favorite little board games/video games.

 

Doing cute little crafts together.

 

Making her stuffies talk to her and playing pretend.

 

Maybe surprise her with a toy/stuffie/item pertaining to her favorite Disney character, and tell her this is for the best little girl/pet name in the whole wide world (make it to where the gift/treat helps her see it as a reward for just being her, this may help her feel a bit better on the mental note of feeling like she's being punished)

 

Sit down and color with her (if she likes coloring, for me if I'm having trouble feeling little if my momma or partner sits down and offers to color/draw with me it make me feel small and like I'm their world)

 

Paint her nails, or let her paint yours for the day (it can always be removed with nail polish remover but sometimes its fun to do your partners nails in cute/little styles)

 

I'll try to think of more, but I hope these at least help. I wish you good luck and hope she feel super better soon

[LittleCelticLass]

As a little, who also has had spinal surgery, I feel like I can understand where she is coming from.

 

A lot of what she can do that is "active" will depend on the type of surgery she had. During my recovery year (Yes, year) I learned to enjoy being active by taking nature walks, going to the Zoo, and eventually riding bikes. You can be little and do all those things, I have.

 

I hope she recovers quickly.